When someone says "I need you," does that mean "I love you"?
If sex, or need, is love, then is it true that the more need you have, the more love there is ?
Surely that implies a growing dependency, a loss of freedom!
And if love is supposed to come from people, yet it is something we all need and lack, then how can anyone provide it to another ?
2007-06-28 14:54:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What I mean is the kind of "love" - that pulls you down at the very moment it is building you up with lies !
2007-06-28 15:04:35 · update #1
C'mon let's be honest ! When a man says "I love" you - what he is really saying is "I need to use you for my ego need and it's inevitably leads to sex!
It can either be a Man and woman relationship - a Adam and Eve story revisited or a modern day screwed-up relationship between a "Adam and Steve"
Get real will you !
2007-06-28 15:08:33 · update #2
What you see in a "Adam and Steve" relationship which they also call "love" is nothing more than need and a need to be needed, poor chaps and they called themselves "gay" when they are in actual fact filled with mush sorrows and pains too deep even for words to described !
One party pretending to fulfill the need of the other (no difference in a man and woman relationship) , in order to satisfy his own need. It's a "con game"
"Conning" others and yourself that is !
2007-06-28 15:19:29 · update #3
Need is not love.
someone saying "I need you..." is putting themself ahead of the other person. That is the opposite of love, which puts the other person ahead of self.
TEK
2007-06-28 15:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by TEK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need you means I need you, I love you means I love you. Sex is better and more fulfilling when you are making love to someone who loves you back. Sex is not love.
When a man or woman finds real love the sex is amazing but it really isn't about the sex. When the sex is bad it does create problems but if you are in a real relationship sexual issues can be worked out.
I love my husband, he loves me, we love making love but have a little one who doesn't sleep much so we are not as frequent as I would like but that makes it even better.
A loss of freedom comes from a lack of respect and distrust not complete love. We are each very independent and enjoy our own thing as well as being together. We are very respectful to each other and we understand that we need to stay individuals to remain and continue to grow as an amazing couple and family.
Love comes from within. The love I give to anyone grows when it comes back. The feeling can't be given but love isn't just a feeling it is an act (not sex). I choose to love my 16 yr old when she is a noodge, I choose to love when it would be easier to shut down. If I denied her that love it would damage her for life in some way. When you give love (kindness, respect, humor) it comes back when someone gives it too you.
I hope you find it!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-28 15:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the only thing you have more of in direct proportion to how much you give away freely.
Love makes the world go 'round.
Love makes the world go 'round.
Somebody soon will love you,
If no one loves you now.
High in some silent sky
Love sings a silver song
Making the earth whirl softly
Love makes the world go 'round.
2007-06-28 15:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by hairypotto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex by itself is not love, if sex were love, hookers would be in the Guinness World of Records as the most loving people in the world.
We need a person because we love that person, when it's the other way around and we love the person because we need that person, that's plain hypocrisy.
2007-06-28 15:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by Millie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There a difference in need and love. If you need some one that doesn't always imply love. Sex is a hole different subject all on it's own.
2007-06-28 14:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by Dark Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when someone says and indicates they love and need you
and then they get with somebody else, just to collect some empty thrills on some real love
that's kind of evil, and messes with your karma
if and when you hint at it and/or admit it, it helps a little
yet, don't steal someones love for sexual kicks
2007-06-28 15:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard this somewhere...love spelled backwards is evol....it may be spelled differently but it's the same.
2007-06-28 14:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by Gir 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love them for who they are, not for what they can give you.
2007-06-28 14:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean like S&M?
2007-06-28 14:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the dark side of love is jelousy.
2007-06-28 15:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋