This idiot refuses to go to neighborhood mediation, compromise in any way over a shared 4 ft. chainlink fence. When the police come he pretends he can't speak english and hides behind his wife. I've even offered to put up a privacy fence and pay for it myself. Argggggggggggg. My husband recently passed away and I can't take much more of this from these people! What would you do?
2007-06-28 07:45:16 · 22 answers · asked by weez 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I HAVE tried being nice; doesn't work. A judge has already told them to stop with the harrassment. The husband even sucker punched my husaband a year ago. I called the police when they started trhowing my property around! Any legal recourse suggestions?
2007-06-28 15:41:59 · update #1
Put flaming poo bags on his porch. People hate that.
And it's hilarious.
2007-06-28 07:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by arkansaszippers 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
First make a plan as to what you want done and what you are willing to do. Write a succinct (short and to the point) letter telling him what you plan to do and when you plan to do it. Take it to them and hand it to them in person. If neither come to the door, tell them through the door what it is and what it says and post it on the door. If you can hand it to them tell them politely what it says. If they talk or try to deflect you, keep saying what you are saying as though they didn't interupt. You might want to bring a friendly neighbor or another friend with you. If you are doing any sort of construction it is always courteous to notify the neighbors. Just let them know you are having a fence built and the hours it will happen. If you are concerned about them taking it personally you could always just give the same letter to everyone with a polite heads up that you are having a fence built and sorry for any noise or whatever. Then go about doing what you are going to do. You have every right to put up a fence of a certain size in back as long as it's on your property. You can't do much in front but ignore them. It doesn't matter who or what they're looking at. It's their eyes. However in back you have a legal right to privacy. If they interfere in any way you can treat each incident individually. If they tear it down, for example, you can call the police and report them for tresspassing and vandalism. Then if they don't pay to repair it you can sue them in small claims court. You could also sue for harrassment, etc. but that's a more difficult route to go and you'd have to record it. And they might consider your recording a form of harrassment. Best to just put up your fence and ignore them. Good luck. I understand the bad neighbor thing.
2007-06-28 14:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are free to put up your own fence on your own property...come in 4" from the property line and do it. Most areas do not require a permit for a side and back fence as long as set backs and height limitations are respected. Usually, side fences can be 6 foot tall, back fences 6 ' tall, but must be held off front property line probably 10' Check your codes in your area, do as you can and wish. You do not need their permission to erect a fence on your property. Stop being annoyed and get some privacy. Good luck
2007-06-28 14:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Like others have stated if your neighborhood allows put up a fence on your side..Have you tried just going over with some flowers and calling truce, (even if NOTHING is your fault?)
You never said what started this, or what the fence problem is..do you have kids that climb all over it, or toss stuff in his yard? It is always a hard time after loosing a loved one, made even worse by nasty neighbors..
It's worth a shot marching over with a card and some flowers and giving the man one last shot..I would glare at someone if they called the cops on me too!
2007-06-28 14:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by kat k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda sounds like our ex-neighbors. They were ALWAYS peaking through their blinds at us. They have two little brats and what is so bad is their side of the house that faced our side had the blinds pushed up for the kids and one for the adults! These freaks had way to much time on their hands and are sorta creepy. Just do some weird things when they are staring at you like, picking your nose, scratching your butt, take their picture with your camera phone, etc. In other words give them something to look at. You could always make a complaint to the police about their odd and disturbing behavior.
2007-06-28 22:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go to the police station, tell them what is going on, and mention that he DOES speak english. To prove that he speaks english, grab one of his books that are written in English and show the cops. If he doesn't stop make HIM pay for the fence. Also explain to the cops ever since your husband passed away he has been staring. I really hope this helps you.
2007-06-28 14:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put up a tall privacy fence on the edge of your own property. Nothing he can do about that and it will hide his hateful mug.
2007-06-28 14:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sabrina 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a neighbor who would stare over the fence. .....although friendly, I just felt I had no privacy.
I had a retainer wall put up 6 feet in height. I actually asked for 1/2 from them and they agreed.
I felt one could still peek thru the slats
2007-06-28 15:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Isabella 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what the problem is over the fence. If you can't stand him looking at you, put up the privacy fence.
2007-06-28 14:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by Dee 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey put up your own fence on your side of the shared fence and make it privacy then he cant say anything about it.
2007-06-28 14:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by YouAsked4it 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would file a no contact order. That way he can't talk to you or go within a certain distance from you.
Then, move forward and put up your own fence on your side of the property.
I'm sorry about your husband. Good luck.
2007-06-28 14:48:01 · answer #11 · answered by Mary S 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋