I am a mom that is no good at it, but just want to kill herself so that my daughter can have a better life.?

Question

I have personally seen a professional and so has my daughter. Unfortunaltey I am so chemically unbalance that I just should leave anbd then she will be with a normal familty..

Answer 1

Er...is this some kind of baiting humour? If it isn't, you need professional help - not the ignorant guessing of Yahoo! Answers.

Answer 2

This is not silly talk that you are saying, i know just how you feel, i too recently tried to take my own life, but i am glad now that i pulled through, i had pressures all around me my 3 children, money problems etc it seemed like the best thing to do at that time, but something happened i thought about my daughter and my 2 grandchildren by my older son, both are under 2 years old and my daughter who is now 18 years old, i thought about how i would never see her married and settled down, and my beautiful grandson's, i look at them nearly every day in person if not at their photographs on my wall, and i thank god i pulled through that stupid depressive mood i got trapped in. My main problem was being diagnosed with cancer, and often this does make me depressed but i throw myself into a lot of work that takes my mind of things that depress me, i have even taken up a course at the college "skills to learning counselling" now i am on level three which is a step away from a diploma, so i am classed at this present moment a trainee counsellor, i hope that what i have said comes in handy for you, even if you want to contact me i will get back to you that's a promise, i know that you are not alone out there!!!

Answer 3

It would be MUCH healthier for your daughter (and you!!) if you tried to "fix" yourself first by reading books on childcare and getting therapy if necessary. If that doesn't work, even putting your child up for adoption or finding a trusted adult to transfer care of your child to is much better. Mental illness and suicide is higher in people whose parents have killed themselves. Do you really want your daughter to know that Mommy has killed herself? Or would you rather have her know that you're trying very hard to learn how to be a good mommy, even if you never are the best? Try to put yourself in her shoes.

Also, you should definitely talk to a therapist about this. Contact your town office (in the phone book under your town's name) about free psychological counseling if you can't afford it. Maybe part of "not being a good mom" is a mental condition, like depression, that can be treated. Who knows, maybe a little Prozac and some parenting books are all you need to be a good mom!

Answer 4

The unconditional love between a mother and child is unbreakable, even after the mommy decides to off herself, that little girl will have no one to laugh with, or to whine to. Her new parents would never raise her as you'd wish9, make-up and sex at 11)She's yours and you must love her. Sometimes parenting is hard, wiith bumps and blocks, but she's your baby girl that you brought home, and you're a mommy. Time to get real in your life and start changing some of your mindsets. She'll know why you killed yourself and that burden is too much for anyones child. You need a new doctor, the one you have now is a quack. Do right for yourself first, and do right for your daughter first. Most parents would be sickened by what you stated and you;ll have to deal with that.

Answer 5

HOw can any boddy have a better life without mom.. look there is nothing out there that anybody would change abot mom's it does no matter how many mistakes you make.. you are the only thing in your daughter life that can give her mom's love i can't think of anything better in life so quit trying to run away from it and just enjoy what yu have it might seem difficul and hard but its all worth it at the ed and killing your self would not fix any thing only makeit worse cuz she would always blame herself for it... be strong life its hard but wonderful...belive me

Answer 6

hi colstudent,

I am so sorry you feel this way. it sounds like you are suffering from depression or some other type pf illness and its great that you have sought professional help. As someone who is suicidal a lot i can relate to what you are saying, sometimes we feel like a burden to those around us, but your daughter doesn't see you as a burden, she loves you and sees you as her mummy!! Think of it this way, if she was "chemically unbalanced" would you love he any the less? I don't think so. I think you need to try again at getting help, you sound like a really strong individual, do whats best for your daughter and work really hard to get better and let her have her mummy to be there!

please ring the samaritans or take yourself to a&e, you are fully deserving of help!
best of luck to you
xxx

Answer 7

I dont know what age your daughter is but i can asure you she needs her mom. I had a mental breakdown due to my husband leaving me when i was pregnant with my second child. i felt as though i wanted to end everything just like you do.I was no good at being mom and thought the kids and family better of without me.I came to realise by getting help mfrom medication and talking that i was and am the most important part of my kids life and me endin my life would have made there life worse with so many questions in there heaDS AS THEY GREW UP.tAKE ONE DAY AT TIME . remember talking is best.I am available for e-mail if want to let me know more of the situation. you are worth lots and can give lots so hang in there honey

Answer 8

I can relate. Its hard to live witlh yourself isn't it? let alone try and take care of your kids while you are not mentally stable. you must be on your down time now. I get like that too. you are not alone. I decided I just have to get a grip as good as I can, no matter how hard. Its not easy to be optomistic when you are depressed. Try to be for your kids. Keep going to counseling, insuring your daughter you have a disease and you cannot help it sometimes. Believe me, there will be good days too. Dont leave your daughter with no mommy. No matter how sick you are. She will come to understand!! I am sure there are days when you just cant get out of bed. That will pass. Try and look foward to the days you can get out of bed. Depression really stinks.

Answer 9

Your daughter needs you! Believe me, you'd cause a lot more problems for her if you commit suicide. I know a family whose father commited suicide about 10 years ago. They are still struggling to live with that. They blame themselves. It haunts them. Each and every member deals with mental illness as a result. I don't know why you think that you're not a good mom or how old your daughter is; but there must be someone who can help. Talk to a counselor. Talk to other moms. I wish you the best.

Answer 10

All daughters need their mums, as mums need their daughters. I was in bad way early this year after tragic events and depression i tried to end it, and i bloody meant it, i thought my kids would be better off without me too.
Now i am better after 6months how ashamed i am, i hurt so many people. I really thought at the time they would be better without me. I have had intensive therapy, cognitive therapy and counselling, keep chatting is good.
Keep going back to docs tell him yr despair and keep going till he listens, they hear it all time and unfortunately don't do anything till its too late. But keep going don't give up, u can do this for u too be a better person set goals and go for them, believe me u will still get bad days but can cope better.
good luck u r worth more x
calligas

Answer 11

i no how you feel ive felt like it for 6 years and i have 2 children they have been brought up with knowing mom is not well, which to me feels terrible but everyday i battle with the thought of suicide and feel i cant go on much longer but my mom was taken away from me when i was 2 weeks old so ive never expierienced a mom and daughter relationship, i want my kids to have everything thet need and if i listened to my head and killed myself where would they be now, suffering, i just think what i will be leaving behind and how they will be feeling. just be strong feel free to send me an email and we can chat further.
chin up
things will get better.xx