Is there anyone out there that knows that they could have been aborted, but your birthmom chose life?

Question

I know that I could have been aborted, but my birth mom chose life and placed me for abortion- she did not look at her pregnancy as a mistake, she chose to sacrifice her child to another couple, and not to death. I also have 2 adopted teenagers, and have personally met both of their birth moms- and I thank them every day, that they both chose life, even though a lot of people around them told them it would be better to abort. Anyone out there who knows that they may have been aborted, and want to share?

i am not negating the pain of someone who has aborted- there is forgiveness through Christ- I know because I have counseled women for years. the person who said, there was no abortion back when I was born- is wrong- it wasnt legal but women still aborted- and also did you NOT read the testimony of my 2 kids- I know personally their birth mom chose life. Please forgive me if i offended anyone- I just wanted some praises for life- though I would get them in a religion section

again I did not mean to make any on feel bad about having an abortion- there is so much negative comments about this and other subjects- I did not think it is was wrong to say I am thankful for life

Thank you Julia- for your wonderful story- it was exactly what we needed to hear

Mikilina- I am so sorry that you and your sister has had to endure so much pain- I can relate to seeing babies and not being able to conceive- that is why we adopted. I have a chronic disease that causes pain daily- I could blame my birth mom for that and say, I wish that I was never born,so I would not experience the pain, however if I had been aborted- I would never have experienced the grace of God, or the joy of my family,

Answer 1

ALl of us could have been aborted, but our mothers choose to have us. We should be forever grateful to our moms that gave us life, and our dads for being there too.
There is forgivness for abortion, but one mus tseek it and turn from sin and repent of what they did. It is taking the life of an innocent baby and noone has that right. But God is quick and eager to forgive.
Even if the doc says the baby is sick, its still a baby, who are we to determine that being disabled has less quality of life. Ask many with disabled children and they will tell you that thru their disabled child, they know know the meaning of life and wouldnt have it any other way.
Even in cases of rape or incest, it is still life and not the babies fault. We should love that baby more becuase of the awful circumstances it was created in. But , if one doesnt want that baby, give it to someone who does. There are waiting lines so long for babies, even disabled babied.
Its their heart that matters. A disabled child with a pure heart has more going for them than a person with no disabilieties but a cold cold heart. Only God determines value. Our rights stop the minute we trample on someone elses.
Praise GOd for the life you have been given, and do something with it to bless Him and others.

Answer 2

I agree with you.

I am the father of 3 boys, all adopted. Their bio-moms all were considering abortion, until someone intervened. Therefore, they are all three "saves" from abortion. I love my children dearly. I have a 9 1/2-year-old, 4 1/2-year-old and one who'll be 4 next month.

There is a possibility that we may be adopting another child, to be born late this year. This is a child who's bio-mom had an abortion last year and became pregnant again not long after. This often happens with abortive mothers as they are trying to replace the lost child.

I learned several years ago that my mother had an abortion that occurred between my older sister and I. It was a secret that she hid for over 40 years. I was conceived a twin and my twin died shortly before birth (I almost did). It is, of course, completely possible that the earlier abortion was a causative factor.

I've been involved in the fight against abortion for almost 20 years. I cannot believe that so many people are so blind as to think that it is OK to kill an unborn child. They do this by pretending that the child is not fully human, just as America did in the Supreme Court's 1857 Dredd Scott decision.

One of the lies that the "pro-choice" people try to propagate is to say that the crime rate has declined since the legalization of abortion in 173 with the "Roe vs Wade" and "Doe vs Bolton" Supreme Court cases. That is a lie.

Because we have told the children that have been born since then that they are nothing but animals, and that they aren't even important until their born, there has been an increasing coldness in society when it comes to protecting the less fortunate. Also, these young people have had to deal with the idea that, in many cases, their mothers have abortions in their past. The young people look at this and see 2 things, 1) "How did I "luck out" and not get aborted (IT could have been me)?" The second is, "There is a sibling that I don't have here because they were killed before they were born. Part of my family is missing."

These factors lead to a loss of concern for consequences and civility, an increasing anger at "life" and an acting out of that anger, measured by the higher crime rates in the last 34 years.

When we start to see the unborn child as fully human, then we will realize the damage we have done over the years, to families, communities and our nation

Answer 3

My mother was on experimental hormone replacement therapy when she got pregnant with me. She was encouraged to abort, as they had no idea the effects the drugs would have on me. As they were not sure how she got pregnant in the first place, and could not guarantee she would get pregnant again, she took the chance and had me. She went on to have several miscarriages, then my sister.

Over 30 years later, we are now seeing the effect of not aborting. I am unable to conceive. My sister has had multiple miscarriages, all because the fetuses are developing without brains (one of the things she was warned about with me). I was terribly ill with debilitating migraines for years.

Am I glad that she chose not to abort but to have me? On good days, absolutely. But when I see a new mother with a precious child of her own, not so much.

Another thing that you need to consider is the condition of the mother. How responsible would she be to choose not to abort if she was on drugs when she was carrying the child? Or HIV positive? Or knows that the child will have a severe birth defect, thus robbing it of any sort of quality life?

Answer 4

I consider plenty of ladies were conditioned to feel that abortion is a rapid and handy strategy to get it over with and no longer must consider approximately it once more. That more often than not seems to not be the case - they have a tendency to consider approximately it their entire lives - however they do not know that till so much later, and pointing this out will get you instantly pigeonholed as a "professional-lifer." Since that point of view is politically improper, you do not pay attention it very so much customarily media dialogue. This isn't to mention that adoption is such an handy street both. Adoptees DO have a tougher time of it, looking to settle into an alien household with out the genetic similarities in temperament, look, etc that support bind different households in combination, and the potential that "this isn't my truly child" or "this isn't my truly dad" has a tendency to crop up on the such a lot worrying instances, pushing the household aside in which blood ties might pull them in combination. My mom had abortions (reviews range on what number of) and deserted such a lot of her different youngsters with quite a lot of family or followed mother and father. Two of the six folks had been followed away; one inside the household and one (myself) external of it. I under no circumstances quite are compatible into my followed household, and there have been plenty of instances throughout my youth and formative years while I wanted she had simply aborted me as an alternative. I do not quite suppose that manner to any extent further, however then I've had many years to recover from it. My opinion is that abortion is a type of dumb matters that we have got a proper to do if we select to, like being an alcoholic or driving a motorbike with no helmet. Most abortions are the outcome of deficient making plans, and the arena might be greater if that challenge under no circumstances got here up, whether or not the outcome is an abortion or an adoption. Ideally all toddlers might be desired. But right here within the truly international, plenty of them aren't. The resolution of whether or not to abort an undesirable youngster or allow him be born to develop up realizing he was once undesirable is a rough alternative, within the arms of any person who has more often than not already demonstrated she does not make well choices.

Answer 5

I was adopted as a baby in 1960. I've often wondered if I would have been aborted had I been born 15 years later.

Answer 6

My biological mother tried to abort me, but I was too far along. I think the focus should be elsewhere, though. Abortion, unfortunately is an individual choice.
I think the issue should be about who is having sex, not who chooses abortion. Too many people have sex and are not ready for children. Regardless of beliefs, people like that need to be educated to know the risks, even with birth control.
My biological mother got pregnant with me on purpose, and when things didnt go her way, she wanted to get rid of me and couldnt since she was too far along. I, personally, dont care where my biological mother is, or if she is alive.

Answer 7

sorry if you didnt want comments like this, but there is a church of england vicar who was aborted, i cant remember her name but she wasnt aborted successfully, and lived...you may be interested to read about her and what she thinks.

i think chosing life is better but i wouldnt condemn those who choose to abort, there are circumstances that i'd do the same in...as a guy im just thankful i never have to face the choice. God bless, take care and what you are doing is inspirational xxx

Answer 8

Well, my mom was only seventeen when she was pregnant with me, so she could have easily aborted me and "had a better life."

But she didn't. She couldn't stand the thought of killing her own child. She's told me on many accounts that if I was to ever get pregnant at a young age, that she would be completely supportive and help me out with it as much as she could. The only thing she couldn't do would be to drive me to the clinic. She'd rather adopt the child herself.

My mom's story is actually very miraculous in a sense. To start out, we were pretty poor for the most part. My mother had to drop out of high school and my dad worked at a gas station. Well, my mom stayed home with me for the first year or so of my life because she wanted to get a strong bond with me.

We lived in a run down apartment where rent was nearly $200. My dad realized that the gas station wasn't bringing in much money so he enlisted in the navy. That helped a lot. But my mom knew she had to start working, so she was hired at a grocery store next to my day care. Soon she was promoted to manager of the store.

As much money as she was making as manager, she needed a little more money if we were to live somewhere nicer, so she went to this doctor's clinic and was hired there. During that time she had went back to get her GED and went to a technical college.

She worked there for a while then transfered to this other company. She was the best worker there and was soon promoted to manager there, too. Well, her boss liked her so much that he promoted her to district manager and kept trying to get her to take regional manager position but she didn't take it because she wanted to spend more of her time on me and not her work.

By the way, my dad got out of the navy and worked at this other job that payed a lot. So soon we all were living in this really nice virtually crime-free area. And almost all my life I went to a private school until I wanted to go to a public school myself.

My parents got separated and divorced, but things are still the same as they were almost. We still live in a very nice neighborhood and I'm going to a great school.

Hope you liked my story, I'm very proud of my mom.

Answer 9

This does not concern me, but I cried out to the Lord on behalf of my son's girlfriend who was contemplating an abortion. Her parents were determined that she have one.
I cried out to the Lord, to save the life of my grandson. The Lord answered my prayer, and my son's girlfriend came and lived with me. My husband and I have brought our grandson up. He is ten now, and He loves the Lord. I often look at him, and think what the devil wanted, but the Lord turned it around for good.

Answer 10

That is actually a very sweet story, and kudos to you for adopting you children. The decision to bear you and your children was a very nice decision that the birth mothers made.

That said, I am a pro-choice theist. I truly believe that if God wants you here, he will put you here. He will "knit you" in the womb of someone who will bring you to term. Do you really believe that we are capable of messing up God's plan? I don't think we are.

Again, thank you for adopting. There are SO many children who need loving homes. Good job and Bright Blessings to you and your children.

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Edit: my two best friends both had abortions and both are quite comfortable with their decisions. One went on to have three lovely children when she was in a better position to raise them and the other is waiting for the right father (since her first husband turned out to have serious mental problems and hit her).