She wants to be with me I want to be with her but she says shes not ready for a relationship right now. She just got out of a long relationship with a guy who hurt her a lot never cared for her and did nothing for her ...somehow she loves him and is still scared she will go back. She says she wants to be with me but shes not over him I Dont think. I really like her should i wait and see what happens. I think shes worth the wait..its just so hard not knowning if im just setting myself up for the wait to get hurt
2007-06-28 19:20:09 · 21 answers · asked by usmcscout123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks you guys a lot of good feedback!
2007-06-28 19:28:45 · update #1
hmmm about the seing me as a friend thing ....... weve kissed and had a lil fun on the side too not sex or anything so that kinda changes it too...........
2007-06-28 19:39:59 · update #2
don`t waste your time on someone that doesn`t know what she wants
2007-06-28 19:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by RUSSELLL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she just got out of a long relationship with a guy, regardless of how he treated her, she most likely still feels for him and only time can heal any pain she is going through. I think it is really strong of her to realize that she still has feelings for him and has admitted this to you. She doesn't want to start a relationship with you right now because she doesn't want to hurt you. Would you honestly want to start a commitment with someone that can't be fully committed? If you really care about her and believe she is worth the wait, give her some time to sort out her feelings. Be there for her when she needs you and show her how she should be treated by a guy. She will come around and realize that she doesn't need her ex anymore.
2007-06-29 02:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get too involved and wait it out. But show her that you're not going to wait on her for a long time. Go out with other girls and stuff. You aren't in a relationship so she shouldn't care. If she does care, it just means she's self righteous and doesn't want anyone to have anybody except her... then you'll know she's not worth it.
2007-06-29 02:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. don't get too involved yet. Be there as a friend, but do your best to keep your distance on things that could make things incredibly complicated. If you think that she's worth the wait, then wait. Be there for her, she will see that you care and that you're better than the guy that just kicked her to the curb. Things will come around.
2007-06-29 02:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait but be ready with the risks of doing so. The thing with this situation is she might see you as just a friend after all that wait. Or she might get back together with her ex, or she just might find someone new. It's really risky but if you don't give it a try, I think you won't be at peace so, go for it.
2007-06-29 02:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by jayp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has a lot of problems with self esteem if she is so attracted to someone who treats her so badly. If you are a good guy, "healthy" then she probably won't be attracted to you. I say don't waste your time, she needs to figure a lot of things out in her life before she will be ready for a healthy relationship. Go find a partner who will be a good balance for you...she would just be a lot of work.
2007-06-29 02:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said she's worth the wait. That answers your question.
Wait for her. Don't wait forever, but wait. Keep in touch, keep track of how she's doing. Don't put any pressure to go out with you, just make sure you're around when she's ready.
2007-06-29 02:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient with her. She deserves the right to grieve over the loss of the prior relationship before moving into another one. I am sure that you would not want to be her rebound man. That is what would happen, if she is not allowed time to sort her feelings out.
2007-06-29 02:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if u really like her u should wait. but if she's scared that she might get back w/ that other guy then she's dumb. i'm pretty sure that when/if she gets over him that u would treat her better. if he treated her bad then she wouldn't still love him. but just give her some time and if it's 2 long 4 u 2 wait then find some1 else.
2007-06-29 02:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by I love my baby[11/11/06]!!!!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said it urself u dont think u really like her so... just tell her that u understand and that will it be a problem if u go out with other girls while she makes up her mind and all that. OR u can be an obedient puppy and wait
2007-06-29 02:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by Lexis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good that she is so honest with you and she is not trying to hide the truth.
Don't worry she will be yours if you really love her She will know that by every moment you spend with her, and She will realise that u are the deserving person and automatically she would forget him as she spends more ime with u.
2007-06-29 02:25:36 · answer #11 · answered by Rita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋