Ok .. so theres this guy *of course* and I've known him a long time, and recently he kinda asked me to be his friend with benefits. He has a girlfriend who he's been with a long time, but I do like him. I don't know what to do because I'm not that kind of girl.
2007-06-28 17:53:00 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a tough situation, especially if you like him. If he has a gf already, then chances are he's not thinking about leaving her for anyone, or else he wouldn't have asked you to be a friends with benefits. As hard as it is, I would say no, that I want the real deal with him, and that he should approach me when he breaks up with her! Remain friends with him, flirt if you like, but just DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM! Because it would mean too much to you and probably not enough to him. Hey, at least you know he's interested in you! If he didn't have a girlfriend, he might be yours. But he does, so you have to wait the relationship out. Don't sell yourself short! If you were attracted to him but didn't like him as a person, then maybe. But still that would be selling yourself short.
2007-06-28 17:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a best friend of mine was in the same situation as you. she was'nt that kind of girl either but she liked this guy so much and everyone knew it including him so he gave her the we could be friends with benefits speech. She was a virgin too and she actually pondered it for a while and decided not to. She's now happy she didnt. He's just trying to take advantage of you and since you are not that kind of girl, I wouldn't advise you to become one because you'll have a hell of a hard time trying to shake that image. atleast by telling him "no" you can hold your head up high and walk proudly and if you do go along with it, you are going to look like a fool in the eyes of everyone. believe me, he's not worth it.
2007-06-28 18:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by jdjgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what to do - to stay away from him since he has a girlfriend and he is a cheating creep.
You just don't want to stay away from him because you like him.
This is very important: He does not care about you. He wants to have sex with you only. Your heart will only get broken when you find out that him having sex with you does not make him develop feelings for you.
AND, he has a girlfriend. So he wants to cheat on her.
Don't do this.
2007-06-28 18:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by banana6464 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already answered your own question.
You 'claim' you are not that kind of girl, so why even question yourself? Unless you are considering it, and then you might be 'that kind of girl'.
If you like this guy, and he wants to cheat on his girlfriend with you, who is to say that if he ever breaks up with her and gets with you, he wouldn't do the same thing to you.
Maybe you should step back and really think if this is the type of guy you want to be liking.
2007-06-28 17:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by dorikaboom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell him NO WAY.
What is going to happen is you will become a "friend with benefits" and then your going to get really attached to him and then he could break it off whenever he wants and you will be the one left hurt.
Trust me he is so not worth your time, if he cared about you at all he would have told you that he likes you but is taken. Or would have broken up with his girl friend to be with you.
Tell him no, find someone who can treat you right.
2007-06-28 17:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by Nifty_250 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends wit hbenifits dont always mean u have to have sex with them, usually some friends with benifits are there to help you more than your regular friends can, ex. if your hungry they will give you food, if you need money they will give it to you, if u r lonley they will spend time with you or if you feel unwanted, they will luv u up and make u feel whole again... but if he has a GF and wants sex outa you, get the evidence of it and tell his GF and show her, cause no girl wants a man thats gunna cheat on her or else shes just wasting her time...
2007-06-28 18:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by Maria K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't comfortable with it, why ask at all? If you don't mind being strictly physical, the you could do it, but don't expect it to go further than that. If you start putting emotion into it, you will more than likely be very hurt and disappointed
2007-06-28 18:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that the kind of guy you want to be with. He just asked you to be the other woman
2007-06-28 17:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by Greg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then dont do it! thats putting your heart on the line...he doesnt like you he just wants to use you, dont let your heart get broken like that over some jerk. its better to never be with him then be a FWB and be used by him in a loveless relationship. the motions would all be mechanical. also you dont want to be that "other girl" dont hurt another girl just becuase of a silly crush. bc sorry to say he wont like you much beyond the FWB and if he does whose to say he doesnt do the same with some other girl if he got with you? you can get a better guy who would want to be with you becuase of YOU...not just to get with. dont hurt that other girl, dont hurt yourself....think about it..its not worth it..good luck
2007-06-28 17:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by dancerchick5287 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all there is no such thing as "that kind of girl." Fundamentally anyway. You feel what you feel and he feels what he feels. he needs to decide if you are worth potentially screwing up his current relationship for and you have to think about if you want that on your conscious.
2007-06-28 17:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by lobovicky2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋