Should I commit suicide?

Question

I'm 14 and have lost my boyfriend of 3 months to a drug overdose. He died 3 days after my birthday. He was the only person that made me feel loved. I miss him so much. I have constant thoughts about killing myself. It's really overpowering. I'm not scared about leaving my parents, only my friends. So far they are the only thing keeping me alive. What should I do?

Answer 1

Do not commit suicide, please. It will hurt so many people around you and it's selfish. Please get help. I know it's hard sometimes but you make a difference in this world and you're here for a reason. You need to talk to a parent or someone you trust and get help. Go to a therapist. Do whatever it takes. Call 1-800-Suicide. They'll listen to any problem and it doesnt cost anything.Things WILL get better!! May God Bless you!

Answer 2

You took the trouble to ask the question, so you know the answer. Just in case you don't see it; the answer is no way!

You are facing a lot of pain for one so young. How he made you feel defined who you are; before you are even old enough to know the depths of your own heart. Then too, you had little time to build a lot of memories together.

So you lost not only the feeling of being loved; but you have lost a future of memories that will never be. You need to cry about that and seek some good counseling. In all this consider the pain his death has caused you. I am sure it is not pain he intended for you. As such you must face some facts.

Your suicide would cause similar pain for you parents, your friends, and perhaps many others. Perhaps you have not thought that far ahead. In addition you must face the fact that death is not going to join you again with your boyfriend.

Everyone goes through a process and stages of grief. While you really miss him; your thoughts of suicide tell me that you are not going through the stages you need to go through. That is why you need some help that your friends and your parents may not be able to give.

Most girls your age, that I know of, would be taking this to their mom big time. Since I don't hear that from you, I am even more concerned for you.

There is something about suicide that is so obvious that it is seldom mentioned. Lots of people kill themselves because of pain; but even before the pain is the fact that they feel no more hope.

Hope is really the touch from God that keeps us all going. To lose hope by accident or by circumstance, as you have, is next to death. That is why the thought of suicide is so overpowering.

All the people answering your question are drawn to you by hope. I hope and pray that you see this and start looking for your hope and embracing your pain.

You must realize, above all, that your boyfriend, who made you feel loved, would be the first one to tell you not to throw away your hope. I would join him in that. You are not alone in your loss. Whatever you do, find your hope and keep it. Be strong and don't be afraid to keep his memory.

Answer 3

don't do it. i repeat, do not. i lost one of my closest friends to suicide 2 years ago (july 15th) and i still haven't gotten over it. i think about (and cry for) him everyday. this past summer, my now ex-boyfriend (boyfriend of almost 2 years at the time), attempted suicide. i can imagine losing a boyfriend and i'm so sorry for what you've been though and i know you can't imagine being with anyone else again, but eventually it will happen.

think about how many people your boyfriend's death impacted. would you really want to inflict that same pain on all of your loved ones? i know you're scared to leave your friends, and think about how devastated and scarred for life your friends will be if you were to leave them. your best friend will always blame herself, as will your parents (and siblings).

please don't do it. it's not the way out from the pain you're feeling. i know you miss your boyfriend, you have every right to. what you need to do is remember his love and keep him alive in your memory and in your heart. you leaving the world will only hurt those you love the most. and remember, it was not your boyfriend's intent to leave and hurt you; imagine if the tables were turned and he were still alive and you suddenly died, wouldn't you want him to continue his life and remember, but not join, you?

if you ever need someone to talk to, hit me up. i'm 17 (almost 18) and i've been there through it all. you're not alone in this.

Answer 4

If you or anyone is to think of or is thinking of suicide, then immediately call

1-800-SUICIDE

If you need or want to, I am always around feel free to IM or email me for whatever reason that is needed and I will help you with what I can.

People say often (all the time) that suicide is selfish, it is.
That you leave your family at a total loss for you but also for the answer to the major question everyone needs to know and that is WHY? But they will then live their lives as they should because the question of WHY? will never be answered for them because the only person who can answer them is the one who committed suicide. They are gone and with them are all the answers to your family and friends haunting questions.

Then on the other hand, you survive. Yeah! But wait...you are now a veggie, but aware of things. You have tubes going in and out of every opening in your body forever, if you have an itch on your nose...you can't scratch it because you are a veggie. Wait...you can ask someone to scratch it for you right? WRONG, you are awake and aware but that is it. Nothing else so you have no way of telling someone that your nose itches, so now you lay there machines breathing for you, feeding you, peeing for you, drinking for you and everything else and you can't even scratch a little itch on your nose. What a shame.

Don't be foolish no matter how dreadful it seems, there is light at the end of the tunnel and plenty of help along the way to get you thru the tunnel and closer to the light.

Be smart, ask for help. There are so many people around you wanting you to live, wanting to help you, even people such as myself, strangers, but there are no strangers in life, there are strangers in fear.

Be safe and be well.

Answer 5

I know no one can replace your late boyfriend, but just to let you know, if he was on drugs, he probably was headed down the wrong path. If you are thinking about killing yourself, you should pray. If I sound like a God-freak, I'm sorry, but it is true. It's worked for me before. And btw DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE!!!!! You only have one life to live (don't we all wish we were cats--the whole nine lives thing) and its worth living! You should talk to your parents. And if you feel more comfortable with your friends, talk to them. It'll ease your suffering. You would hurt others by killing yourself, and you might even meet another guy that might be almost as perfect as your late boyfriend. I'm sorry for all that's happened, but I'll pray for you!!! :) :) :) SUICIDE IS NOT COOL!!! YOUR LIFE IS!!!

Answer 6

I once had a very close friend who almost committed suicide. here is a point of veiw from someone on the other end of the deal:

when she told me that she was thinking about it, i cried day and night for 3 days straight. I am homeschooled, but all I did those three days was watch soap operas in my room. I ate a whole bunch and became lazy and overweight for a month. I was really scared and my life was slipping through the cracks. Do you want this to happen to your friends? you family? the people who care about you? please don't.

Answer 7

A. First of all I have to ask you,why would you want to?Think about it.You only knew a person for 3 months. They were obviously unbalanced.Your 14 for god's sake. Your not old enough to know better.Maybe your not scared to leave your parents, but what a terrible thing to do.Your poor mother carried you for 9 months. That's 6 months longer than you knew this guy for. Don't you owe her your life?But heh! If you think it's going to make a difference for you then why not? One more statistic , that's nothing.

Answer 8

Losing your boyfriend at 14 is really rough especially when you have lost him to a drug overdose. This is something that will bother you for a long time but, believe me, it will get better. You have to give life a chance to help you heal. Your friends are great to help you but they really don't know how to get you through this. You have to go to a clergyman, teacher or doctor if you can't talk to your parents. Please give an adult a chance to help you...we are not all that bad. You will be one someday and then you can use your experience to help someone just like you.

Answer 9

DEFINITELY DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE.
think of all the people that would miss you.
your parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, teachers...everyone. i'm sure you're a wonderful person, and without you the world might be missing out on someone who is wonderful. go to a psychiatrist, and get some help. the world needs you, along with all the people that love you dear. please, don't kill yourself.

i found a lot of help in an organization. i used to cut and i've had major issues with depression. check out To Write Love On Her Arms at http://www.twloha.com or http://www.myspace.com/towriteloveonherarms. you could find some support and love there.

Answer 10

please dont commit suicide!! think about how your friends and family will feel if you die. dont just think about yourself in this situation because it affects everyone around you. you say your friends are keeping you alive so you must care for them alot and they the same for you. imagine never being with them again. it isnt worth it. life gets better. im sure its hard to get over your boyfreind and i am truely sorry about that but you will find someone else eventually. you have the rest of your life to live. youve only started it!! finish it out to the end. be strong and try prying to Jesus. hes always there and always cares. no matter what. it really helps. trust me! and talk to your close friends about how you feel. if they are real friends they will stand by your side until you feel better.
best of luck and God bless!

Answer 11

i know you probably really loved your boyfriend, but you're only 14, and people have tons and tons more boyfriends after 14. you may not love them as much your old boyfriend, but someday you'll find someone else you'll want to spend the rest of your life with. just give it time. i promise you you will find happiness after this. killing yourself will only be giving up your whole life ahead of you. every hope/dream you've ever had will be dead. and i'm definately sure if your bf knew what you were feeling right now, he'd only want you to be happy and live the life he couldn't.