Why are people so cheap?

Question

I don't understand how people can be so cheap sometimes...
Giving people rides-okay so gas is expensive these days...it's not like our job pay goes up with the cost of living so at times it can be a struggle to make ends meet ...I find it a bit offensive when I do someone a favor by taking them somewhere and I am not talking once or twice...I mean on a daily basis and they cannot even offer gas money...I mean seriously...if somebody is doing you a favor show some appreciation and help with the gas bill...I'm not asking to fill up my tank but 10 dollars would really help out more then you would know...
Ordering Food and Tips-I always like to tip...no matter if I am at a resturant or ordering food..but why must I be the only one to throw money in for a tip?...I know it's not madatory but hey...stop being so stingy with a dollar and throw it in to help out the person who is delivering your food...especially if they don't charge for delivery...

is that really too much to ask?

Answer 1

No, it's not too much to ask. It's common courtesy to most people, but not to all.
The world is full of cheap skates, which is sad.
If I were giving someone a ride daily, you can bet your last dollar I'd be asking for a few gas dollars, $0.50 a mile is the going rate these days, so keep track of your miles and charge $0.25 a mile, that's a bargain.
As far as tipping, yes everyone in your party should toss in tip money, if they don't, don't dine out with them anymore. If they can afford a nice meal out, they can afford one or two dollars for a tip.

Answer 2

I agree, but only to a point. I'm the type of person who won't ask for gas money. I do things of my own free will and don't expect anything in return. A ty would be nice I suppose, but I would not demand it nor do I expect it. In fact, I've turned down gas money b/c (and here's where I disagree) that person needed that $5-10 more than I did. If that person doesn't want to tip at the table, just make sure that person doesn't touch the money YOU left at the table and make sure you keep it on your side of the table. Don't even mix it up or insist on it if it bothers you that much. I just like to be in a position where I can bless people and that's my reward. It's weak for some, I know, but growing up I was the one that needed help, and although it's rare that I got any, I'm grateful for the help that I did receive.

Sometimes life is about not fighting battles and letting things like this go.

Answer 3

You are right, people are becoming more and more stingy as time goes on. Sometimes you have to tell them "No, I can't because gas is getting outrageous again, and i cant afford all this driving, sorry...(not in exact words but you get the idea.)" I know it is hard to do it , but sometimes you have to just tell them. As for tip, i think that everyone should throw in a dollar, at least. It is only fair that everyone helps out to tip the waitress. I know it is hard to speak up and say something about giving you money, but sometimes it is necessary. Also do things out of want, not out of what you can get, then it will make the experience far more enjoyable.

Hope things go well!

Answer 4

No, and No. I agree with you on both points.

And to reiterate your statements on ordering food and tips... I am a full time secretary Monday - Friday and I waitress on weekends, because I am a single mother with a child in college... I need the money. I get paid $3 an hr plus my tips, when people order out, they do not realize that the food needs to be kept warm until it is picked up, it has to be bagged, I have to make sure the order is correct.. I do do work to get your order to you right, next time, think about a small tip, your waitress will be very appreciative.

Answer 5

An increasing number of people are being born without what I like to call their "empathy chip". For some it's nearly impossible to imagine what life is like for any other being on the face of the earth. For these people, there is very little "real" emotion. No shame, no sympathy, no understanding and in reality, no real "joy".

Sure they may laugh and carry on, once in a while they might even seem normal, but you know the difference. Now I may be taking a simple matter too far, but I know the type of whom you speak and they are certainly no credit to our species.

Unfortunately I have no solution. Maybe that would be another good question! :)

Answer 6

Because, for most people, the bottom line is "What do I get out of this deal?" Sadly, most people are very selfish and tend to view life as a series of events that you have to make the best of FOR YOURSELF and no one else. It's all about me, me, me. Even if people don't actively think in these terms, the truth is that the motivation behind most action is how much it benefits someone...and if it leaves someone with a little less money or a little less time, it just isn't worth it to a lot of people...sadly. Then again, there are some incredibly generous people who aren't total pushovers...people who care about others but don't let other people take advantage of them.

Answer 7

no I think that is more than fair and as far as the tip thing goes i believe all at the table should throw in on the tip . I agree with you 100% . You are so right.

Answer 8

I agree with Black Sun there, ask for gas money (see how they react) or it's public transit. Stop purposely at a gas station on the way to help push your agenda. Ask politely, no need to sound rude or be mean about it (cover your butt)... btw, why is ***, as in the cross between a mule and a donkey
a forbidden word here on this site? *** *** *** *** *** ***
this is hilarious! sorry , I went off the topic..

Answer 9

B/c people are greedy, they want money, they dont cant stand to give up alittle money, And that is really nice to give you know the more you give, the more you will recieve. Oh and dont focus on what people dont do studies have shown that if you focus on what people do or dont do then its just creats more off it. Im sorry im being like all weird in usualy not like this. sorry

Answer 10

For some people, yes -- it IS too much to ask.

That having been said....if you see somebody acting like this, call them on it! Be blunt about it, too...."Ante up, ya cheap b@stard! That waitress has gotta make a living too, ya know?"