Do you think there is anything wrong with getting married at a courthouse and then later on having a small private wedding ceremony at a church?
2007-06-28 07:09:48 · 14 answers · asked by sistahgirl1230 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I guess I don't see why the need for the second ceremony if it's private. Not wrong, but not necessary.
2007-06-28 07:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really against courthouse weddings. I understand a marriage is more important than a wedding. But, nothing say informal like the courthouse. I know people do it, but I don't think it's right. Even if you are not religious, have a ceremony at a nice location, like on the beach or at a park. The Courthouse sounds like, your in, your out in 5 mins. Not respectful of the union at all.
Just have a church wedding. Why is it so important to run to the courthouse. If you are going to be with someone for the rest of your life, why rush just to get it over with. Make in private and small, but intimate and memorable.
2007-06-28 14:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely not. However, depending on how long you are married before the church blessing, that may affect exactly the "blessing" you get. Don't expect a huge church ceremony. Expect something more about 30 minutes long, if even that much. I had to postpone my wedding for over a year due to some family issues. I always had the option of a civil wedding in the meantime. But I knew that if I chose that route, I would also not get the full church ceremony. And that was super important to me. Talk to someone from your church and find out how they handle such things.
2007-06-28 20:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Keep on Truckin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are a wedding officiant service, and we see this sort of thing all the time. It is totally up to you. The second ceremony would technically be a vow renewal, since the official marriage took place at the courthouse. The marriage license would be filed after the original ceremony, the other would just be for show.
2007-06-28 21:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only problem with it is having two ceremonies. I'm not sure why you would want to, but this seems to me to be a bit of a rip-off to the people who attend the church ceremony.
I'd say, just do the courthouse wedding, and later on, have a reception so that your family & friends can celebrate with you.
2007-06-28 14:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I are having a chapel ceremony on this Saturday for just family and very close friends. Then on next Saturday we are having the big church wedding with all of our family & friends. I have been critized and they have said to me why do you want two weddings, what's the point of it and you know the first one does'nt really count it's just a pratice.
I have always wanted to have a civil ceremony besides the actual wedding day. I bought two wedding dresses so I'm just going to wear one for the civil ceremony and one for the wedding ceremony.
Congratulations and Good Luck.
P.S. Do what you want to do, no matter what anybody else thinks.
2007-06-28 14:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding, do what you want. But if you're planning on doing something at a church, you might as well sign your marriage license there as well and just skip the court house, since they both accomplish the same thing, just one is done before God. Unless there are other reasons for why you want to do both, such as a pregnancy, so you don't have time for a church wedding, but even that is possible.
2007-06-28 14:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by rosebud114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The church ceremony then wouldn't be a wedding, per se, so much as either a reaffirmation of your vows or a religious blessing.
As long as you are honest with your friends and family about the fact you're already married, it's perfectly fine.
2007-06-28 14:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't say it is "wrong." If it's your wedding it's your choice, don't let anyone else talk you into something you don't want to do.
When I got married it was at a courthouse and I didn't even invite anyone. I don't think our mothers were too happy about that but I didn't want a fancy wedding, it's just not my style and never was my dream.
My advice is to think real hard and honest about what YOU want and go for that. It's your wedding!
2007-06-28 14:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by alittleoblivion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's getting married twice - pick ONE. If you are religious, and practice your faith, you wouldn't want to get married anywhere but a church. If you couldn't give two hoots, then you better head for the courthouse.
2007-06-28 17:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋