so, i met this guy and the first time we had sex he told me that he loved me?? he is not the only guy that has said this to me, the first time i have had sex with them. Actually several of the men i have had sex with say this, ON THE FIRST TIME... why?? what does that mean? are they all thinking about someone else, does it just slip out, or are they just enjoying themselves that much??
i never respond to them, becuase i dont ever love any of them the first time we have sex? so, i was wondering what they are thinking
2007-06-28 20:00:29 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow...you got it like that? You got platinum in your nether regions or something? You got skills like THAT?!? Got people falling in love with the nani? lol
But I dunno....as a guy, I can honestly say that there's only enough blood in the body to go to one head at a time. And most of the time we're thinking with the head that's busy at the moment. In other words...it's the little head that's doing the thinking at the moment. But yeah...I can't really say that I told people I loved them right off the bat right at the first climax and all......so I dunno....must be something about your....private places there.
Sex does not equal love. Only time I ever used the L word when I'm having sex with someone for the first time is either " I love how you're *****ing me off" or " I love how you make me feel...and I love how you're enjoying what I'm doing to you" or "I love this position" or "I love that little trick you did right there" never an "I love you" unless I've been with the person for a really long time (year or more) and just had sex with them for the first time after I've ALREADY told them I loved them (and meant it) before even having sex. And yeah I can wait...longest wait was 2 and a half years.
2007-06-28 20:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by ii_battle_override_ii 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never told a woman that I lover her after having sex with her. For exactly the reason you state. If you are a good lover, I will not hold that back. It is something you should know.
Let's be fair. If you go out with a guy for a year and you finally have sex with him and he tells you he loves you, he may be being pretty honest in his confession. Of course ff you like the guy, his being gallant for so long will drive you nuts.
Don't think that guys are not enjoying themselves--it's big time and they are having the time of their lives which is to your credit. They might love you for your sweet favors, but generally confessions of love after sex should be reserved for more lasting and solid relationships.
2007-06-29 03:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you what I thought at the same age: "I love the fact that you're letting me do this, I'm enjoying this immensely; and I want to say something to you that lets you know how thankful I am that you finally let me release this pent-up energy that all the other little girls created and wouldn't help me get rid of!" You obviously have a very keen eye for knowing which boys are in need of some 'sexual healing'...just try not to spread yourself too thin.
2007-06-29 03:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so you don't love them, but you'll have sex with them? Why couldn't I meet more women like that in my youth.
Anyway, to the question. These guys obviously don't know you well enough to love you, but obviously they get caught up in the moment. Are these guys that "loved" you virgins when you get your hands on them?
Basically, they're caught up in the moment and are feeling good, so they pop out the big "L" word. If he still says it the next day, out of the bedroom, then he might just be serious. But in bed that first time, don't read much into it.
2007-06-29 03:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i admit that i have too done that in the past...i think women don't give guys credit for how much emotion we can have with you during sex. I don't do it now...i think long and hard before i say those words but when i was younger it slipped out a few times.
2007-06-29 03:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You must be good but what a turn off for you. Two people exploring each other to determine if another date is order and they have to go and ruin it with an ill advised "I Love You".
Keep tryin! Love you --I'M sorry that just slipped out!
2007-06-29 03:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by David T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just want to make you heart , it's the words from the trousers.
To point out that they dont love you in the first time in fact .
Don't believe it .
It's all the view from a man .
2007-06-29 03:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by lcqrqy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear littlebabyb,
At that juncture of time, what they said is correct. The expression of love was momentory, and it was over after that. Do understand this phenomena.
And dont worry and be happy.
cheers,
kaushik
2007-06-29 03:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kaushik M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a 1-night stand and you both know that it's a 1 nighter, cut the BS and screw. They are most likely trying to alleviate their own guilt.
2007-06-29 03:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They dont love you but they enjoy and love having sex with you. They love sex NOT YOU, as you also love sex NOT THEM.
2007-06-29 03:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by dats p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋