is my bf gonna ask me to marry him anytime soon?

Question

ok so i've only been with my bf for 10 months (july 1st=10 months) and well we're completely in love with each other. we have our own apartment together and things couldnt be better. his family loves me and his mom has even asked when we're gonna give her grand-children. we're both 20 years old and we've talked about marriage and kids. and we both agreed that after we get married well have kids. so heres my question our 1 yr is in 2 months and he keeps talking about a big surprise, but when i ask him about the surprise he tells me that he doesnt know what im talking about and then starts to laugh. i know that he wants to marry me and be with me forever, but is he hinting that hes gonna pop the question anytime soon? or do u think im over looking it too much? seriously answers only please. im not some stupid little girl. i own a business, live on my own and know exactly what i want in life. i just need some help on this topic. he's my first real boyfriend and i dont know the hints.

Answer 1

he probably is. dont ruin the surprise for him.

Answer 2

It sounds quite possible that your BF is getting ready to pop the question! Normally, since you're both 20 and have only been dating for 10 months, I'd say that you both should really think about it before making a huge life decision like that, but you know what? You guys sound like you've really got it together, and you're already living together, so no doubt you have already learned about each other's little habits and idiosyncracies, and I would imagine you've already had a little quarrel or two and know how to manage that. So it really sounds to me that despite your age and the relatively short time you've known each other, you're ready for the next step. Some advice from a girl who's been with her BF for nearly 5 DAMN YEARS AND NO RING: if he doesn't ask you on your anniversary, don't get disappointed or get angry at him for not proposing- he will then feel pressure to do so, which could actually make him more commitment-phobic in the long run. Just bide your time and he will eventually do it. You still have all the time in the world. Another tip: between now and your one-year anniversary, DO NOT do anything like hint (broadly) about weddings, rings, etc. because then you will start to sound like you're harping on it and he may not propose if he gets sick of hearing you talk about it all the time.

Answer 3

Keep the hints in the back of your head, but don't go getting in over your head. 10 months is a little early to get engaged. Couples usually wait at least 2 years to get engaged because that second year is almost always harder than the first.

It will 2 & 6 for me and my boy here in July (16th). We were talking about marriage and kids from the first few months, but we wanted to make sure that we were perfect for each other. I'm still waiting for that ring...

Maybe the big surprise is a birthday surprise or a trip somewhere. Don't pressure him or else he'll just make you wait longer. Best wishes!

Answer 4

It sounds like he *might* be hinting about proposing, but it's impossible to tell, since none of us can read his mind. You'll find out in 2 months what the surprise is, so no use trying to guess ahead of time.

And, although you didn't ask for advice, as someone older than both of you put together: I think that when both partners are only 20 years old, they should spend at least 2 years together before getting engaged, not one. No matter how together one is businesswise and in other areas, the vast majority of 20 year-olds need the extra time for many reasons, including truly gauging how compatible they are beyond the honeymoon period. I don't think it's wise to be in a hurry to get married.

Answer 5

I'm in a very similar boat to you, only I'm the guy in the relationship and we've been together for almost 4 years...my best advice to you is to stop worrying about if he's going to propose anytime soon and when he does (because you certainly make it sound like he will), you'll be very happy...and if he does things "right" you'll never see the proposal coming...but, in advance, congratulations =)

Answer 6

Relax...take a deep breath.....and calm. haha. It sounds like it but don't get your hopes up. Because if it isn't a ring and it's actually the cute little puppy you've wanted since you were little, you are going to not only be sad, but pissed. Let him take his time, I'm sure he wants to marry you, but maybe he doesn't have the courage to ask, the money for a ring, or he's just not ready. Give him time. He'll come around.

Answer 7

The simple fact is, I can't read his mind. He may be gearing up to popping the question, but don't count on it. He may have something different in mind, so you'll have to be a bit patient and see what he's up to.

But if you're both ready and certain, then I hope that's what he has in mind.

Answer 8

I think he will pop the question. You should probably just leave the situation alone and not stress about it and let him do it in his own time. If you pressure him, he may not ask at all. Just give it some time and see what happens.

Answer 9

well i am someone who has been wit a lot of guys in my life so that is a hint that he wants to marry you. He might ask u but don't be disappointed when he doesn't.

Answer 10

probably, so stop asking him because you'll end up ruining the surprise. congrats in advance! 8 0 ) I know the anticipation has got to be eating at you but hang on.....it'll come quickly.

Answer 11

i cant be for sure...but maybe he is going to ask you to marry him...but then again..maybe he knows that you are anxious so he is just messing with you....try not to get your hopes up in case it doesnt happen...but i hope he does ask you because that is exciting!! =]] im in the same predicament...me and my boyfriend have been together for a year in august...i hope he asks me too...he has been talking about it a lot lately!!! =]]