when all else fails... should i go lesbien?

Question

I am not a lesbian, but have been bi in the past... quite successfully might i add. I am into my religion now, but still have lesbian tendacy. I know I would rather be with a man, but only women seem to understand my position for emotional bond. Men only seem to care about sexual. I stand my ground and would rather hold out for a man worthy of me and i worthy of him... but i keep being told that maybe i should give women an emotional chance. in the far past it was always physical, i couldn't see myself anymore. but men seem to not care for a long term relationship, and women are all about it. some times i wonder if i should give in for the chance of happiness, but others i think women would use me even worse... for their emotinal gain. i know i'm awsome and that i deserve what i want, but anyone that seems to hold the qualities that i am looking for are sooo far away. once again... just curious... not completely serious. suggestions please.

i am past gay. I do find women very sexy, but i a a born again christian. maybe my problem is that i a not looking, but i find that when you are looking you only find what you think you want because you tend to make things into what you want them to be instead of what they rally are. i promise that i am not pathetic. i am just so into trying to make my family and children happy that i guess i don't give myself a chance to be happy... in that kinda way. I am no supermodel, but there are things about me one wa or another that people find quite intriging. i just can't seem to encounter someone in my area code that i find inriging as well.

Just so evryone knows... this is just a question based on a conversation I recently had with a friend. I really am not desperate... just curious.

Answer 1

Ummm. There are men that interested in such things. You are just have a stream of bad luck. I bet if I were to go out with you, I could weed out through all the bad guys and find you somebody. Something must be amiss,, because.. from what I have seen, you're a steal. So don't give up.

Answer 2

I think its important to remember that the choices you have made or make in the future are really about exploring who you are and what you want in life and theres nothing wrong with that. Whether or not your in a relationship with a man or a woman each has the potential to give you that emotional bond yet each also has the potential to want to just look at it as a pure physical relationship.

I can only look at myself in trying to answer this so... i think from a males perspective as you get older you find what's important to you maturity, that focus that in a relationship you put the other first, you grow out of being selfish and doing whatever you want to do because you value who your with more than it being all about you yet having someone on the side. a loving relationship (relationships have to have that emotional bond for it to be long standing)means finding a partner that compliments you, one to go thru life and explore and share lifes experiences good and bad together the sexual and intimate side is the way to express yourself to your partner besides just saying the words everyday. So not every man cares about being one sided they just dont want the commitment component. Maybe your experiences have shown you the opposite because those men werent at a point in their lifes and didnt respect a true relationship and the pieces of the pie that make up a whole relationship.

From the womans side....maybe you like the fact that women and being with another the bond is there because each knows how they want to be loved. I wouldnt say giving in for a chance at happiness, happiness is measured not by what type of gender your with but by understanding that the relationship that evolves and grows because you and your significant other have found and are in, that same place in their lives where sometimes you just let go and your priority becomes making sure that the other is happy, fullfilled and its done with no second thought its done simply because they mean more to you than life itself.

So always go with your heart just dont let past experiences discourge you from finding a man that will treat you in a relationship with love, respect, dignity, honor, compassion, thoughtfullness, and romance...you deserve because its out there. Good lord i think i just wrote a book...sorry.

Answer 3

its hard when your emotions are pulling you in all directions and sometimes you dont know what to feel but rest assured, you need to follow your heart and go with what you feel and for the most part their are men out here that would give the attention and love that a women needs and im one of them but not have found the right women to be with yet but i keep the search going.
and one day i know i will be with the one i truely feel the love and respect and emotions to make it a great relationship. and you will two and it will come to you when you least expect. you will find a man that will listen and love and respect you for all your life.and i dont know what you look like but im sure your a very beautiful women and any man that gets the oppertunity to be with you will know that he has someone special! i hope you dont go the other way and give us men a chance to let you find the real men that do care about women such as yourself and be their for you when you need us. love a friend rgsiguana

Answer 4

On the one hand, you should choose a relationship that makes you happy - whether that person is male or female. On the other hand, if you truly wish to be with a man, do not despair. You may have encountered men who don't want long term relationships or who fit the stereotype of being non-emotional, but this does not mean that all men are like this.

Try being with a woman, and see where it goes. If you are happy, stay. If not... you have many options!

Answer 5

I know that you want to date a man that will emotionally satisfy you, but maybe you should seek out a woman and tell her you want to be friends first and see where it goes. You mentioned that you still find yourself sexually attracted to women, but want to make your family and children happy...Ask yourself if your need to be loved and have a secure relationship would hurt your family and children. Yes religion calls same sex relations a sin, but is it that big of a sin? If you feel that you can find a loving, stable relationship with another woman then go for it.

Answer 6

I really don't think that you can just go lesbian, even if you have experimented before. Eventually, you would want to experience a man again, and hurt your lesbian partner.

Maybe you are expecting too much, or maybe you have just not found the right man. Please don't hurt some lesbian just to fill an emotional void in your life. It is not fair to her or to yourself. Be patient and reevaluate what you are looking for in a man.

Remember that in a lesbian relationship, one woman has the role of the male. In other words, lesbians have problems in their relationships also.

Answer 7

If you feel you should be with a man be with a man. There are a few good men who feel with there hearts and think with their brains. Find a guy who will wait for sex and let each other explore each other emotionally first.

Answer 8

um... i think that u've just been chasing after the wrong guys. you need to start looking for guys that are into wat u want- a long term relationship. u can find guys like that...myspace or eharmony. some girls aren't looking for the real thing. some just want to play around. most girls are restless. they get tired of things very quickly or is just me? im sure u can find a nice guy out there somewhere

Answer 9

i am lesbian and i found out that some females are like men but i am still looking for my princess

Answer 10

you shouldn't change your orientation just because your past relationships haven't worked out. if you really feel that you're gay, then go gay. if not, just focus more on finding the right man.