Ok , me and my girlfriend been together for about a year now, i love her very very much and she loves me. im 17 and shes 19, but when i met her i told her other wise and she found out but we worked it out. i have a 1 and a half year old daughter. me and my baby have a restrainin order so i never see her, and i get my daughter every weekend. i never told her and i really am scared. she asked me and i told her no but im tired of keepin it, but i kinda feel if i tell her she will leave me and il be so hurt. i really love her but i dont know should i tell her or shudnt i or how . someone please help?
2007-06-28 14:18:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is honest. If you love her, you'll tell her the truth. The further you let it go without her knowing, the worse it will be the truth comes out.
2007-06-28 14:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get your daughter every weekend, where does your girlfriend think you are every weekend? I am assuming that you mean the baby's mother has a restraining order against you from seeing her...does the girlfriend know about this?
Enough with the lies, it's time to come clean, If you love someone and they love you then there should be no reason to keep hiding something important as this.
2007-06-28 21:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by jdkkmac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, That's a hard situation to be in! Firstly, you started the relationship with a lie, so I can only imagine the trust issues you guys have in your relationship. Secondly, you've continued to lie to her, over a year a lying, that's very hurtful. Especially to someone who loves you and supposedly trying to find a way of putting the trust back into the relationship. The only way for you to rectify this would be for you to come totally clean. Some back up support might help (mom and dad!), tell her everything, have a GREAT explanation as to why you did it and them pray for her to forgive you. If she loves you she will. But again, this is a year and some worth of lying so don't think she's gonna get over it tomorrow. This is gonna take alot of work on your part. Are U up for the challenge and is she worth it to you?
2007-06-28 21:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by startinganu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y not... i don see the need to hide the truth.
honestly my bf is a married man with a son, i knew it before we start and i love him so i accept it.
kid is never the problem but you must have a clean break/divorce with your ex otherwise i believe she will leave you but defintely not for the kid.
love needs plenty of honesty, give yourself a clear conscience by telling her the truth... too bad if the reli leaves you just bcoz your have a daughter then let me tell you this lady is not so worthy of your love.
out in the world, there sure bound to be someone who loves you whole-heartedly and accept the fact that you have a daughter.
2007-06-28 21:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by overseas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loves you, she won't leave you for something like that. But, you should tell her soon. The longer you wait, the worse it will get. But if you lie to her a lot, it might be too much to handle so she could get really mad, so you shouldn't lie about important things like that, but like I said, she will understand, and maybe she has a big secret she hasn't told you.
2007-07-06 21:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you should tell her. Don't ever deny your child for another person. If that person is not interested in you because you have kid then they are not right for you. You shouldn't lie to anyone either about your age, kid or whatever. That's not a good way to start a relationship off. It will only leave her wondering what else you are lying about.
2007-06-28 21:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by panther 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot have a relationship if you do not have trust. Maybe she asked because she suspects you do, in any case she will probably eventually find out you lied again. I would suggest you learn to be honest in your relationship and future ones. If someone does not like you for who you really are, they are not the one for you or you for them. There is nothing wrong with that.
2007-06-28 21:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by MC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will more than likely hurt her because you based your relationship on a lie, but you need to come clean and tell her the truth... Who knows she might forgive you and fall in love with your daughter
2007-06-28 21:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is really such a great girlfriend and she loves you she will understand. I think you should just tell her, and explain why you were afraid to tell her the truth in the first place, and if she leaves you for that, then I dont think she is worth it.
2007-06-28 21:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
UM U ONLY HAVE A SHOT IF SHE REALLY LOVES U...MY BOYFIREND HAD A KID WHEN WE WERE ON A BREAK AND HE DENIED IT AT FIRST AND FINALLY WHEN THE KID WAS LIKE THREE MONTHS HE ADMITTED IT...IT HURT LIKE HELL AND WE BROKE UP BUT NOW WE ARE TOGETHER...I LIVE WIT HIM AND HE PICKS HER UP EVER WEEKEND...IM FINE WITH THER THE ONLY PROBLEM YOUR GIRL MIGHT HAVE IS JEALOUSY TO THINK U WILL SLEEP WIT A PERSON U OBVIOUSLY SLEPT WIT AGAIN!
2007-07-06 17:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by shortyduwap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋