How can u come 2 know dat whether u r atracted 2 dat person or u really luv him? Whats d diference betwen luv & attraction? Explain in detail.
2007-06-28 08:32:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just know. Good Luck :)
2007-07-03 19:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by jasonolivo2181 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a matter of distinguishing between love and lust. Unfortunately, when you are younger, which you might be, real love does not really occur like it is portrayed in tv and movies. Real love comes from a long, examined relationship that sometimes takes years to develop. If you are younger (in high school or younger) I would not try to force some kind of "romantic" or "deep" relationship. People usually are not ready to truly meet the demands for such a relationship and they end up resulting in heartbreak because of it.
Lust, on the other hand, isn't always a bad thing, especially when you are young and curious. I would ask yourself whether you feel attracted to a person's physical features or his characteristics (i.e. his humor, intelligence, opinions.) Evaluate what you see in this person and truly figure out for yourself how you feel.
2007-07-06 14:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Logie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact from fiction, truth from diction.
"Like", and "love" are often confused as cut from the same cloth. Actually it is not. Upon closer inspection you will see love is the silk to the likes satin.
Like: You may think of her all the time. May like her parsonality, her habbits. May even get frisky with her or bone her down in the bedroom. But you will not sell out for her. She is like a vacation home. You know you are not going to retire there. Or move your furniture there. Like can put up with a lot, but there is a breaking point where if they did it one more time, you are gon. Or if they did something bad enough, gone. You do nice things BUT, more so that you want to get them to like you and that is the catalyst to your politeness. Like: is like a lease, love is like ownership
Love: She makes you want to be better than you are, each day. You find that you are willing to sell out, to give up EVERYTHING you own and know to make sure her tomorrow is better than today, which was in turn, better than yesterday. You would give your life that she may life. You would go hungry that she might be fed. To go cold that she may stay warm. You do this because you really want her to be safe, protected and comfortable. Not just because you want her to like you. Love is you would cherish her even if she didn't love you back, and there was no quid pro quot. Love is like having a home you are eager to move your furniture into, and do not want to move out once you have it in there. Love endures no matter what transgression is done. The hurt maybe there, and you may never forget it. But you are willing to forgive or at least deal with it.
The way to know when you crossed from one to the other.
Like: Is self-indulgent
Love: Is outward giving.
Like: Temporary.
Love: There for life
Like: Non committal
Love: Solely committed.
Like: Done 1st before building lines of communication.
Love: Done after the ground work of communication is done
Like: Like renting.
Love: Like owning
Like: Is physical only.
Love: Is metaphysical and soulful. Is like a 5 course meal, never leaves you hungry.
Like: Is like a snack cake not a meal. Is never enough.
Love: Is more than you can ask for, you are always satisfied
Like: For the immature.
Love: For the mature.
Like: The booty call
Love: A loving relationship that just has sex in it.
Like: You are controlled by your body.
Love: You command your body.
Love can grow from the seeds of lust but it is hard. Once sex muddles the water, all those things that could be there or is thought to be there but really ain't can not be seen because no one wanted to give up the sex. Only marry someone you have had good conversations with before you became a couple. Those simple communication skills will be way more important years from now.
2007-07-06 05:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Love is undescribable. U know if u r just attracted to him if ya'll can't find somethin to agree on or to talk about. It is a totally normal thing, you'll figure it out.
2007-07-06 15:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by Barn Babe_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with love you will do anything for that person , you see them as the person you want to settle with and not just be in a physical thing but the whole emotional aspects too. Attraction is purely physicall with out much consideration for spending a lifetime with the person.
2007-07-06 15:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by kab 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When you love someone you are willing to make sacrafices for that person. Not just little things but things that make an impact on your life later on with that person. When its just lust you mostly just 'want' that person. Its the opposite with love. No matter what you are doing you just want to spend time with them. You also respect them. If you find you don't respect them then its probably not love. Give yourself time to figure what you really feel. =)
2007-07-06 15:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by g 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
man that was hard to read!!!! you will know it when you fall in love, huge difference from being in like or lust
2007-07-05 18:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love some one you would know it.its not jst a gangsta crush or something.if you have to ask if your in love then you are not
2007-06-28 15:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by victory_aviation 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋