He's only been talking to my mom about his, but my sister and I can hear it (since it's usually a loud argument) but we're 20 and 19. My mom doesn't really understand where he's coming from, or just tries to avoid it I don't know. My dad is very intelligent, graduated as valedictorian, but I think I heard my dad say that his co-workers and bosses just don't value him or think he's doing a great job, although he's been working with them for 10 years. He's been at work in various places for a total of about 30 years. I wish he would quit his job so he could be happy, but then he'd have to pay for our own insurance. And my mom doesn't work. We'd also have to move to a less expensive neighborhood, but I'm fine with that. I don't know how to tell him. Lately I avoid the subject because I'm sure he's really fed up of arguing about it every night with my mom. Is there anything I can do? Thank you.
2007-06-28 20:17:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why don't you suggest he look for another job that he likes better before he quits then he can just move from one job to another and he won't be out of work he might even be lucky enough to get a couple of weeks off between jobs so your mum and dad can go on a holiday and recoup their relationship thats sounds like it may need a bit of TLC to get back on track.
2007-06-28 20:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom is the problem, and you value his hapiness more than she does. Why can't she work? Ur 20 and 19 you sure can take care of yourselves, is that not the least she could do to make your fathers life more bearable, even if for a short while, while he looks for better. Tell ur dad you can get your own insurance, just work a part time job, cover yourselves. And convince mom it's ok to "downgrade" family is more important that things. If that does not work.... Um, get a new mom? and leave with dad :)
2007-06-29 03:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention your ages, but you don't mention if you and your sister are working, or going to school or what.
Are you in school? Are you working? Or are you just freeloading at home, adding to the problem. If the two of you are not working, then start. And don't spend it all on yourselves. Contribute to the household. Help pay the bills to take the pressure off your father. Take him out for ice cream or something and just hang out with him. Eventually mention that you know he's unhappy at work, and that the two of you will support any decision he makes.
2007-06-29 03:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YIKES! Is mom disabled or unable to at least work part time to help him relieve some stress?? Can you all get jobs too? Try talking with him without Mom around and show you care and want to support him IF he promises to stop trying to beat sense in to a woman who isn't listening!
2007-06-29 03:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your dad that its ok. its not worth being there if he is unhappy.
you are big kids, you can help take care of yourselves. get a part time job that's not too stressful. work at a grocery store as a cashier, or at a fast food joint. help pay for the insurance.
you can babysit and bring in some money.
2007-06-29 03:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by florida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring him out to eat. Just you and him. While you eat, or before you order, bring up the subject of his job- how it's going, what's new, how he feels about it. And if he doesn't tell you about what he and your mother discuss, tell him that you didn't eavesdrop, but you did overhead him talk about not enjoying his job. Tell him that you're not here to argue, but to explain to him that if he really doesn't like it, the best thing to do is quit.
Tell him your perspective!
2007-06-29 03:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋