Questions about marrage pertaining to 2 Corinthians 6:14?

Question

Heres the story. My finace and i have both been brought up in the Catholic church. Now i must admit , over the years we grew to a point where we both felt that we were not getting anything out of it. So we started going to other churches. Some of them were great , some were too political in ways. Lately , we've been attending a local Church here in town , and its good. But , i at the same time have been feeling , or should i say , feeling led , with the inclination of going back to Catholic Church. Some of her friends and a former Pastor of our say that if i do , then we would be " Unequally Yoked". In my understanding of that , i thought it had to do with a believer being with a non believer. She says if i do , then i should consider the relationship over. I personally feel its wrong , we are on the same level , just different Churches.

Btw , we have been together for 6yrs on and off. People go through changes over time. But we have always gotten back with each other.

Answer 1

*Is Catholic*

Ah the joys of people having different faiths with one being hostile!

First, very glad to hear that you are going back to the Catholic Church. If you have questions or need good books to read, let me know.

Now your question:
First, let me say that I am very sorry for your situation. You have the correct understanding of 2 Cor 6:14. Check good bible commentaries and ones from different Christian groups.

There is a VERY large underlying problem here. The problem is that your finance, her friends, and former pastor do not like the idea of you heading towards Catholicism at all. Now I cannot tell you if she is being pressured to feel the way that she does or if that is her true feelings. All I can tell you is that this group of people doesn't like the idea at all.

So your future unfortunately is rough.

You need to buy these books now.
No Price too High: A Pentecostal Preacher Becomes Catholic: Alex Jones
Surprised by Truth: by Patrick Madrid (this is a series).
The Spirit and Forms of Protestantism by Bouyer
Rome Sweat Home by Hahn

These will give you the tools to work things out with her . They are not per say apologetic books, they are helpful for understanding the trouble and ways of avoiding it in situations like yours (only low church protestants say what she said and the books that I gave you are primarily low church).

The situation that you have before you needs to be worked out because it is such a situation that if left unchecked and you two get married will result in divorce at a later date because she/her friends/former paster will increasingly resent you becoming Catholic (or acting Catholic), and you will increasingly resent being told what to do and believe. If there is any unequally yoking going on, it is because she/her friends/former pastor will be the ones causing it by not respecting you.

So buy those books, talk to a priest, and really really talk with her.

God bless you!

Answer 2

Can a Baptist date a Pentecostal? Can a Lutheran date a Catholic? The most important issue is whether both individuals know Jesus Christ as Savior. The Bible speaks of being "unequally-yoked" (2 Corinthians 6:14), but this only refers to believers and unbelievers. It does not refer to two believers who happen to have some beliefs that are different.

If both individuals know Jesus Christ as Savior, there is no reason, Biblically, that they could not date and/or marry. However, that is not to say there will not be potential problems and issues. When / if the relationship becomes serious and is potentially leading towards marriage, the couple must sit down and come to an agreement on what church to attend. If there are major disagreements in doctrinal beliefs, the couple must agree to disagree, and at the same time agree on how to raise your children, and agree on how to live out the Christian faith. It is best for a couple of agree doctrinally...but the most important issue is faith in Christ, love for one another, and a desire to have a God-honoring relationship.
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Sadly, the two-church family most often crops up in marriages where one spouse was raised Roman Catholic and the other was raised in a Protestant denomination. In situations such as these, it would have been wise for the couple not to marry. If a marriage has already taken place, the couple should strive for spiritual unity. Two people entrenched in their different doctrinal positions are often very difficult to compromise and reconcile - but with God, all things are possible. A couple in such a situation may be forced to attend different churches, especially if one or both spouses consider the other spouse's beliefs to be unbiblical. In such a situation, both spouses should commit to praying that truth be revealed and spiritual unity be achieved.

These doctrinal conflicts must be resolved in a family before true unity can be achieved. A couple attending different churches must be willing to hold everything they are taught up to the light of Scripture and be ready to discard anything that is contradicted by the Bible. They must “test all things and hold fast to that which is true” (1 Thessalonians 5:21).

Answer 3

Becoming married with two different religions the churches see as unevenly yoked. You both are catholics and were brought up that way.It makes a marriage more difficult.You both believe but do you believe in the same way.Its not like catholic vs Baptist is it?
If you want to get out of politics you both would have to agree on becoming witnesses.They are the only ones not involved with politics.Satan is turning the world his way.But even though its hard you can be married but, its a rough road.You are getting advice from a very uneven yoked marriage.Baptist vs JW.
Its hard but Gods greatest gift is Love.John 5:29

Answer 4

If you get married and both attend different churches, then you will be unequally yoked. This verse is about having the same principles and beliefs even on a nraaow scale.

Think about it, after you have children, both of you will want to raise the children with your own specific beliefs, and the children will be pulled in two different directions. If you are equally yoked, then you will pull in the same direction in all things.

Consider two amgnets; similar poles repel each other, and opposite poles attract. This does not give permission fr you to mary somebody that is completely different because as you consider the magnets even closer, you will notice that they both point in the same direction. When the like poles are pointing to each other, they repell each other because they are pointing in opposite directions.

Answer 5

I was a catholic but now am an evangelical christian. Unequally yoked mainly does mean a believer with a non-believer. So in that aspect you are correct. The issues you will have to deal with are still many especially if you have kids.
infant baptism, confession, confirmation, praying to dead saints, the rosary are just a few issues that catholics and other christian religions differ on.

Answer 6

Welcome home.

I, too, sojourned elsewhere for a time and was called back home to our Catholic faith. Learn why, though. Take time to understand the beauty and fullness of Catholic teaching and the Sacraments. I'd encourage you to seek out a Catholic Bible study and retreats to help you on your journey. I've listed a couple of websites that have info that helped me.

If you have not yet, share your feeling with your fiance. You may invite her with you but don't demand anything.

To answer your question, 2 Cor 6:14 does not truly apply here. It is up to you and her to make sure that nobody tries to drive you apart. If she decides to remain in her current church community, you two will have to decide for yourselves how to live your life and how to raise any children God blesses you with. Both of you will have to make sure that nobody outside interferes.

Good luck and congratulations on your pending nuptials.

Answer 7

Your fiance has interpreted "unequally yoked" as meaning the difference between a Catholic and non-Catholic. It does not have to mean this, but that is how your fiance has defined it.

I think it is wrong for her to have the attitude she has, but that is who she is. She does not want to be with a Catholic, even if that Catholic is you. She does not want you to be the person that you are - a Catholic. If she has given you THAT kind of ultimatum, then it may be time to separate.

Bobby Jim,

It is best to keep ones moouth shut and appear to be a fool, than to open it and remove all doubt.

Answer 8

You are right,but if she is that religious,you will always be wrong to her.If you are open about religion and understand that it was written by man for his own purpose,why not just go with what is important to her.Jesus never put one religion above another.He never said a Protestant was less than a catholic.This is crap put in by man to make a better following,and make him feel superior.If it was me,i would move on and find someone more in tune with your beliefs.

Answer 9

I think you need to make a clear distinction between your relationship with your fiance and your relationship with God. Make sure you have a "born again" relationship with God through Jesus first and foremost. Then ask God to help you with your other relationship.

The Catholic Church needs born again believers at every level. But is that your calling? Ask God.

Answer 10

It's between believers and non-believers...but you should at least find a church that you both agree on...

people twist and turn the scripture alot of times to fit what they want at that time...