I am in an unhappy marriage, miserable in my job and need change. I want to take my 15 year old son and run away from all of it. Where can I go that $7000 will last me a while before I would have to get a job. I have worked fulltime my whole life and I just want to get away and spend time with my son without having to worry about anything. My mind is made up so I would just like some suggestions as to where I could go where my money will last me the longest. I am currently in California and it is expensive as hell here so anywhere else???
2007-06-28 18:07:31 · 7 answers · asked by christyj42 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i would suggest flying out back east, and renting an appartment, i live in CA and it is really expensive...either that or, maybe driving to new mexico or arizona, and trying to rent somewhere...or hotel?
hope i helped
2007-06-28 18:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by jason r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to make changes to improve your situation, not run away like a child does with a backpack of favorite toys and a couple of candy bars.
If your marriage is unhappy, get counseling and fix it, repair it. If it is truly beyond repair, get separated and/or divorced and move on (emotionally.)
If you are unhappy in your job, fixing the unhappy marriage may improve this, or you may need to search for a new job as well, just don't do everything at the same time.
Seven thousand dollars is nothing to have saved in today's world. Do you own a car? You have to consider all expenses for that as well, or other types of transportation. How are you going to pay for health insurance while you are "running away?' One injury could mean thousands of dollars of medical expenses for weeks on end. What happens if you can't find work for months? How will you son attend school if you are living in some state of transition all the time?
How willing would you really think that you son would be to lose his father and his friends and live hand to mouth? Is it fair of you to take his father and friends out of his life because you are behaving in an immature fashion. You are the adult here, correct? Do not act like the child, you will be teaching your son to stay immature and childish.
If your marriage is just unhappy, fix it. If you are being abused, that would be a reason to leave as quickly as possible, but within reason. With a workable plan, a steady job, a new place to live all mapped out, before making any changes.
Please make a mature example for your son, make mature choices, be a mother that he can be proud of and improve your life like a capable adult.
Good luck.
2007-06-29 01:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a good idea to teach your son to run away from his problems. There are appropriate ways to handle all problems. If your marriage is that unhappy, you need to take steps to either improve your martial situation (marriage counseling), or separate, and file for child support through the courts,
$7000 is not going to last you long, no matter where you go. Your son will lose contact with his family, you will need to depend on strangers to help you with your son while you work. There are too many obstacles to overcome when you have a son in hand.
Believe me, I know what you are feeling. I have been in your situation, only I was been verbally and physically abused. It was my mother that taught me not to run. Sooner or later you will be found, and may get into trouble for leaving the state with your son.
I hope that you will make the wise choice. Good Luck!
2007-06-29 01:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you, 5? Running away is not the answer to any problem, the problems just follow you.
The father of your son has legal right to the child - if you flee and take the child across state lines, he can have you arrested for parental kidnapping - and the only place you will go is jail, and it will be a long time before you areable to spend time with your son, if you ever are allowed again.
Use your 7 grand the right way. Get a divorce like a responsible adult. Look for a new job before you quit your old one, like an adult. Get counseling, like an adult.
You will be an incredibly irresponsible parent if you teach your son that the way to handle difficult situations is to run away from them.
Grow up.
2007-06-29 01:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time to 'man up' and take control of your life.
Get the counseling or start the divorce papers.
THEN you may do whatever you wish.
This will be a lesson in maturity for your 15 year old kid. Show him the RIGHT way to handle conflict, not the 'easy way out'. Be the mom hon.
And I personally don't recommend ANY coast to live on---inland is MUCH more affordable. COL is way cheaper.
2007-06-29 02:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trying to run away from your problems wont solve anything. you'll probably end up even more miserable. try marriage counseling. and if you hate your job then use that 7000 to get an online degree.
2007-06-29 01:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by warmonger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
christyj42 don't mess up your life to the point that no person will hire you or trust you. tell your partner that you need time with your son and that you are going on a trip take a couple of months to really think about what you really need. but don't run with your kid be honest with you partner.
2007-06-29 01:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by shadow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋