Why does it seem like everyone is getting married left and right? I am 20 and it seems like I have met so many people lately who are engaged or married. Most people don't even wait until they've been together for over a year! I know a girl who was dating a guy for two MONTHS and they just got married! Didn't even get engaged! What is going on? Why isn't anyone waiting until they know the other person anymore?? I told my friend I wanted to wait until my boyfriend was out of college (three more years), and he told me that was so long away, and asked me "what if it never happened?" Why is everyone in such a rush?
2007-06-28 10:41:57 · 13 answers · asked by britney487 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What it sounds like is anecdotal reasoning. Maybe it seems like it to you, but it's not really a trend. The national average is 25 for females and 27 for males.
2007-06-29 08:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. With divorce rates running about 50% seems like a little caution would be called for. At your age there is often almost a mass hysteria. Everyone is getting married and if you don't you might miss out. This is wrong thinking and you are right to be putting the brakes on. Wait until the right person comes along and the idea of not being married is too much to bear.
2007-06-28 10:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Don 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not really a trend. It's just today, most people aren't taking the time to get to know that special someone before taking "the plunge". It's sad, but sometimes it works out, most of the time it doesn't.
My 1st ex, I knew 14 mos and married it failed after 14 yrs. My 2nd ex, I knew 8 mos. married, and it failed after 16 yrs. My current fiance' and I are the BEST of friends and we've been dating for 6 yrs. I believe this one will last.
Just don't be in a rush because everyone else is. You will find the right one when the time comes and you will know when it's right. Take the time to get to know each other very well and be sure that's who you want to wake up next to for the next 50 years. I wish I had taken my own advice a whole lot sooner and also wish I had met my future husband 30 years ago.
Good luck to you and GOD bless.
2007-07-02 06:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanna know something? Most of those people "rushing" into it at such a young age are looking for nothing more than to relive their prom with them getting to be the queen this time around! They don't really want the reality of marriage, just the event.
It sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders as far as the fall backs to rushing things...just stick with what you feel is right for you. And hey...if in 6 mos you change your mind and feel that "there's no time like the present"...then go with it....
basically, right or wrong its to each his own!
2007-06-28 11:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, im in the same boat as you. im 21. 2 of my three brothers are getting engaged, several people i graduated with are already married with children, another friend of mine is getting married in about a half a month, and i myself am engaged. now, one of my brothers has been with his girl for five years, and they have been through all sorts of stuff so i know thats real. my other brother was offically dating the girl he is marrying for about a month, but they had known each other for a longggggg time so its nothing weird to us. the people i graduated with who are already married, well, thats a little weird to me, id rather make absolutly certain i could afford it first (which is why im not getting married for another two years), and the other friend of mine who is getting married is getting married in a hurry because they really do love each other and due to some weird army rule (they are both in the army) they have to get married before he gets promoted because they cant marry down. so everyone has their reasons, whether or not we understand them, they wouldnt be doing it if they didnt feel it was right. hopefully the love really and truely is there.
2007-06-28 10:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Around your age, people are out of high school and have likely decided that it's time to be an adult and without thinking very long, decide to get married because they want the stability of the family home that they recently left or will be leaving soon. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
2007-06-28 11:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by Barbie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be better to wait. My husband and I met in 1995, has our daughter in 2000 and got married in 2004. We are very happy. My sister's children on the other hand...not so happy. Two of them got married young (early 20's) and they are both divorced now.
2007-06-29 01:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Gaia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, as you pass 20, people are going to start getting married and you will be around it all the time. You will learn to deal with it, and get on with your life.
Don't rush into anything, half the people you meet will get a divorce anyway for marrying too young.
2007-06-28 10:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no rush, wait, get to know him better, there is plenty of time to get married and then you can still live together or live separately. Marriage is not a game, many people marry and divorce soon after.
2007-06-28 11:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Daniela P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a trend. Five years ago, I got married and it seemed like all my friends were too. Now, it seems like everyone is getting pregnant. It just goes with age.
2007-06-28 12:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋