My bf and I have been dating for a while now and currently live together. I recently completed graduate school and am working on getting myself established. My bf is a senior in college and will be graduating in May.
I am a few years older than him (I'm 28 and he's 25) and while I'm not ready to get married tomorrow, I do want to get married within the next 3-4 years. We've talked about marriage and he has told me he wants us to get married but school comes first before anything. He wants to get himself established first before marriage.
I realize that it will take him a while to get situated after graduation and I am trying to decide whether I should wait for him or not. Should I wait for him?
2007-06-28 12:45:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a recent graduate of graduate school, I am sure you know that getting "established" is a relative term. What are your yardsticks (and his) for measuring when you have become established---becoming the CEO, a fat bank account, a mansion etc.Are you certain you are going to be in the position that you want within the next 3-4 years during which you want to be married? You get my point! what I would suggest is that you both pursue your individual goals . However, don't forget each other or your common goals in the process. Or else, there might not be "two of us "in the long run. As an aside, what made you believe that you will be settled ahead of your boyfriend and would have to wait for him?Don't you think it could turn out to be the other way around?
2007-06-28 13:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, you wouldn't even be asking this question...if you're in love, you'll wait for him-no matter how long he takes! Respect him-he has a point....he needs to be able to get everything together that he needs to so the two of you can live happily ever after! This definitely means he wants to take care of you! good luck
2007-06-28 19:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by BUTTERCUP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez. You need to wait. He sounds very responsible. Graduating college and getting a good job to support you FIRST is VERY important... why would you think about not being with him because he is a responsible, good guy who wants to do the right thing?
LOL if you won't take him, I will.
2007-06-28 19:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him and want to marry him, wait. i mean if you get married right away, he still has to finish school and establish himself. you guys are already living together, you don't want to put extra stress on a good thing.
2007-06-28 19:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by damalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him there is no question about it, you should wait. A man likes to feel secure and thats probably his way of doing it. It is actually a very smart move on his part, you should be proud of him.
2007-06-28 19:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jacob's Mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..It is stupid to jump into things..if you two are really in love than what is a couple of years..if not it wasn't meant to be.
2007-06-28 19:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋