is it okay to lie???? about your previous partners....?

Question

if a woman has been with well over 25+ men, is it okay to lie to your new partner and tell him only 3 if thats all that i have ever cared about or loved?

Answer 1

Sure!

IS IT OK IF HE LIES TO YOU????

LOL!

You little girls are a screaming laugh riot.

"Honey, I really liked/ loved only 3 guys in my life" . . .

. . . . But "I was a whore for the other 22+".

I guess that means a guy has 7X as many chances to get laid by a woman who doesn't really CARE, huh.

Interesting statistic.

LMFAO!!!!

Answer 2

Considering he's probably been with that many or more, why bother? He might be shocked, but if he's realistic and you are clean, than what does he care? Just means you have that much more experience, right? And plus, how freaked out is he going to be if/when he finds out the truth? There is a huge difference between 3 and 25+. If you are going to lie, get as close the real number as possible, that way you can at least say "Oops, forgot about him. He was thaaat bad!"

Many guys out there have this strange need for all women to be both virgins AND experts in bed. What they don't seem to realize is that you can't be both. Period. Either he can see you as pure and innocent, or he can appreciate what you bring to the table.

Answer 3

Absolutely! You can definitely lie about how many partners you've had. Of course you can also lie about anything else you don't want to disclose about yourself to your new partner because your afraid of his reaction. In fact, why not make up a completely false identity for yourself and only share that imaginary persons experiences with him. Deceit on any level in a relationship is dangerous, and it can ultimately be the death blow to a relationship if is concerning something of importance. As long as you want to continue adding notches to your bed post then by all means continue to be deceptive. When you are ready to face reality and have a meaningful relationship then that's when you need to start being honest in all aspects of your relationship, including the ones that are uncomfortable to admit and talk about.
I think a little bit of maturity will do wonders for your love life. Good luck, and I hope you make the right decision.

Answer 4

If you're going to lie about this, don't lie big. 25+ down to 3!!!!

That's not likely to last long. Basically you shouldn't lie about it at all. But I understand that some guys don't handle the truth about his terribly well. But if you've been fairly active, don't pretend that you weren't. Something will give it away, and then you will have lied to him as well as slept with more people than he thought.

Answer 5

haha, Im interested to hear your responses. I am rather liberated and have a VERY high libido. Thus I have a list that is according to that. My partner doesnt want any part of my history, is horrified at the thought of me having ever been with anyone else. Is very traditional. Im ok with my life and most of my choices, and dont understand why he is so "prudish." I prefer experienced partners, and relish in the fact that he has a history and has enjoyed sexual experiences. So i find it hard to understand. I mean I dont want any details or exact figures, but know that if he knew mine, hed be horrified. So I guess I didnt answer your question, Id refuse to answer on the grounds that exact numbers make no difference and arent really his business. If pushed id round it down to 10-15 lol. Gah, why are men so insecure. Good luck. Im with you on this one.

Answer 6

First of all, what person in their right mind wants to know how many partners their boyfriend/girlfriend has had? What's the point of that? How is that helpful to your relationship? And what kind of person even asks that kind of question??? I'd rather not know, because it's none of my business anyway. I'm satisfied with just knowing that my boyfriend had a life before me. I don't need to know how many girls he's had in the sack. That's just ignorant. I mean you have to ask yourself, what the point is in someone asking that question. Why can't people just be happy with who their with and focus on "the now"? Who cares about how many people someone has slept with? I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and neither of us have even come close to asking the other that kind of question. We're madly in love and totally happy together and that's all that counts.

BTW....so what, lie if you want. It's not like someone is gonna tell him "hey dude, she's a liar, she slept with over 20 guys". Gimme a break. He doesn't need to know crap! You lived before him. So screw it, tell him 3 : )

Answer 7

Well. If you have really ever only cared about 3 I think that would be alright! Most important is that you will be definite and serious in a relationship with your new partner.

Answer 8

NO!!!! If the shoe were on the other foot, wouldn't you want to know? Besides, when you slip up and tell what you like sexually, and it becomes about more things than just 3 guys could introduce you to, it's either going to come to light that you were lying (making him wonder what else you've lied about and whether there is any honesty in the relationship) or it's going to give him a complex, beleiving that he can't do anything right to please you, which can be just as damaging to the relationship.

Answer 9

It is NOT okay to lie. If you lie to them, you are lying to yourself. It could hurt them if they found out by someone else. Save the breakup stage and tell them. If they don't like it, dump 'em. They shouldn't feel jealous with your previous relationships because you have moved on and found something better. They should feel happy that you like them now.

Answer 10

If you're looking for a LTR based on mutual trust and understanding, no it is not OK because the truth will come back and bite you in the butt. If it is just a short fling or 1 night stand between two consenting adults, shut up and screw.