Ok, I am divorced, 3 kids. He never married, one kid. Met in April. Lives about an hour away but when we're 2gether, it's like the earth stands still. Great chemistry, alot of laughter and good communication. We "joke" about marriage but I feel there's a serious undertone whenever we talk about it. Lust is definitely there but I also think I'm falling in love. It's been 7 yrs since my divorce and this is the first man that just makes my heart melt. When I tell my close friends, they say I'm crazy cuz I haven't known him that long. We've even talked about going to Vegas to get married. My ex husband screwed me over pretty bad and I'm scared to trust anyone but this man makes me want to try. I have trust issues that I'm working on but I'm scared I'm going to drive him away. How do I tell him that I'm falling in love with him without sounding like a desperate single mom? He works alot and goes a few days without calling and I go crazy thinking he's with someone else. He swears he's not.
2007-06-28 05:57:42 · 16 answers · asked by hdrvs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ummmm... hmmmmm... let me think a minute....
YES! it IS crazy!
I have been with my g/f for 5 years, and I'm still learning stuff about her. Who knows what I was getting into after just a few months!
I think a lot of people get lucky though... Its up to you if you want to take a chance... I have a feeling people aren't here sharing their divorce stories...
2007-07-06 03:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by ct 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not crazy to consider marrying after only a few months. If the two of u really feel that deep with each other then u should do what Ur hearts say. The next time Ur friends say ur crazy, tell them your right" I'm crazy in love"
There have been many and plenty of relationships that has lasted a long time with couples who have known each other for only a few months.
Good Luck
2007-06-28 13:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice: cool down. If you're sleeping with him, stop. That will just obscure your judgment and his. To many people have leaped into a marriage because of "chemistry". Make sure that you love and trust each other, that's the only way anything will work between you. Commit you relationship to God, people have been doing it for hundreds of years and you know what? The divorce rate was much lower in the 19th and early 20th century. Make sure this is right, pray, for your kids sake make sure, they need stability.
2007-06-28 13:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by tolerance-Jn3:16,Acts2:38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel...I have a trust issue with men as well, because the way I have been done... I was married for over 9 Years, and had some domestic viloence in it as well... I have had trust issue;s as well as you
Now I have been dating and learned since I have been divorced that you take it really slow... you dont want people to think you are desperate mom ,like you said,
But if you have feelings for each other, then ask can you talk to him about something important and its about us,... then he will listen to you I promise
2007-06-28 13:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by jenny t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date at LEAST for almost a year. I know people who got married fast and it never turns out pretty. Plus, don't shock the poor kids by getting married so fast. Date, get everyone use to each other, introduce the idea of marriage at the soonest in 4-6 months, then decide if you want to wait longer or if you are ABSOLUTELY sure.
2007-06-28 13:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to REALLY know someone in order to marry them and expect the relationship to last. Trust is a must as well. And how would the kids handle this? Do they not factor into your relationship as well? What do they want? It is about you, but their opinion matters as well. Before you marry, try living together too. That is a HUGE step. Not as big as marriage, but pretty big. So I say try that first, before you make a decision about marriage.
2007-07-06 03:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u only live once right? so do what u gotta do! call him up and ask to see him and tell him. i told my boyfriend by buying him a cake and having the people write on it saying i'm in love with u, and well we're still together and we've only been together for 10months so i understand when people tell u ur crazy but the simple fact is that u cant decide when to fall in love and when not to, it just happens. i wish u the best of luck!
2007-07-06 12:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by ..::..Lovin him..::.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to trust him. A man needs his space no matter how in love he is. If it's meant to be, then wait. You should know from being married that the "honeymoon phase", wears off. I'm looking for a man, but I have to keep telling myself that I have to have a good head on my shoulders for my children's sake. Remember, if it's meant to be, It will happen. Don't make more of it too soon. That will drive him or scare him away. Good luck.
2007-06-28 13:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you are crazy.. My boyfriend and I have been together 3 weeks.. Yes 3 weeks.. And this Saturday he's poppin' the question.. I'm not supposed to know.. (thats what friends are for) haha.. I fell in love with him. He makes me happy. I've never been married, he has. I know how it is not to trust people. I am the same way.
He would do anything for me. We both want a big wedding, and we both think the same. I think your friends are looking out for you, but you need to do what makes you happy. I think you need to follow your heart.
Just make sure you both want the same thing, and make sure it's good with your kids. You don't want them resenting you for this... They are the most important think in your life remember.
2007-06-28 13:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by jenjen2_46514 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy as I get married with my wife after seeing each other for a week. This is what we call true love. True love will not fact by the time. This month will be our 8Anvry
2007-06-28 13:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by starlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋