I love my girlfriend, but I'm not in love with her, at least not yet. We just started our relationship. We dated were acquaintances for a year, friends for 4 months, and we were dating for the last 2 months of our friendship. We just recently became official. So, I have been with her for a short while, and I love the girl, just not love love. She hasnt told me that she loves me, but I can kind of feel it coming, and when that time comes I dont want to give her a B.S. answer. Im sure I will love her soon, but just not now. Also, I dont want to not reply to her, "I love you", when it comes. So what should I say? Im not going to say, "you know, I dont love you yet but give me a while", because that'll just ruin the relationship.
2007-06-28
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Ted K
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whaaat? dude, you sound like a woman. quit playing games, get out there and look for something else.
2007-06-28 08:44:27
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answered by Super G 5
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Sound like you do love her. But you got burned somewhere along the way. I recently just told my girl I loved her. Because I couldn't contain my feelings for her anymore. I sent her an email and broke the ice first that way. I just could not verbally start talking about love. I feel so much better and she does to. Main thing to remember is that a relationship requires communication and compromise. Tell her when your ready. And also, not to be mean, but if you don't tell her, some other guy will. So do the right thing. It's a cold world and there's a dog on every corner. good luck.
2007-06-28 08:50:45
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answered by laid back brainstormer 2
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Beat her to the punch..... tell her that your last relationships were rushed and didn't last. That you want this one to be different. Tell her your saying this because you care deeply an want to take it slow. This will reassure her that your heart is into the relationship and will avoid the "Love you" for a bit. Hopefully with this postponement you will have enough time to learn the love love or will know that the chemistry is not there and that you need to end the relationship.
2007-06-28 08:52:09
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answered by loverofmickeymouse 2
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Not everyone falls head over heels in love with someone right off the bat. These things take time, & when the time is right, you'll truly be in love, & you'll know it. You do love her now, because look at the first four words of your statement. How many people love their mate, but never experience being "in love?" More than you will ever know. Just take a day at a time.
2007-06-28 08:50:34
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answered by Shortstuff13 7
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Just be honest with her. In fact, before she even gets to the point of saying,"I love you" why don't you let her know ahead of time to save her the embarrassment. There's nothing worse than telling a person you love them only for them to either change the subject or worse, not say anything at all. Please do not tell her,"I love but I am not in love with you". That will confuse her. Just let her know that you want to know more about her in hopes to fall in love with her completely. I hope I didn't confuse you(lol). Good luck....
2007-06-28 08:51:17
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answered by ? 2
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You said that you did love her so when she says I LoveYou you reply the same you dont have tosay I am in love with you just let her know that you love her which you do stop diggin so deep it is a surface thing dont go looking for ways to end the relationship they will come on thier own
2007-06-28 08:48:24
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answered by classiclady 3
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Do you really think that you will fall in love with her? You should have a pretty good idea in you mind by now. If you dont or have any doubts- then move on. You only get one life to live and you have to make the most of it. Why settle for "well maybe one day I will love you".
2007-06-28 08:48:36
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answered by Anonymous
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One way to do it is to talk about some past friends of yours that had this experience during dating and how they handled it. Then give your own opinion of THEIR situation which is that "It should be deep into a relationship before the word "love" pertaining to Eros comes up.
Like us, you know? We just seem to handle it beautifully. We just have a good relationship that just continues to build. Cool.
2007-06-30 12:09:32
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answered by Anonymous
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What is the purpose of staying in a relationship if you're not in love with the person. If I were you I would break up with her because you shouldn't stay in the relationship knowing that you don't feel the same way that she feels about you.Even though she might be sad, or upset about it but you should do that, or otherwise stay in a relationship you don't want to be in.
Good Luck!
Amber-Tiffany
2007-06-28 08:50:08
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answered by Anonymous
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When my hubby first said that he loved me I made the mistake of saying "well isn't that sweet". I said that because I felt like you I wasn't in love. He hasn't let me forget that. That was over nine years ago.
Anyways I guess my point is there really isn't a good answer. When someone says I love you the only answer that will make them happy in return is I love you back.
2007-06-28 08:49:11
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answered by Junebaby 3
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I think men are the ones that jump on that "I love you" band wagon. I've never said it unless I really mean it. When they started saying it to me, at first I just said silly stuff like, "You mean you love ........." fill in the blank with something completely off the wall. The freckle on my foot.... the way I brush my teeth... how I can't stand for someone to leave the cabinet doors open...point out something that will point out that there is an awful lot to love about someone before you can truely love them. It will at least make her think twice about it.
2007-06-28 08:50:42
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answered by SusieQ 2
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