What's up with people?? "theme" weddings?

Question

Isn't the damn wedding a theme of it's own? Everyone I know is either doing something tacky or making their cake topper their theme? What gives?
Can't people just have a normal wedding these days.....

Answer 1

people seem to want to get married only so that they can live out their wedding fantasies and not because they really want to get married. that's why there are so many themed weddings. the theme becomes the focus so that when the divorce comes around it's easier because you were never really in love or whatever.

Answer 2

The fact of the matter is... Who are we to say whatever everyone else does on their wedding day. We may think it is tacky, but in the same sense we didn't pay for a dime; so who are we to judge. Also, we are in 2007 things are completely different now, couples are paying for their own weddings and styles have change since our parents have gotten married. What may have been a normal then is no where near normal now. Lets just happy people are still getting married...and hopefully they don't lose the meaning behind it.

Answer 3

How do you describe a non-theme wedding? All weddings have a theme. I see "normal" weddings where people spending thousands of dollars for a superficial atmosphere of romance, where the colour of the napkins and flowers seems to be more important than how the couple interact with each other. People get all worked up for the wedding and stress out as if it was more important than the actual relationship.

I'll take a sincere celebration of love in all its "tacky" glory than a "classic" (i.e., WASP and expensive) wedding that has more to do with exhibitionism and playing out some materialistic fantasy leftover from childhood.

I don't care what the colors are, what the theme is, or how hideous/beautiful the clothes are - I just want to see the smiles and love on the face of the couple.

Don't you have better things to do than to cluck your tongues over other people's inferiority?

Answer 4

That drives me insane too. I agree that "getting married" is enough of a theme isn't it? The ones that make me the craziest are when the couple insist guests wear a certain color or costume to fit in with their theme. My theory is, if your guests must go to a costume shop to get attire for your wedding, you should probably be having a Halloween party instead. I also can't stomach when you get hit over the head with a theme...Cinderella, Perfect Pairs, Red Carpet and on and on. There is nothing wrong with putting little touches into a wedding with are complimentary, but no guest needs to be bombarded with a silly theme. Just have an elegant, well thought out and cohesive wedding, that's more than enough. The worst theme I have heard of was a soccer theme wedding. I mean, come on, I have been to a soccer theme event before..but it was for a 10 year old boy!

Answer 5

We are a wedding officiant service, and we are definately seeing a trend in non-traditional weddings, and even themed weddings. I think people are tired of the uptight traditional weddings and want to express themselves more. Many of them may even be second weddings, so they feel like they "did it right the first time" and now want to do it their way. If you look closely at traditional weddings, you'll usually notice a theme though. The colors, flowers, decorations, details, reception, etc... may show a trend that could be considered a theme.

Answer 6

I had a regular wedding.There was no theme because for me it was just not something that i wanted to do.I wanted my wedding to be simple yet elegant and fun and a wedding is meant to reflect the love shared between two people not the style of their cake topper.

Answer 7

I don't get what's up with "theme" weddings either. IMO weddings already have (or should have) a "theme" of true love and committment. If someone wants to have their wedding at a meaningful destination: e.g. beach, park, or on a holiday, that's fine. But I think themes detract from the event rather than add to it. If someone wants a theme e.g. dress up, rock 'n roll, safari, casino night, etc., use that for a party *other* than a wedding.

Answer 8

Amen to that sister!! I don't get it either. I always thought the Love and the vows were the theme of the wedding.

Someone just asked about a Toy soldier themed wedding- so childish.

Save the themes for high school dances and birthday parties. Weddings should reflect the vows that have been taken not some stupid thought up theme.

Answer 9

Arent you the one who was just bitching about people giving you their opinions. There is nothing abnormal about themed weddings. If you don't want one then don't have one, but don't label it as being abnormal. It is only your opinion just as wasting money on covered chairs is another person's opinion. Most of the theme is going to be at the reception anyway, more than at the wedding.

Answer 10

i totally agree with you!!!!!!
i see no point in a theme wedding.
when i got married over a year ago, ad was looking at different venues, one of the places i looked at asked what my theme was, and i told her i didnt have one. she got this real disgusted look on her face.
its like dude!! cant i just have a normal wedding without a theme?
ive actually never been to a wedding with a theme.

Answer 11

seeing how I believe that a Wedding is a once in a life time thing . . I think that the couple should have what ever kind of wedding they want as long as they can afford it . . . I allowed my mother to make me have a traditional wedding when we really didn't want it we wanted a Wedding in the forest . . .but me and my hubby are planning a Renniasance theme for our remarriage on our 20th anniversary next year . . .