( I should have asked this question before the other one ) :)
anyway - do you think we have a choice to love or not to love someone?
2007-06-28 12:49:53 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hi Kallan: I don't know... I tried to change the picture to my "wedding" picture and it won't show.... :(
(I know I've done it all right cause I've done it before)
now I don't even know if I can get the other one back.
2007-06-28 13:04:58 · update #1
(((Darryl)))) can you help me get my avatar back??
2007-06-28 13:07:30 · update #2
darryl... you've just inspired my next question then! LOL watch for it....
2007-06-28 13:08:59 · update #3
yes Love is more than just a feeling (felling is only a small part) you have to choose to love someone, it is a decision to you make that starts with respect. you must also choose to stay in love and it something to work at, tell your loved ones that you care, not just your spouse and children, but your family and friends as well.
2007-06-28 14:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Noble Angel 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that the English language is inept with the term Love....there are so many different types of love...When specifically speaking of love for the unlovely or God's Agape love..then love can be a choice or discipline....Obviously the deep friendship love akin to Jonathan and David in the Old Testament is a deep caring type of love...which involves deep seated emotions (this was not a homosexual relationship by the way) a "Philadelphia love" ......The love between a man and woman can incorporate both deep seated emotional caring and often incorporates a discipline of love as well. "Aaros love"
2007-06-28 20:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by bonsai bobby 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, love is not a fuzzy feeling it is an act of the will. This is very important because I have seen alot of people kissy face their aging relatives as they drop their butt in a nursing home and never visit them and I have also seen someone who did not do alot of kissy stuff but was always there to wash and feed and make sure the loved one was cared for. This is the hardest thing to do as you do not see the most pleasant part of a suffering person and it really takes more to love them it takes an act of the will.
2007-06-28 20:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by Midge 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do. Love is a decision. Your emotions may make it easier or harder to love someone, but love is a decision to be patient, kind, not take offense, not envy or be proud, etc. Read 1 Cor. 13 to learn what the characteristics of love are. Practice those things with other ppl, and you'll be choosing to show love to ppl. How you feel is different. Love isn't an emotion, it's a decision. If love were an emotion, God would've stopped loving Adam and Eve the moment they sinned and killed them.
2007-06-28 19:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by STEPHEN J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have so many good answers on this one, I will just concur with the belief that while attractions happen, love is a choice and a commitment. The exception to this is the universal reaction we all have over the birth of our children and grandchildren. They are part of us, and to not love them on first sight is unnatural.
2007-06-29 00:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by One Wing Eagle Woman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. I don't think that attraction is a choice. As for love... I can describe it best by telling you a story. A friend of mine had her husband leave her for another woman. It was a woman who worked for the same company that he did, but he wasn't in the same department, so he didn't need to see her on a daily basis. When he left my friend, he said (about the other woman) "We just fell in love. We couldn't help it...you can't help who you love." In this case I beg to differ. When he met her, he felt attracted to her. Now *that* can't be helped. But he also ate lunch with her in the cafeteria. He met up with coworkers--including her-- for drinks after work. He walked her to her car. He spent *time*, that he didn't need to spend, with a woman other than his wife. In a case like that, I don't accept "You can't help who you fall in love with...".
2007-06-28 20:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jess H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as with other things we choose to do, by the will of our flesh. If we open ourselves to love, we also must accept that loving others also will get us hurt many times. So, we ponder about making the step to love unconditionally, no matter what, even without expecting it back.
2007-06-28 19:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. G™ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, love is a choice. Of course I am sure you know there are different types of love. It would not be appropriate for me to love a child in the same way I would love a lover.
2007-06-28 19:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by in a handbasket 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit late :p
I don't believe love is a choice. At least, I've never experienced it that way. That doesn't mean it's not possible to convince yourself that you have love for someone.. but is that real love? I don't know :)
2007-06-30 14:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually no, i don't believe it's a choice, sometimes yes, but this is not the base or the standard........... it happens that you fall in love without even knowing, and sometimes you need to stop that love from growing but you can't ........ it's something deep in your heart that you are not able to change, unless you are heartless.
aaah !! of course i don't mean you by being heartless :D
thanks brother, nice question.
peace be upon you.
2007-06-28 20:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by . 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋