A week ago my husband of two years told me that he doesn't think he loves me anymore. Since we had our son last Sept. he's acted a little strange.. he doesn't want to be intimate (we go months..), he never hugs or kisses me voluntarily, he never wants to do anything as a family.. he's just so distant. I gained weight while I was pregnant because of an Eating Disorder I'd had for eleven years, so I feel like he's just not attracted to me anymore. I'm so scared that he's going to leave me and our son. When I say "I love you" he just says, "I know" or "Okay" He never talks to me. It's just killing me. I've had thoughts of hurting myself, though I know I could never be that selfish when I have a baby.. but it still scares me. Please pray for us. I love my husband more than anyone on the planet and I can't imagine my life without him. Thank you.
2007-06-28 18:03:16 · 20 answers · asked by ... 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I will pray for you tonight, that God will give you the peace and wisdom to work through your challenges.
I also hope that you will seek help from those around you. Do you have a church you belong to? Talk to your pastor/priest. It also seems to me that counseling might also give you the chance to work through your struggles in a positive way.
You owe it to yourself and your child to do so.
I have been through many challenges in my life, especially over the last two years when my daughter got sick. I know you must be feeling a lot of stress and anxiety. Know that God loves you, and that He has placed many around you who can help you in your time of need.
Jesus said, "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid"(John 14:27).
He also said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest"(Matthew 11:28).
Peace be with you.
2007-06-28 18:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Colin 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you. Keep reminding yourself that your son needs you.
I'm afraid that your husband might be having an affair... I hate to even mention it... but have you considered the possibility?
Try to talk with him about how his distant attitude could be affecting your son. Ask him about marital counselling. Ask him what he sees as the weak/strong points of your marriage.
Be strong. Act strong. Don't let him see you as pathetic or needy. Let him know in no uncertain terms that you love him and want the marriage to work, but if he won't put forth the effort, you and your son will be fine without him. And mean it, as much as you can.
Find support outside of your home. Spend time with friends. Get involved in activities that you find worthwhile. Take charge of your life. Make him realize you're not a doormat.
I wish you the best. May God give you the strength you need to get through this time and emerge the better for it.
2007-06-28 18:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by hoff_mom 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about this. i will definitely keep your family in my prayers. Will he talk with you at all about this? Will he go to a priest to discuss his feelings or a marriage counselor? Or even just talk with another friend, a third party?
When he told you that he thinks he doesn't love you anymore, did you ask him why? You deserve to know more! When you got married, you both took vows. Remind him of those vows. Ask him what part of the vows aren't agreeing with him anymore. Ask him what has changed. Demand this! You hve a family now. Your son deserve this as well! Stay strong! Email me if you need someone to talk to. Been there 13 yrs ago.
Good luck and God bless!
2007-06-29 11:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey I will and have said a prayer for you.My husband said the same thing to me.My heart was so broken,but it is when I really came to serve Jesus.
Men are so strange ,you need to stand up for yourself.You weight should not even be an issue.You had his child ,he needs to grow up. How old is he ? If you lost a breast to cancer would he leave you? That's not love.
Your baby is first and most boys get jealous when they take second place.
I am sorry to say this to you ,but if he leaves ,wave goodbye.
God will send you someone who will love you no matter what.
One thing you really need to do is talk to your pastor,then if he wants to leave let him.
I let mine go,he came back after a month,we have been married now 33 years. But I made it clear God first,our daughter next,she was my responsibility from God,then him,then me.When our daughter was grown He was #2. I love my husband more then air,but who wants to live with someone who doesn't love you back.
God be with you, put God first ,God will work it out.<><
2007-06-28 18:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by funnana 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Psalms 61:1-4
2007-06-28 19:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by don_steele54 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're better off without him. If a man can't love you completely for who you are no matter what, he doesn't deserve you. You won't be the only single mother ever, so you can find support groups to help you through the emotions you must be feeling right now. Get a job, and look for someone else, who really appreciates the wonderful person you are.
as for your child, he might be ready for daycare soon. It's good to get them adjusted to being with other kids at an early age. It makes them more able to handle tough times of change, like the one you're going through right now.
2007-06-28 18:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by dancingpenguin101 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-28 14:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in my prayers. Just don't let this man tear you down and make you feel less than the best. Something is wrong with this guy. I hope you find happiness no matter what happens. (I have suspicions that something or someone is affecting his relationship with you. I would suggest marriage counseling if he'll go.) God bless.
2007-06-28 18:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course I will pray for you Britney. I've been through a similar situation, so I really empathize. It can be rough. But trust that God will take care of you. Is your husband a Christian? Have the pair of you sought counselling?
2007-06-28 18:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by talliemay 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Lord you see this situation God and Lord I take authority right now in the name of Jesus that every demon and devil leave this marriage alone! Lord I pleed the blood of Jesus over this situation that you God will bless this union and this precious baby and God we know it is NOT your will that families be torn apart. God we know you are NOT the author of confusion or discord and we believe you and thank you right now in the name of Jesus Amen
Britney you claim the victory sis in the name of Jesus you claim this and be strong in faith and stay fast in prayer and your gonna see a miracle. OK? I'll be praying for you. God Bless You
2007-06-28 18:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Walt 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋