ok so i have been going with this boy i know for a year now! and he is soo special 2 me i dnt care wat no 1 says... i mean out of all my ex's he has to be the best boyfriend i have had in my life at 14yrs old..i mean we are in love this can't be puppy love,i really care 4 him hes the 1st guy i truly kissed and meant it. the 1st guy i went to the movies with(several times) i love this guy.... plus hes in 10th now and hes goin to be on a really good basketball team at this good school..(we dnt go to the same school) anyways he says hes in love with me and wouldn't leave me cold like(goin wit another girl)but its just i been hurt so many times i dnt know whether to actually believe it bcuz i know how boys can be. i mean the love is there but my Q IS what can i do to really believe him? and make sure our relationship dnt turn out bad? i heard high school can change ppl....
and im scared of losing him...
thanks 4 the advice!
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2007-06-28 10:51:14 · 16 answers · asked by ♥Classii1♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
haha.
2007-06-30 09:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by alysssaa. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 14 you can't possibly be in love. Not real love. There's more to relationships than kissing and going to the movies. But since I remember what it's like being a teenager and having strong feelings and thinking it was love I'll offer you some advice. Take this time while you're young to date lots of boys. Find out what you like what you don't like. Date different "types" of boys so that when you are an adult you will know what kind of man you want. 14 is too young to worry about one boy. High school does change people, because that's when they mature a little and discover who they are. Since you both go to different schools it will be hard to maintain a relationship. So date this boy whenever you can, but don't close your mind to other options. Leave it between both of you that you are free to date other people.
2007-06-28 11:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take this from a 22 year old.. I sounded just like you at that age. Its true somet hings go on beyond high school.. but... its a hard existence.. I've know at leat 10 people that stayed together all of highschool.. got out.. and then suddenly they do not know what to do after it.. In the realworld.. you don't have classes and football games to keep you together..
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Just don't have sex... it will screw you and him up... all guys are nice.. untill they get some and crave something different..
You can never believe a young guy.. because he WILL CHANGE.. a 14 /o is different thing
2007-06-28 11:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by Monique A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Highschool does change people. You can't really ensure that you two are going to be together forever. Just trust what he says until that trust is broken. I'm sure you feel like you love himd and that's great, but you need to realize that you are 14 and if you guys break up 4 years down the road you'll look at this situation so much differently.
2007-06-28 10:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by angel. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 14 years old....you couldn't have been hurt too much, you're not even technically old enough to date by yourself. Given the fact that you have no idea what a real relationship is, what real problems are, the relationship probably won't last past high school if it lasts longer than 6 months. There is no way to know if he loves you, you either trust him or you don't. If you don't trust him, then why are you with him?
2007-06-28 10:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way too much time is spent on this
get busy with your academics
Does your parents know your online at 14 looking for answers about boys...ridiculous,,,High School does change people, you have to be kiddding with this question.
Get out you Math home work
NOW!
actually as I reread your question, go get your spelling book instead or the dictionary.. Jeeeesh
2007-06-28 10:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are goin 2 da same high school then you can have a long relationship with him and if you are goin 2 different highschools. its hard for it to last. also watch out for when he gets ready make sure you use a condom. high school is when da men just get horny.
2007-06-29 05:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by ihottie32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well frst of all a relation ship is based on trust and love. u have the luv part down(i can tell) but u are a little confused about the trust part. every gurl should be confused about that part because boizz r heartbreakers well most of them. and u have to figure out a way to put yur relatino ship to a test and see if he really wont hurt u u noe him best and u will noe wat test to give him or challenge. best of luck! u will do great.
2007-06-28 10:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you really love him then you will just have to trust him. believe him and if something does go wrong then dont let it take you over..but if you really care about him then you will believe him. oh ya and a lot of ppl will say ur to young to be asking like this and blah blah blah but i dont tihnk so..my bro just went through this.........they were together for 2 yrs and they JUST broke up. and he is 14 now....
2007-06-28 10:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally believe that you guys love each other. normally i dnt believe it but i actually believe ur story. i have a frend that's fourteen and she's dating this guy and they are soo in luv- it's the real thing- just like u guys. so wat i say is that i think you should just trust him... and keep surprising him and reminding him how much u love him and you wont lose him.
2007-06-28 10:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by shorty babee 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just kiss him and after you guys kiss see if he wipes his mouth with his hand,if he does then dont believe him in anything he says to you that makesyou feel good or special.
2007-06-28 10:57:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋