heartbroken and i dont know what to do. please help:(?

Question

i thought all along my boyfriend loved me as much as i love him.

but yesterday he suddenly called and say that his feelings for me had faded away. i was so heartbrokened. i couldnt stop crying the whole night. he was really very close to my heart. he was my inspiration my motivation and my drive for life.

i really love him a lot. i would really want to get him back but i don know what can i do. i feel so helpless. what should i do?

our sudden break up was indeed a big blow to me and i really cannot get over it but respect his decision. he has even asked for sex even after we break up, but i said no. why would i have sex with someone who doesnt love me at all?

i love him a lot and i need him back in my life. what should i do?

thank you everyone who answered my question. i cant help but start crying when i read all those lovely answers. i love you all. you are all very nice people:)

Answer 1

He disrespect you and broke your heart. I wouldn't take him back. But if you want him to get back with you. You should just ignore him for a while and then he'll starting feeling bad. And if he really love you he'll get back with you. or if he's really over you. He'll just stop talking to you.

Answer 2

Clearly this is an odd situation because it all happened so unexpectedly. I would be a bit suspicious then because if you didn't see this coming, then you may need to pay attention more. Normally, there are signs. I don't know, it seems like something must have happened to bring him to feel like this.

As for saying that "he was my inspiration my motivation and my drive for life", I worry. Unless you were with this person for years and years, that shouldn't be the case. There are probably other things in your life that are important, and you must remember those things during times like these. Things like family, school, your career, helping others... whatever they may be. Those things also bring inspiration, motivation, and a drive for life. If that is not the case, then perhaps this will be a good time to change that. However, I don't think that's how you truly feel. I think that, chances are, you're just in a very sad mood. The only thing I can tell you is that feelings of hopelessness are temporary and that you can get through this. If you feel like you need help or that it's too much and you don't want go on, there is always professional help and hot lines for situations like these. The point is this: the sun will come up tomorrow and things will get better.

As for what to do next... you can only play that by ear. Who knows... maybe things will dramatically change by tomorrow. But from the sounds of it, you have to prepare for the possibility that he may not come back to you. But as was said, things can get better and they will. If you ever need someone to talk to as well, turn to your friends and other people in your life that you love. Heck, you could email me if you'd like. You seem young so there's plenty of time for you in this world. Good luck and I hope I helped. P.S. Things will get better!!!

Answer 3

Sorry about your break up...they can definitely be a b-i- t-c-h!! If he dumped you than you would really just be wasting your time trying to get him back. As hard as it seems right now, you can and WILL get over this. Just pick up your head and dry your tears. I know you still love him right now, and the pain is very deep, but it will get easier one day at a time. In my opinion the best and fastest way to get over a break up is to get together with your girlfriends, and go out. Try and meet someone new to take the pain away. When you meet the right guy, you will forget about this loser that dumped you, and then had the audacity (sp?) to ask you for sex again! Screw him! You can do better for yourself!! Hope this helps you!! Good Luck!! and I hope you feel better soon!

Answer 4

you did well to deny him sex. he doesn't seem to have respect for you even after he comes to you to tell you that his feelings for you had faded. Sweetheart, give him credit for one thing, he told you. other men will just act funny and leave you to suffer the suspense. all break ups hurt, some more than others. give yourself time to heal during which you should not give in to sex. if he does want to get back, make sure its not for the sex. let him prove his worth like you never knew him but also remember that he broke your heart once already dont have sex with him again too soon, that way if that is all he wants he will leave and not waste any more of your time.

Answer 5

I see from another question of yours that you are only 16. You are way too young to be tied down to one guy. I know you are hurting, but you will get over it. Let him go, and spend more time with your girlfriends.

Just be glad you aren't pregnant. And one word of advice---don't have sex with the next guy you go with or the same thing will happen. Once you give in, you will eventually get dumped. Wait with the sex till you are older.

Good for you for telling this guy NO!

Answer 6

first of all, good job in saying no to the sex after the break-up. that's a REALLY shady move on his part, that's not something I or anyone else should "love" about it. he's not ready to handle a relationship with someone mature, like you. As hard as it is, try to move on by letting him go - don't call him, don't look at old pictures, don't talk about him. and try to meet new people, keep your mind open because you're young and you will meet plenty of guys who don't act like him, who deserve what you have to offer. Please believe me when I say he just is not ready for a mature relationship. Good luck :)

Answer 7

sorry for your broken heart, i know you don,t want to hear this right now but you and your heart will heal. mending a broken heart takes time but it will heal thats a promise, my husband of seven years died when our baby was a year and a hafe and i thought that was that life was over all alone with a baby
well that was ten years ago, and im still going and with a stronger heart.ps. good for you for turning him down for sex if your not good enough to be his girl then the heck with him ,let him know your not going to be his doormat and that you will move on.good luck

Answer 8

Stay away from this guy all he's trying to do now after he broke up with you is use you. What a creep... You should not allow him to play with your emotions in this fashion. I understand that your devastated by the break up but find a way to stay busy and you should be fine. Don't have sex w/him....

Answer 9

well its like this he wants to move on let him he will realize one of two things he will be happy with his decision or he will realize he made a mistake and will want you back but that will only be if you are available. Good luck if i was you i would just move on he dealt you a blow if you do take him back you will look at him in a different matter

Answer 10

Thats too bad hun. But the best thing you can do is NOT have sex with him. Then you get to just be his booty call. You may seem to need him now but you will see as time goes by that you don't need him as much as you thought. Hang out with your g/f's and pig out for a coupla days.