I started dating a guy about a month ago. Things were going so well! We'd see each other 2-3 times a week, he'd talk about taking me on a road trip, or play guitar and sing to me, and said so many sweet things. He had me come over and hang out with his friends, you name it. All signs pointed towards the start of a relationship.
Then I mentioned the word "relationship". He hasn't called me or returned a message I wrote him a few days ago. In the message, I admitted that I might have rushed him, and that I didn't mean to, but it had felt right at the time. I let him know that I just look forward to us getting to know one another better, because I think he's a great guy. I said "You could be a player, but I don't get that feeling from you".
And he still won't respond. Why would he have gone from hot to cold, in an instant? I am thoroughly confused and hurt a bit.
What can I do now to repair this relationship, and let him know I never meant to rush him?
Thanks everyone!
2007-06-28 12:52:28 · 8 answers · asked by confused4589 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, if you mentioned relationship and he stopped talking to you then he doesn't want what you want. Or he's not ready. When you see him, just be polite and tell him to his face that you think he's a great catch and hope to hang out with him again soon
2007-06-28 12:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by BUTTERCUP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he pannicked! He probably wasn't ready for a "relationship" to guys this implies you have to be exclusive, and that soon she will start saying an even "scarier" word; marriage! I think he still wants to date other women and he is not ready to make a final choice yet. I think if he really cares for you, he will contact you on his own; if you never hear from him again, it is because he probably didn't care for you as much as you thought.
2007-06-28 13:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Flying Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've done all you can, if you continue to email or call him, it might make it worse. if he doesnt reply in a day or so, just let it go. he's obviously not that great of a guy if he is going to shut you out of his life with no communication. you'll be happier without him in the long run. :)
2007-06-28 13:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by heart2heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything to repair this relationship cuz he obviously doesn't want a relationship. Don't be sad, if he runs at the thought of a relationship, then you don't want him anyway!
2007-06-28 12:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by k8r9i8s8ti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start of a relationship ...doesn't include others at all ... only AFTER it is... would you include other friends......What r you doin talking about a relationship when you just met the guy?If he wants something w/you he will let you know..........
2007-06-28 13:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by quen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy was just looking for a buddy then a girlfriend. You are on a different level then him and yeah you scared him away.
2007-06-28 12:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by courious girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might have rushed him, but it was good of you to admit it to him. if he doesn't answer then you did all that you could do. just wait and go on with your life.
good luck
2007-06-28 13:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by TayTayLuv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u crushed him
people are fragile
when you take somebody's heart and crush it, then maybe he thinks you did it just for fun maybe
or to meet a sick need for hearts
then he thinks maybe don't ever give it anymore
2007-06-28 12:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋