My therapist seems to ask me many personal questions. Of course it is his job because he is helping me to sort out some things in my life. But questions about my sex life such as when was the last time I had sex and what my conversations are about when I talk to men. He wants to know too many specifics such as where I met the guy and what street I was on when I met him. My phone rings while I'm in a session with him and he wants to know if the caller is male or female. What type of craziness is that? Anyway am I just being paranoid? He claims its his job and he's concerned but I think he's too nosy. I mean it shouldn't matter who I talk to, what I talk about with them and my sex life either. As long as it's not hurting me mentally it should not be his concern. Is he nosy or just CRAZY?
2007-06-28 08:07:00 · 13 answers · asked by Heaven26 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Also I am not seeing him for any sex related issue. He is actually my psychiatrist/psychotherapist. I initially began seeing him for my depression.
2007-06-28 08:38:12 · update #1
It seems to me this therapist is asking personal questions that are not related to therapy. It should not be any of his business who calls, what streets you go on, etc. I would turn off the cell phone when in session and check messages when you are done.
2007-06-28 08:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by insurance lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship with men is not part of the problem, then that would be a little weird.
You may want to consider looking for another therapist.
By the way, a psychiatrist and a psychotherapist are two different things. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor who manages medication for mental disorders. A psychotherapist is a counsellor. There might be a few psychiatrists who give psychotherapy, but most of them haven't done that since before the 1970s.
2007-07-05 03:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by majnun99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in therapy for soooo long I think they're becomming part family and never once have they been that personal. In the beginning they asked about my sex life, past sexual partners and anyone I ever loved but I felt that was a way to get to know me but after the first few months the really personal questions were kept to me and the health issues I was there for. maybe it's time for a change of therapists if your feeling a little uncomfortable. How can you continue to open up if your not feeling right about your own therapist? I've changed docs before when I have felt I was getting the right treatment, hell it's my sanity that I wanted back and if I wasn't going to get the right help I was sure going to find someone I could work with. I don't recommend changing every doc you don't like, just the ones you have a strong, strong feeling somethings wrong between you two.
Hope this helps.
Justina
2007-06-28 08:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by s_and_j_hatch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While I don't know what took you to a therapist in the first place, if it wasn't sex related, there seems no reason to be asking such questions. Who is ringing you is also none of their business. I'd get another therapist if I were you. You have to be able to trust a therapist if they are to help you, If you aren't comfortable, you aren't trusting him.
2007-06-28 08:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that would depend on why you are seeing a therapist in the first place. Did you start seeing him because of issues concerning your sex life? If so, it seems his questions are normal. If not, you may want to ask other therapists for their professional opinion.
2007-06-28 08:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by super_mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could feel there's a link to whatever he is treating you for. Or that he feels you behaviour could show a projection of what he wants you to get through. The questions could also be casual, to get you talking, so that you'll let down your guard and it'll be easier for him to delve past your rational guard.
Having said that, I trust the female intuition a lot. Unless he's treating you for excessive paranoia, I feel that you should look around for another therapist. Your therapist should never weird you out or make you feel uncomfortable!
2007-06-28 08:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by marchcalf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It must be hard to not be comfortable with your therapist. Is your therapist at the same clinic at your psychiatrist? According to your previous posts, you have fallen in love with your psychiatrist, didn't know what to do...then thought he was arrogant, wanted a close out session, he kept "manipulating" you to come back. Clinicians at the same clinic do keep each other advised.
Good luck and take care of you!
2007-06-28 08:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're uncomfortable with his approach, bring it up for discussion. If he dismisses you with "it's my job" and refuses to discuss it further, it is likely time to look for another therapist. If your therapist suspects a connection between your depression and your social/sex life, there's no reason for him not to let you know that.
Remember, he works for you. Not the other way around.
2007-07-05 18:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by mrscjr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need to realize they have choices in doctors , just like clothers or cars. You shop around until you find one that fits. One of the prime ingredients in a patient-doctor relatioship is trust. If you don't trust him or have doubts and it sounds like you do, you must change. People do this often. It just ins't a good fit.
Some of the questions do not sound appropriate to me.....
2007-07-05 12:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by BELINDA B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just turn your cell phone off during your session. Can't you take an hour to work on whatever your problems are without being interrupted?
2007-07-05 17:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by breeze1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋