A friend and I were talking today about how I'm not sure what career i want to get into, cause i'm not too happy with my current job and i dont make much money. My friend then asks "Do you have any goals? Don't you like money?"
He said it was just a simple question, but i got offended cause I feel like that's talking down to me.
Am I in the wrong?
2007-06-28 18:38:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are offended, it is probably because it hit a nerve, not because he intended an offense.
It offended you because you do not have any clear goals, and it made you see something in yourself that you don't want to see... i.e. lack of direction.
Decide what you want for yourself, and establish some clear goals, and next time someone asks you what your goals are you won't be offended, but instead will have something to share that is intelligent, interesting, and may inspire people to help you achieve them.
You will certainly never succeed at anything if you get offended so easily.
2007-06-28 18:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by David T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how he said it. 1) he might have a genuine concern for you, and would love to see you prosper more. 2) he could talking down to you and he believes your a no hoper. 3) he might be stirring you into thinking his way, which he believes is the only way. It's hard for anyone to give their advice without hearing how he said this to you and just as hard to know what you are feeling. However, you say you are not to happy with your job and don't earn very much for it. Maybe it could be good if you can aim your goals higher. Get a job you really like and if the money is better as well it would be good for you, but if the money is much the same and you like your new job, that would be fantastic as well. The main thing is that you enjoy your work. good luck to you
2007-06-28 18:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you did not expect the question from your friend and the manner of asking thats why you got offended. There's nothing wrong with that question. But if you really want to change job because you are not happy or satisfied with it, what's wrong with that? We want a job because we want to realize our goals, we wanted to be happy. That's a normal feeling to get offended. But dont blame it with your friend, its an honest, direct question that only a friend can do.
2007-06-28 18:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last thing that offended me was this foolish computer. I compressed some files from (are you ready for this one?) 50 days down to 30 days (how long should the system wait before compressing old files? &c.) and whamee! No computer! God, did that scare me! And then I realised how sad I felt and how offended that this computer would dare to let me down like that. How do you spell dependency? Or maybe even co-dependency? So funny now, but it wasn't funny then. So many times we can look back and see how foolish we were being and how we reacted, but when it is happening for real the first time through it is real and it hurts and you don't know what to do.
2016-04-01 10:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not necessarily. You can still have goals without greed. In fact the Bible says the individual who seeks out finacial sucess, will suffer the consequences of that sucess if it is for the wrong reasons. On the otherhand God said to the one who lived a simple life, would have a long lasting fulfilled and blessed life. I chose the blessed life.
Though I used to be out for money, but then God shot me down and I am no longer physically able to work at my job. I have no money, yet I have never been happier. God has truely blessed me. Seek out His will and you too will find happiness.
2007-06-28 18:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by teenhelp911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would depend, how long have you known this person? and also depending in the tone he asked. Maybe it was not meant to come off like an offensive question. did this person
have an expression on thier face as if you are an idiot, if thats the case then yes be offended, but if it was just a simple
question then dont read too much into it, anger is waisted
energy. never wait you time in being angry its ugly.
2007-06-28 18:50:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong, you just felt offended. No big deal. You're entitled to feel the way you feel. Besides, different people see things in different ways. The way you think of success doesn't have to be the same as your friend. Perhaps success to you means more than money and material things, which it's good :)
2007-06-28 18:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although your friend may not have been tactful, I some how don't think he meant to offend you. Be direct. Tell him (nicely) that his comment stung a little and ask him if he meant it to be offensive. I think he was just trying to say that your career choice is not a lucrative one, but this doesn't necessarily mean that he thinks less of you. It sounds to me that money is important to him and so, he was questioning whether or not it is important to you too.
2007-06-28 18:49:03 · answer #8 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are doing something close to your heart like being a caretaker for the severely ill or teaching in public school, then yes because your passion might rank higher than your $$ lust. For which there is nothing wrong with that and I wish so many people weren't so blind in their hearts.
2007-06-28 18:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Sirius70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill tell you this im almost 21 years old, i'm working at a fast food resturant while in college, and ya know what, your hellish job is sending you a SIGN, it should motivate you to finish college becuase maybe by then you will YOUR OWN BOSS. having a college degree can open alot of doors for you.
he probably didnt mean to speak down on you but i know alot of friends have a bad habit of doing that and not realizing it. just ignore it
2007-06-28 18:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋