okay well my boyfriend is 24 and he has a female friend who messages him all the time she call him he calls her and they went out to lunch and he promised he wouldnt take her on the back of his bike and he did and he tryed to lie about it and i found out the truth we have been fighting over this and i told him to pick me or her and he said that theres nothing going on and i am just talking about something i dont know about and there just friends a couple months before he did something that made me distrust him he had some lady from work over they were drinking and watching a movie together and that is something you dont do when you are in a relationship i felt betrade backstabed it hurt what do i do about this?
2007-06-28 11:43:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love him very much i would do anthing for him and he loves me but why is this going on why is he acking this way what does it mean
2007-06-28 12:21:43 · update #1
Men have three kinds of women in their lives: women they are related to, women they have had sex with, and women they want to have sex with.
2007-06-28 11:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by jonnyexcel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not serious, that's fine, just know that the other relationship will not remain innocent or maybe already has been less than innocent. If you are nuts about this guy you better find out if he really feels the same for you because if you two are a couple, then he has to cut back on the female friend. Hormones can be very strong and massaging can lead to things a lot more intimate.
2007-06-28 11:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by William D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound super controlling. How would you feel if he told you that you couldn't deal with men on any level? When I first started dating, my bf would constantly accuse me of cheating every time I saw a guy friend. I ended up losing some really close, true friends. I told him that if he gets mad everytime I hang out with a guy that I'll leave him. Without trust, a relationship doesn't exist. I don't want a controlling man. He apologized and hasn't tried to control me since. Your boyfriend doesn't need a controlling girlfriend. Does that mean he can't talk to his mom? If he's calling and having phone sex with these women then yeah, you'll want to leave him. But if you don't trust him... why are you with him? I had a controlling friend. She would always look through her bf's phone, and harass anyone with a girl's name. One day his mom sent an 'I love you, see you tomorrow' text. So she called her up and flipped out on her. Within the hour, my ex friend was kicked to the curb for insulting his family. Be careful with your jealousy. It will kick you in the butt sooner or later. I suggest telling him you aren't ready for a relationship. Leave him before something horrible happens to the both of you.
2016-05-22 01:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok for guys to have some female friends. But if you have a bf and he has a lot of them, and he hangs out with them more than you than there is a problem. Like its ok if they hang out sometime, but if they go to like movies, and stuff like that then i would get a little mad. If you talked to him and he says nothing is happeneing but you see that there is deffinatly something. Then dump him, you may not want to. But it may help a lot. Or just tell him if he doesnt tell you the truth about these other girls then he looses you. If he still doesnt tell you the truth dump him!! If a guy like that wants to be an @$$ then let him. You shouldnt have to put up with that. So if it gets worse or he still doesnt tell you the truth....DUMP HIM!!
2007-06-28 11:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is okay to have friends of the oposite sex. the problem comes when they lie and keep things from you to make you feel like there is something going on. If he is Lying to you then maybe you should dump him. Not for having a female friend, but for being a liar. If you can't trust him, then why bother?
2007-06-28 11:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by planetnoelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cool for ppl to have friends of the opposite sex but sounds like he has more intentions than just friends! Try getting you a male friend and act the way he does if it bothers him then he is up to more than just friends!! I'd lose him and try to find someone that can be with one person at a time!!
2007-06-28 11:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by one_redneckmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally it is ok for a guy to have girl friends. My BF has tons of friends that are girls. But right now, I dont know if you should believe him! He sounds a little strange. Find out if he has anything to do with that girl then decied what to do. If you believe him then stick with him.
2007-06-28 11:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by Michie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY THING I CAN TELL YOU IS - IF YOU DONT TRUST HIM, HE ISNT REALLY YOUR BOYFRIEND. ATLEAST NOT IN THE LITERAL SENSE. YOU HAVE TO HAVE TRUST, FIRST AND FOREMOST, AND WITHOUT IT YOU WILL ONLY CONTINUE TO QUESTION EVERYTHING HE TELLS YOU. I HAVE PLENTY OF FRIENDS - BOTH BOY AND GIRL, AND I HAVE ALSO BEEN BLESSED WITH A VERY TRUSTING HUSBAND. YOU HAVE TO KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP CAN WITHSTAND EVEN THE CLOSEST OF FEMALE FRIENDS....IF YOU DONT, THAN MAYBE YOU SHOULD THINK ABOUT WHAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP ACTUALLY IS.
2007-06-28 11:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by litlbigdg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is your bf tell the other girls go or I do if he says you don't know what your talking about turn and walk away if he says what the matter you when you figure out what this relationship means call me tell me
2007-06-28 11:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With boundries yes.I wouldn't be happy but I would allow it.From time to time I might want to hang with them.Tell him how you feel. I know it sucks.I had to ask my boyfriend to chose at one point.
2007-06-28 12:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋