When will I be ready to date again?

Question

I have wrote on here often about problem with my on and off bf of 10 yrs. We have officially broke up for good and I am moving over 1000 miles away to ft myers in about a week. Im really excited to go and start my life over, but I'm nervous that once I get there I am still going to be upset and starting crying everyday again. I was crying for six months and then when I got the opportunity to move I was excited again, so do you think I am just suppressing my emotions and that they will resurface. I want to start dating when I get down there and just have fun but should I wait? I dont want to do anything stupid and I don't want to rush into anything and feel overwhelmed either. When will I be ready? Or is the answer that there is no answer and it will just happen? Im nervous starting over at 26 its a scary thing considering like 6 months ago I felt I had everything and I dont want to get involved with anyone that only wants one thing how do I tell the difference?

I have been out of the dating scene for a long time now so just need some new ideas.

Answer 1

if its over you should start when the date opportunity presents itself
I always felt like the best way to get over a guy and to move on,...is to start seeing other people, new friends and new guys even if you still are hurting from the loss of a relationship.
the pain will fade to just a memory of the pain.

be safe & good luck>j

Answer 2

I feel sorry for you, hell, I feel sorry for myself because I am about to go through the same thing with my GF of 6 1/2 years! I'm proud of you for actually getting out of the bad relationship because I know how hard it can be! I hope I dont cry for months! That is why when 16-22 yr olds on here ask about, do we think they should get married and I give some ole unromantic answer they need to hear this type of stuff!

I think you will have a great time in fort meyers, Just start a school program go to the gym everyday and Mr. Right will make you forget about that other guy! thats what I plan on doing and according to the Yahoo answerers, It works!

Good Luck!

oh yeah, if you are fat, start a diet RIGHT NOW!

Answer 3

I hate to say it, but everyone is ready at different points. You are taking the first step to moving on already-you are thinking about putting yourself back out there. Just let it happen naturally is the only advice I can offer. Concentrate on making new friends and getting settled into your new hometown. Concentrate on finding yourself again after 10 years....afterall, if you can't be happy with yourself, there is no way you can be happy with someone else.

Let this time be a time of self exploration and finding your out who you really are. You have pretty much always been with someone, so you haven't had the chance to really find yourself and know yourself.

Dont rush into anything with anyone, but also don't forget to still put yourself out there...you are single again-Go enjoy it!

Good luck to you and your moving, and starting your life over. When the right guy comes along-you will know it..whether it be tomorrow or in two years, even if you didn't think you were ready, you will suddenly become ready. Follow that heart and always listen to your gut-neither one ever lies to you.

Answer 4

Go out, scope the field. The right one will come to you and you will just know. I was single for quite some time. I "dated" here and there and I thought I would never find the right guy where I was until one day I noticed my boyfriend. It was the first time that I really noticed him and I didn't stop trying to get ahold of him and find out who he was. We've been dating ever since.

Answer 5

Just let things happen naturally and all will be okay concentrate on your move first off and that is all you need to be thinking about right now and keep your mind on that . good luck and happy moving .