why do adults always think that teens can't be in love?

Question

hello not everyone feels the same you might have had a difrent take on things but some of of teens can fall in love no matter how young we are and its not puppy love its not a crush and its not a question im trying to let you all know that i have been in love and still am i might not have as much exsperiance as most people but the ones that say they thought they were in love and then say that they were wrong i got something to tell you if you beleave your in love than you most likely are and you were not wrong you just fell out of love you can comment on what im saying but just know that no matter what you say is not gonna change facts that we teens can fall in love and don't go saying that you know what your talking about cuz you don't you don't know how everyone feels people fall in love diffrent ways and for diffrent reasons o and don't mock my spelling some words i spell wrong cuz i want to others are mistaks who really cares peace im out

Answer 1

Teens can love, and even be "in love". What adults wish that teenagers understood, however is exactly how magnified everything seems to a teenager. Every negative event is a disaster, every new thing is the greatest thing ever, every new love is "the one" - the end all love of a lifetime. This is because the young don't have a lot of life experiences to compare them to.
I don't say this to belittle your feelings, that's not adults (your parents?) intent. It's just to try to ground you a bit. When I was young I felt the same way, I thought that nobody anywhere could have loved the way that me and my girlfriend loved each other. Looking back now though... it seems a little naive, maybe even silly. That doesn't mean our feelings weren't real, I just didn't have the same perspective and exprience that I do now.

Answer 2

Many reasons.. Teens are not really in love (not the love that adults have when one is ready for marriage or serious commitment). Teens think they are in love when its more lust they feel. Teens are immature. There is growing up to be done. Adults forget what it's like to have that teen love feeling. Some adults forget what it's like to have that hot new phase of a relationship.

Answer 3

The truth is we know teens can be in love, often the first love is the hardest to get over and the most painful. Very few teenage loves ever make it out of those teenage years. As adults we deal with different sets of problems in relationships and tend to forget about the love we felt in our teenage years because sometimes the memories are too painful or that love was so much better than what we have now, so it is best not to remember it. We tend to not take teens feelings in consideration and just say " you'll get over it" or "he was not worth it" or even "it's just puppy love and not important". We also say these things just to be saying something because we know we can't fix the heart that has been broken. We hope the very best for our children and friends children and we always hope that what you feel is not true love because we want better for you, yet no one will ever be good enough. I know I rambled a bit but I hope this answers your question some.

Answer 4

I am an adult but I remember being a teen and I was always "in love". I now have a 16 year old boy who is "in love"....and I absolutely believe him. The thing is...you can be "in love" but not have experience enough to make the relationship work. That really is the point you know....of falling in love. You have to put up with the person when you get married and they don't look or act so loving as they used to. The trick is to figure out what the guy is really like when he is not trying to impress you. If you can spend time with him around his family...especially his mother...and watch the way he treats her...you will see how he will probably be later on in life with you. Good luck and do listen to experienced people so you won't have to make all the mistakes to learn.

Answer 5

First of all, "love" is rather hard to define. It is true that it is a strong affection for another person, but that is still a subjective definition. My point is this: If you believe you love someone then I guess you do. That doesn't mean that it is reasonable to get married and it doesn't mean you won't break up next week or next month. You can love one person today, and another next week. Adults probably don't believe that teen agers can't be in love, but rather that the teens will probably change partners several times before they decide to get married. The only danger in teen "love" is that you might be blind to the faults of the other person and if you marry or get pregnant, or fail to socialize with lots of other male and female teen friends you will miss a splendid opportunity that will not come around again. From someone who is at the other end of life, my advice is to spend your early years getting an education or traveling, having as many friends as possible, and not getting too attached to material things or any one person. The time will pass quickly and when you look back at your young years you should look back with great pleasure, not regret.

Answer 6

Look, us adults were young once too and felt just like you guys do now. What your feeling and saying is nothing new believe me. The truth of the matter is that young love is just that, young. You guys don't realize that your first love won't actually be your one and only but it will be the one you'll never forget. You will have so many g/f and b/f in and out of your lives until you finally find the right one. It's like trying on shoes to see which one fits best. Right now you guys are just trying to find out who you are and what your place is in the world and dealing with relationships is hard enough, just check out the questions you guys ask on the board here! To you guys your love is real and I don't mock any of you for what you feel, just know that you will feel that way for more than one person in your lifetime.

Answer 7

Because some young kids claim they are in love when it's only physical attraction and not even puppy love. The fact is, most people don't know what love is. Teens can fall in love, but not every time they claim they fell in love. In most cases they are wrong. I know I have felt it and I'm a teen and what not so it's definitely possible. But I also remember claiming to have felt it and now realizing that that was total bs. So, the point is that people have a valid reason to disbelieve us.

Answer 8

I'm sorry, but that's all one, long, run-on sentence and I don't understand what you are asking? I can deal with the spelling, but it's hard to understand where one thought ends and the next begins without periods and capitol letters. I'm not meaning to be rude, it's just really hard to understand.

Love is not a feeling. It's a choice. You choose to love someone or you don't choose to love someone. That queasy, mushy, all emotional feeling is lust. In the average (adult) relationship it lasts about 8-12 months for the female and 24-30 months for the male.

You don't "fall out of love". You fall out of lust. That's when the work of love comes in. You have to choose to love that person. I'm not saying a teen can't be in love, I just believe they usually confuse it with lust.

When you are an adult you will understand. I'm sorry if this is hard to except, but all the adults can't be wrong.

Answer 9

I'm a teenager, and adults don't always think we can't fall in love, they just know what it was like when they were younger and they remember their own experiences. The only thing is, they aren't there through everything that goes on with our partners. Things have changed, and people have changed. It's always going to be that way. Adults are entitled to their opinion just as much as we're entitled to ours. You don't believe what they say, and some of them don't believe what you have to say. I know that teenagers can fall in love because I am very much in love with my boyfriend right now. But I'm also not 14 or 15.

Answer 10

Of course people who have already gone through something or a stage of life can tend to act superior because that's the only pleasure left to them. You can fall in love at any age, but I can shudder thinking about the potential pain of it, so I would tend to shrug it off too. Life is not easy and at a young age there's a good chance that love won't last.... but I guess that's true at any age.