This is so frustrating! Guys always seem to look at me: at the gym, at the mall and at school to name a few places. They stare, they whistle, they basically act like animals. And it's not just college guys, it is also adults!! They do this whether I am wearing a tank top and jeans, a skirt, or sweats. Why can't guys approach me rather than eye-sex me from a far? I mean I don't talk about other guys in public, I am definately confident, I'm smart, I laugh and smile all the time, and I rarely go out with more than one girl friend. Even if I'm by myself, they still act the same. I am an attractive girl. I have long straight blonde hair, blue eyes, I am 5'1 and quite curvy but not heavy at all (I'm a dancer). What about me is not approachable? Seriously, no one ever believes me that I've never had a boyfriend, but THIS IS WHY!!!
2007-06-28 17:59:19 · 16 answers · asked by Irish Darling 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 19, NOT pregnant and my older sister uses my account to because she doesn't want her own account and SHE'S pregnant NOT ME.
2007-06-28 18:12:52 · update #1
Fear.
Plain and simple.
The same reason guys develop crushes on celebrities and watch their films and videos. They enjoy the glimpse, the visual, the mental picture of capturing your attention. But they lack the stones to walk up to you and compliment you or even just start a conversation with you.
But it also depends on where you are when you receive this attention. Bars, clubs, malls, parties. The guys are most likely in a little cluster or group, relying on camouflage so they don't have to risk actually approaching you or speaking with you.
Have you tried the driving range? I imagine guys would fall over themselves to help you with your stance, drive, putting.
Have you tried the Home Depot, wandering in the paint section? Can't believe a guy would miss the chance to approach you there.
Have you tried taking a dance class or joining a personals site? You will have the chance to meet others who are probably more likely to start a conversation with you.
Good luck to you ~
2007-07-06 09:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that it's your body language. Guys don't nessicarily go for beauty or a total knockout... they go with their comfort zone. That all begins with eye contact. When a guy is checking you out, if you want him to approach you you need to make inviting eye contact. Think about it like this... it's the guy's responsibility to approach you, but it's YOUR responsibility to invite him to approach you. If you're just standing there looking beautiful that in no way shape or form is an invitation, but if you look at a guy and have that look of "hey, you're cute" in your eyes, that's an invitation to approach and if a guy is into you he probably will. So just keep the signals you're sending out in mind if you really want a guy to say hi. Good luck!
2007-06-28 18:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Zloar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself occasionally do not pursue women I believe to be "out of my league." Some women are cursed by their beauty; men will often assume extraordinarily attractive, confident, and intelligent women are already taken. They subsequently won't make a move under the assumption that the woman in question is certainly taken.
To combat that impulse, just be assertive enough in conversations with guys to give them hints that you're single and available...without seeming desperate. That's a tough line to balance, but it can be done. If you're conversing with a guy who you'd want to date, a "nice guy" who might be too intimidated to think he has a chance, don't be shy about letting him know -- in any subtle way -- that you're interested.
2007-06-28 18:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by AceOfDiamonds29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion i think the boy should ask out the girl but that is because i am from Chicago and that is what we usually do here but then some relationships are ruined because the guy is to shy or they girl is to shy in my school we have boys and girls and the girls usually talk to the boys and then the girls usually talk among themselves same with the boys. I'm not shure if this helps it might be a little unclear but that is my opinion.
2016-04-01 09:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a guy could answer this question better, but this happens to me too...my theory is that they either think there is no way that you dont already have a boyfriend or they dont have the guts to ask you out and risk being shot down ("if she's that pretty without a guy with her, she must have alot of experience turning down guys")
but thats just my theory.
2007-06-28 18:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself approachable , the other girls may be of a frightnening demeanor , you may seem too good for them , or you may be so sexy that they think that you must already have someone , or are not quite plain enough to like them.
2007-06-28 18:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dissonance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of waiting for a guy to come to you, come to the guy. Be confident when you approach him. And I wouldn't recommend approaching the guys who whistle etc at you.
2007-06-28 18:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
remeber the saying, Shy at first, and warm up soon ..
well, if i get a chance to meet you, defenitly i will approach you .
good day
smiles from aby
2007-06-28 18:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your just a little intimidating to the guys. Or they just think that you probably already have a bf. Or they could just be shy.
2007-06-28 18:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's either u're too beautiful and guys r intimidated or u r repulsive..(no offense)...try engaging in activities where u meet pple and don't b particular about meeting guys
2007-06-28 18:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Cas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋