I have been holding on to my virginity and saving it for a loving, committed relationship with a woman who shares the same feelings for me as I do for her. I wouldn't care if she wasn't a virgin, but I have high standards for myself. Unfortunately, I have never been fortunate enough to have been involved in such a relationship with a woman. I've dated off and on over the years, but without any luck. I'm not ugly or disfigured or anything like that, I'm average looking, tall, slim, I am healthy, and I exercise often. I live alone in an apartment, and I can function, cook clean, and care for myself just fine. IThe big issue is that I'll be turning 36 in August, and I am still a virgin. Sometimes I feel like I have cheated myself by continuing to do what I've felt in my heart was the 'right' thing to do. I feel like I am really, really not normal being as old as I am, and still as much a virgin as I was when I was born. Any thoughts?
2007-06-28 12:56:28 · 13 answers · asked by CAMERON S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I admire your morality and discipline. i suggest you start dating more, and gain some real experience with women. Dating is a tricky thing, and you don't want to wait for Ms. Right to learn how to do it. She might not wait around long enough for you to get it right. Honestly, most guys have to mess up a few relationships until they can get one right.
2007-06-28 12:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you did something that you thought was right, and that is perfectly fine. I think it's amazing that you stuck to it for so long and you should continue to do so until you find someone you want to share that with. I mean if you look at it this way, you've waited 36 years....don't stop and do it with someone who isn't the right woman for you. Keep going until you find that woman that totally connects with you and you can give her an extremely special gift since you're a virgin. I give major props to you for sticking to what you thought was right. I hope you find the right woman soon, and God bless you.
2007-06-28 13:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong. It is abnormal in today's standards but going against the majority does not make you wrong. If you let go of the standards you will degrade yourself. Congratulations on being such a strong person and good luck with the future.
2007-06-28 13:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by wgar88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you raised in a particular religion, are you happy because if you are it doesn't really matter if you are a virgin or not, in reality no one will no only you. I believe you need some therapy because although sex is not the key to happiness we are human and we need some kind to intamacy in our life, HOW do deal with that, do you feel alone, again i am not talking about sex, but to be with someone and share more then just words, you know warmth, caring for someone or someone caring about you, seek for answer in church settings , pray to god to give you light and understanding in your life and the answer will be revealed to you, good luck
2007-06-28 13:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by karen c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Pope is a virgin too and he's like in his 60s.
2007-06-28 13:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. that is true...but sex is wonderful. Do you want to die a virgin just to hold onto that belief? I think at this point in your life you should go out and experience it.
2007-06-28 13:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait.You have strong belief and principle about your virginity .keep it.You shouldn't ask people opinion about that's a personal choice you made.You waited this long why are you asking yourself the question now??
2007-06-28 13:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely. The world keeps feeding us an image that macho men are the only men who are happy and satisfied with themselves. Don't buy into it. Save yourself for someone you really love. If anyone tells you otherwise, tell them to go sc*** themselves.
2007-06-28 13:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by William D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think about virginity ... just get looking around.... go with the nicest people you can find... and follow the buzz! You will find her ....
love,
Darjeeling
2007-06-28 13:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're on the right track.
I assure you that there are many women who would love to meet you.
2007-06-28 12:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋