virginity help?

Question

Hey i have serious problem that i need help with urgently, I am an 18yr old virgin, and i feel like the only one on earth who hasn't lost his virginity yet. My lifestyle is very weird, because women love me, and i have dated plenty of them, but i just never slept with any, because things never go right for me when it's time to have sex. But my real problem is that i don't know anything about sex, and i will love to learn, because i have a girl coming over to my house on Friday, and she is a so called freak, and she is not a virgin, and i am very scared that i may not know how to satisfy her being that she's not a virgin and i am. So please tell me what to do, because my main thing is satisfying women sexually, because i am afraid i may not know what to do since i am a virgin, and some of them may not be virgins.

Answer 1

eddie, why do you want to have sex right away? with the risk of serious STDS out there and AIDS more ppl are waiting until marriage.(those that have brains anyway)

Most of my girlfriends have told me that they'd rather have a guy make them a nice dinner, go out to a movie, go out w/friends, go on a picnic, etc. and treat her as a person and NOT A SEX OBJECT.

is it really worth 3 minutes of sheer bliss just to risk having sex w/someone who's been with many partners...in reality then you are having sex with them as well. Also, what are you going to do if you get this girl pregnant? yes, birthcontrol does fail so are you ready to become a father if it happens?

think about it...if you play, you will pay. my best friend was very promiscous and now she has been diagnosed w/HPV. There is NO cure for it plus it can lead to cancer. She caught it from one her "so called male friends" and he didn't even know he had it. She is very angry right now at him but she knew the risks of fooling around.

Seriously, do something fun, get to know your friend and I bet she will be happy that you treated her like a lady.

That is what attracted me to my husband when we were dating. He knew and still does how to treat me like a person plus he has great morals and values.

Answer 2

I too am a virgin. The only advice I can give you, is to follow your heart. Your first time is suppose to be special, meaningful and wonderful. You shouldn't just lose your virginity just because it seems as if every one else around you is. If you really love this girl and she really truly loves you, then there shouldn't be a problem. Right? she should understand completely, and know that you are a beginner. Also, as far as you learning all of the "tricks" to making a girl love having you in bed; you'll learn over time with your own experiences; each and every girl is different so you will just have to communicate efficiently with her and find out her likes/dislikes. Good Luck☻ and I hope I helped.

Answer 3

First of all, you are not the only virgin in the world. There is no reason to rush into anything, but if you feel like you're ready, go for it. Keep in mind that most 18 year old men don't know how to satisfy a woman, so you're not alone in that either. My best advice would be to get a book on the topic and go from there. Good luck.

Answer 4

At 18 I lost mine... I was out of high school and in the military by then... and it was to another military girl but she was kind of a freak to. If you want to learn about sex as much as I hate the site of his photo, the fat guys right... watch a porn... it has a lot of sex education in them believe it or not... you just have to look past the cheap 70's plot. Don't give it up to a girl just cause she is a freak... Like another person said find another virgin then you both will be idiots together. As much as I want to sleep around, I still enjoy the fact I can count mine on just one hand. Oh and yeah a freak usually comes along with an STD and you sometimes can't see warts or herpes or the wonderful HIV.
So go find you a college girl who is a complete dork but looks descent and ask her for a date, and be paitent with her as well, you might be able to find one in the library.

Answer 5

First off, you're not by any stretch of the imagination the only 18 year old virgin. Have you kept your virginity because you want to be sexually knowledgeable before hand? Well, I fear the only way to get good at it is to do it. However, I don't think that's the best reason to start having sex, just to get good at it. If a woman cares about you, she's not going to care how clumsy you might be. In fact, she'll probably think your vulnerability is endearing.

Answer 6

have you ever seen a adult film? don't bother trying to copy what they do in those. those are mostly look pretty cool but aren't always as much fun as they look. if i were you i would just tell her your situation. i was a V until my early 20's. my first time, the girl never suspected she was my 1st. just be yourself and let things happen naturally. sex is not difficult. don't worry about not pleasing her the 1st time. you'll be lucky to last a whole minute. after that minute. just have some pillow talk with her and hold her close to you. you'll feel a tingle in a little while that tells you it's time to go again. i guarantee the 2nd time will blow the 1st away! if she knows your virginity status i bet she'll be very flattered you chose her to be your first and treat you like a king in bed. give her a slap on the buns for me!

Answer 7

Be honest with anyone you look to having sex with about your virginity, you may find a girl who is willing to help you through it and show you what she likes, or a virgin herself who you can try new things with. No one can give you a playbook, especially on what to do with women, they all are aroused and climaxed differently, nothing you do will work on all women. Deep inside you know what to do, you just need a woman with whom you have a strong enough sexual connection to pull that inner knowledge out. Don't overthink the act whatever you do, get into the feelings of it all and your body will take control for you.

Answer 8

1. Relax. Unless you tell her she will not know that you are a virgin. Also, it's not that big of a deal.

2. The first couple of times it can be difficult to control yourself. Take care of yourself before the date. Learning control will happen but it takes some time.

3. Foreplay is important to women. They don't work like us. We are ready before we drop our pants. They build up. Rub, kiss, lick, smell, and just play.

4. The G spot is a couple of inches inside the vagina and up (toward the stomach). Use your fingers to stimulate that spot some. It is often best if you switch between the G spot and clit every couple of minutes.

5. If she starts getting wild, like she's going to orgasm, DO NOT STOP WHAT YOUR DOING.

6. Ask her what she likes.

7. Be safe, use a condom.

Answer 9

Part of me agrees with the dude who told you to rent a porn the other part of me agrees with the girl who said wait...im 25 years old, engaged to be married and prego and I can honestly tell you that out of the 27 or so guys that I slept with...i wish I had not slept with 25 of them. Dont just have sex with any random person. If you meet someone and start to date them, they will know you are a virgin and not for nothing, if they dont understand, they arent the one for you. Im not going to sit here and tell you to wait till your married but at least wait for someone you really care about...this so called "freak" shouldnt be the one you lose your virginity too.

Answer 10

Why would you want to give your virginity to her??? you should give it to someone you really love. No you aren't the only one out there that is a virgin at 18 and older. I have many friends who are virgins still and I am 25. Don't throw it out the window for a one night stand. Make sure this is what you really want and will not regret it in the end or down the road.