is it true when you gaze into your child's eyes that you instantly "fall in love" with them?

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and was the same true for your spouse?
your grandchild?
your friend?
your neighbour?

what about someone else's child?

of course this question refers to NON SEXUAL love - even in the case of your spouse.

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Answer 1

I think with our children our love at first for them is like a house that is framed only, no walls or roof and we really dont know what to expect because it feels like love but it dont look like it. Then you see your child born, or you are presented with your child, and all the sudden the frame house starts getting completed, and Boom it hits you like a ton of bricks. I witnessed the birth of 2 of my 3 kids. And there was an immidiate connection to them as soon as I was able to see them. As if God reached down and threw the switch for each one.

Now that's Me the Dad talkin and I have no Idea how it is for you Moms, cause your relationship with your children is so much more close than ours (men that is). You feel this child grow inside you, and the joy, and the pain, and the emotion, and fear, and terror, and pleasure all rolled up into the 9 month process of carring that baby and then giving birth.

Grand Kids are the same as your own babies, but you don't even have to wait for the house to get framed, it's a prefab if ya git my drift. (especially whe you know you can borrow them, love em up and spoil them, and then give em back to Mom and Dad. How else will you be able to ensure the threat of "I hope you grow up and have kids just as rotten to you as you are to me now"!!!!)

Most men and women I know that have or had babies love any bodies baby. I love Babies, my wife and I love babies, I love to see the awe and wonder in there faces as they look and strain to see if they know who you are. I was always the great cry stopper, I can pretty much pick up a crying or illtemperate baby or toddler and hold them for a few mins and they calm down.

I knew at 1st sight I would love my wife, my ex and my present one as well. My ex and I grew apart cause we did not honor God as a couple. We both allowed sin and temptation to lead us, and although I did not want her to she wanted to be divorced.

Friends and neighbors hmmmm, some are easy to pick up on right away, and others it takes a while. I would say have many aquaintences but only a few friends.

As for other ppls kids, I sorta let the Kid be the judge, I don't encourage a childs attention, but I don't discourage it. (unless they are running willy nilly in the church house, then you gotta stop them... or run with them as the HS Leads)

In any case, and out of respect, I would want the childs parents to be near, just as I monitored my own kids association with other adults in a scocial setting (like church or at the movies or the store). I also just don't see a kid and love them at 1st sight, but in general I love kids, I was a kid myself once (still am if you ask my wife :)

Hope this answer helps.
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Answer 2

With my children, absolutely :) (Which to me points back to my previous assertion that I have never felt love to be a choice. I had no choice but to love my kids, and it was instantaneous.)

With my spouse, it was more of a fascination. I can't say whether it was "love at first sight".. and it's been so long, and has developed into such a comfortable kind of love, it's hard for me to pinpoint when it went from fascination to love.

Eyes are very important since they are so expressive. While I do not believe in souls, I do believe there is merit to the saying that the "eyes are the window to the soul". Therefore, when I look into a neighbor's eyes, or another child's eyes.. I may feel "love" or at the very least a deep respect, interest, or fondness.. or I may have an instant, almost instinctual dislike or distrust and feel the need to be cautious.

Answer 3

For me I fell in love with my child the moment I found out I was pregnant and that love grew more and more through out each stage of pregnancy from hearing the heartbeat for the first time to seeing it through ultrasound. Then came the first movements It was like little thumps, then to the big ones that at times could take your breath away. With those came the hiccups that seemed like they would never end. Next came the labor and delivery and after all the work that seems like it will never end there is my precious baby. Then all emotions flood out! Wow I went off a little bit but that is how I felt!
With my hubby I knew right away there was something special there that I had never felt. With friend I think it takes time to get to know someone. neighbor, I just moved in and met my new neighbor and I liked them right away. Other peoples kids it depends on who I love most kid right away mostly their innocents!

Answer 4

Yes my children's eyes are so adorable. So big, round, and cute!

The eyes are the most endearing and telling part of the face, revealing a lot more about someone's personality than their words. Mutual connections are made, even across a crowded room, with just a glance or piercing stare that says "Hello, how are you?". How often we dismiss the power of our eyes, to see beyond the cosmetic physical features and dive deep into someone's inner sanctum, without speaking a word.

I like eyes! The bigger the better and more beautiful! ;^D

God Bless You Ramjet! Great questions.

Answer 5

Yes, many times over, however I fell in love with my two while they were still in my tummy!! I'm going through a rough divorce right now - so I can't answer the 'spouse' one. A good grandma or friend is the same way. If they're truly trusting - the eyes have it!!!

Answer 6

It is said that the eyes are the window to the soul. I certainly have experienced a deeper connection with people when I have gazed into their eyes, I may have become conscious of my love for someone through this action, however love is not based on looking at any part of someones anatomy. I doubt you are in danger of falling in love with people at random just because you look into their eyes, even if you do it for a long time!

Answer 7

I have had more than one mother tell me I was removing her heart when I picked up a dead child.--I came to believe that.

I fell in lust with my wife--I learned to love and change--that has been over 44 years ago. children are off springs and that is a natural love--Grandchildren are a blessing for you are happy for then and for their parents. In the next few years we will learn about great grandchildren--I'm excited about that. People in general have the potential to be loved. If God can love everyone let that be my example. Someone need to be a continuum for the children of the world--We should love children because they need love to grow spiritually.

Answer 8

I don't have any children yet (too young). However, I have a little brother and look at his face melts my heart. You get the feeling of protecting him from any harm and show him affection. Children are pure and innocent. Jesus did say "let the children come to me" and to enter heaven "we must be like children". I do care about my friends, is a different type of love than what I feel for my brother but there is affection for them too.

Answer 9

I have no children so I cannot talk from personal experience but I can from observation.

My sister in law would not have anything to do with her first baby for a couple months after she was born as she had a severe case of postpartum depression so no I would say it's not automatic in all cases.

Answer 10

When my daughter was born, her eyes were open and, as I held her for the first time, I looked into her eyes, and fell totally in love with her. After 26 years that love has NOT diminished one single iota. I love her just as much NOW as when I first held her in my arms.

Raji the Green Witch