My fiancé is very nice guy but he still wants to hung out with his ex girlfriends and this thing makes me uncomfortable and I told him how I felt but he is still doing that. Sometime he is not telling me when I ask him where he at and with who. The thing is I am staying far away form him. So I can’t meet him everyday or every week b/c of my studies. Beside his ex girlfriends are players. What should I have to do to change his mind b/c I love him. In fact I trust him. But why he can’t understand how I felt.
2007-06-28 18:56:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you stay far away from him he could be telling you anything because it is something you want to hear to satisfy your mind. I understand you love him, but there in not that much in the world for you to trust him and he can not be honest about anything and also you stay away? Girl you can not trust him as far as you can throw him. Love goes both ways what if you were doing something like hanging with your ex what would he have said, that he does not like you hanging out with them and that you have a man and your engaged you should not be hanging out with other men am I right? Well I say if he can do it son can you. What he don't know won't hurt because I'm sure that's the way he feel about you. Move on you deserve better than him and you know it.
2007-06-28 19:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never change a person. He has to want to change and he wants to hang out with her so he's gonna hang out with her. If you love him than let him be him and accept him. I know you feel uncomfortable about it but since you trust him than leave it at that. The reason why he doesn't understand cause he knows he's not doing anything wrong. If he's doing something than it will come out eventually but until then, enjoy him and stop driving yourself crazy.
2007-06-28 19:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u say u trust him then this shouldn't really b a problem, but then again it's kinda hard...i mean seeing his x gfs and all that is not really a good thing...but maybe they're just good friends. and if his x gfs are players than y do u think he would go back 2 them if that's wut u think. but if u told him how u felt and he doesn't listen then maybe he's never going 2 listen 2 u or care how u feel about the situation. if he really loves u he would do anything 2 keep your relationship going. i say try 2 talk 2 him about it again and if he doesn't listen still find someone else.
2007-06-28 19:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by I love my baby[11/11/06]!!!!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, he has no respect for you or really cares about you.
they are still sleeping together. i'm sorry to sound so bold,
but he might as well slap you across the face and kick you in the a** with this type of disrespect. I'm sorry if i hurt your feelings in any way but you deserve some one that will respect you. respect goes along with trust. which are the two main things that make a relationship work. i see none in this one.
2007-06-28 19:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't trust him or this would not be an issue. And he has to make up his own mind as to what he wants. Break the engagement until school is over. Then see where you both are at.
2007-06-28 18:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need for you to be selfish or possessive .Relation are approached differently with emphasis on the aspect of giving and less need for getting .Finally personal responsibility is taken for one 's life .Someday soon enough he 's gonna regret the things he has done to make you feel awkward and gotta know love hurts big time ......
2007-06-28 19:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by silent_voices 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In fact, you DON'T trust him. If you trusted him, you wouldn't be asking for advice on this over the internet.
I'd suggest you make a surprise visit to his place. You know, middle of th week when he's not expecting you for a few days. Not to catch him at something, but just to guage his reaction. If he gets mad, that's not a good sign.
2007-06-28 19:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't trust him why does he keep on hanging out with his ex so it means he is a player but trying to keep it cool.So talk to him regading your r/ship and what he really wants for you two you can give him conditions as in tell him if he doesn't change you will quit.
2007-06-28 20:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Kit,s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I wish I could say something to you that would make it better. But the fact of it is he dose not care to please you. He know's you ddon't like it but still dose it. For me when my husband was my boyfriend he on his own stopped any contact with his women friends. Not that he would not say hi when he saw them but no talking on the phone or hanging out with them after work hrs. He made it clear to me and the world he did not want it to look like he was single he gave me my place. I think it's unloving how he is acting. Please do not marry him if he continues this it will not stop. Most men think you are trying to control them when you ask them to stop hanging out with ex's and friends. Good Luck
2007-06-28 19:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cant understand and change for u then he is not the one for u. when ever a guy is not answering questions it means hes hiding sumthin. so really ur 2 choices are to end it with him or threthern to end it if no changes OR suggest u all hang out togetehr
im having almost the same issue, my bf is talking on fone with other chicks he says he loves me and this and that but i told him he needs t stop flirting and stop talking to them .... basiclly ima leave him if it continues, im not gonna stay with sum1 who cant listen to me and see when sumthin is bothering me to stop it
2007-06-28 19:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lexis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋