guys, do you think sex....?

Question

gets in the way of getting to know someone in the first several months of a relationship?

Answer 1

My advice would be to not rush into sex.

Best advice is to wait until you're married. If you choose to not take that advice, take your time before you fall madly in bed with your guy.

Love is many-layered. The sex part is fairly simple, but the emotional and intellectual parts of love are very complex. If you nurture these and come to like, value and love a person for his positive attributes, his wit and charm, and who he is as a person who once was a baby and who grew through childhood into an adult like you the sex will have much more meaning and value to you.

A lot depends on you and how you perceive sex. If you are given to one-night stands a relationship is really pretty pointless. But if you want the whole package, with love, and value and truly being part of another person wait until you have really come to know that other person.

I'm 66 years old. Been married twice. Been there, done that. Got the T-Shirt folded in the back of my shirt drawer.

Answer 2

It can create a false sense of intimacy that can fade away after a while when the "heat" is gone leaving you wondering why you ever got together with the person in the first place. I personally think people should wait 'til they are married, but at the very least you should see if there is real love between you and whether you are a good match before moving the relationship to a sexual level. Love leads to good sex, not the other way around.

Answer 3

It depends on the guy, some guys if you have sex with them in the first months, maybe evne the first year, the next month theyll be leavin you, but thts just some, then theres the other, the majority, who would just see it as a fun time and in no way would it get in the way of getting to know them, but its your call, id say wait a bit, figure out which of those 2 categories he falls under based on his actions, if he pressures sex instead of sitting down and talking with you about stuff then hes the guy who will leave right after, if hes all about you, then you can give it to him

Answer 4

Well, I'm not a guy, just an old lady. But if you want to be loved, learn to love you. Whatever you put first right now is going to be first for a long time. You could ask ya'self this one. Sex, Boyfriend~ Car,Job~ School,Future....and don't really depend on people who are at the proverbial height of their sexuality to answer that question. They may not be entirely truthful, K? 8D)

Answer 5

Pick a side. Girlfriend or Sluuuut.

It depends if you need to love them for who they really are,
or
if you just need to screw them for the fun value.
~~~~~~~~~
So pick a side and stick to it.
Some women are so blunt about it that they don't mind
being a total slut. So the sluts just screw for entertainment.

The loyal girlfriend on the other hand waits it out for the first 3dates, and then is more frequent with the screwing with
a loyal boyfriend. She waits for the first dates to findout the
basics of the dude she is dating. Such as:
Age
Name
Friends
Favorite stuff
Any emotional issues

After that first week, its jus regular dates with him after that.
Ja know, movies, Rollercoaster, Icecream, and of course
the Happy Birthday date.

And after 3months, the fire of relationship has fizzled to nil,
so, you two argue for a day and breakup and date other people.

How do i know all of this?

BEEN THERE DONE THAT,

I WAS THAT DUMPED BOYFRIEND WHOM THE GIRL HAD TREATED ME THAT WAY.

BEEN THERE, DONE THAT.

Its seems to me soo repetitive.
Its jus so boring to me the whole
dating bulshiiot.

But yeah it does get in the way of
liking him for him.

But hey if you didn't screw him,
then you never would have and
then regretting it later.
oh well,
thats dating,

laters,
Ric.
[Personally, i prefer to skip the lies,
and get laid. At least then i don't feel
like i wasted time sharing my life,
if i was to be dumped later.
Too many women treat men
like a fun phase that they go thru,
and thats jus cold to men.
i ALWAYS hated being sooo USED.]

Answer 6

Sex and getting to know person have nothing in common. Getting to know a person takes time and patience. It is something thatb you be willing to give everything up for. Yes, sex outside of marriage will get in the way of getting to know someone. Here is an idea: Keep your clothes on, open your mouths, and talk to each other. You might learn something.

Answer 7

From a woman's point a view I believe it is. Because once sex is brought into a the equation men focus more on that instead of getting to know eachohter.

Answer 8

Absolutely. There are so many couples who get together physically, and then find out later they are either not compatible, nor like each other. I think a little "get to know" time is in order before progressing to something further.

Answer 9

Sex is for married people, and a bad way to get to know someone.

Answer 10

first several months? maybe not the first few weeks, but if ur in love, i dont c y not go for it. if its already like 5 months, then you shud already know him by now.