I have been suffering quite badly from depression for the last 10 years, but no doctor was willing to help, i just got the "pull yourself together" attitude from them which, when they seem like your last hope is a hard thing to deal with. so i carried on as normal thinking that maybe this is just the way you feel as you get older (i was 16 when it started). I since then met the love of my life and had been with her for 6 years. my depression unfortunately stayed with me and i started doing other things to keep my mind off my feelings, which resulted in me neglecting her to the point that 2 weeks ago she ended our relationship without talking to me about it first. I have pleaded with her so much and have even demanded and found help for my illness, but she still hasn't been in contact, it has sent me to the lowest part of my life so far and i can't cope. Is it time for me just to let go even though i helped her through a similar illness when we first got together?
2007-06-28 05:51:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless she realizes that she should support you in the same way that you supported her you will need to move on. The question you have to ask yourself is if you want to be with someone who won't support you? Someone who can't be there emotionally? Always remember that there is someone out there for you, you just have to keep looking.
2007-06-28 05:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ricky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to depend a lot on what all happened throughout the relationship. You helped her through a similar situation and that is awesome that you were there for her but you cant look at it like she owes you the same either. There has got to be a reason for her ending it and if it truly is just that you neglected her over the course of your relationship than maybe you could give her some time to think but let her know that you are there for her and want things to work out. If you cant get her to sit and talk with you about how you feel, or what you've been going through than try to write her a letter. Think about what you say carefully and make it sincere. Show her how you feel and what you want without being pushy. The last thing you want to do now is try to make her feel bad for not being there for you or you might end up just pushing her away for good. Try to be understanding while you get help for your depression and hope for the best. Over time youll either end up realizing that things were just not meant to be or that its too late to fix what has happened or you 2 will end up working things out. Just try not to overwhelm her. Good luck with everything
2007-06-28 13:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by somebody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was depressed for almost six years and just recently finally got over it with no medications nothing. First thing depression kills relationships if it isn't taken control of. I almost lost my family and my fiancee. I did things that were stupid to take my mind off my illness, I said things that were out of this world and I took SO many different antidepressants.
I know that sometimes talking to shrinks and counselors don't seem to help but they really do.
Your other half ya she was feeling neglected and has every right to give her that. If you really want her back then change. Don't sit at home mopping around. I learned that your only depressed if you say you are. That helped me so much.
She want's you to focus on you, she wants you to get better. If your truly not happy inside how are you going to be happy with her. You two have been thru alot I take it thru those 6 years. Don't let her slip away that easily.
Do go to a psychiatrist, get your life back, you don't want depression to take over your life. It can be controlled and cured, you have to TRULY TRULY want it gone. It's too soon for you to let her go.
Put a picture of you two somewhere you can see every morning you wake up, instead of thinking she just left think how much you want to get better and want to be with her. Don't think about the pain think about what is going to feel like without it.
I did things like this on my own and I'm 100 percent better. She really can't help you, you need to help you first. You will be with her again, if not, when you get out of your depression you will have a new life with a new girl!
2007-06-28 13:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume when you say you have "found help for my illness" that is professional help. That same professional help should help you in this area as well. Depression is a very serious but treatable illness from both a pharmacological point and a therapeutic point (or both). This can take months (if not years) to treat correctly. This is a time for you to look inwardly and help yourself and think about yourself. If you are able to communicate (message, e-mail, text etc.) with your ex(?), tell her exactly what has been going on and tell her that you hope that she will give the relationship and you another chance... but don't count on it, rather, count on getting better first, the rest will fall into place thereafter.
2007-06-28 13:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by jayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes thru this one way or another....and the reason the doc's say "get over it" (in which yes when u'r the victim it's hard to hear)..but truth is..it's mind over body... your body is munipulating you to thinking + feeling the way you are. Seek online, it's always easier to talk + feel better about things by talkin to others who actually KNOW what your dealing with.
But on the other hand life deals you hard obsticles now and then and you can't always pull back to "my depression" as being a result of it...NOR a reason for it... it just didnt work out w/her, learn + go on to improve from it... :) it's life, enjoy it... take control of your body + stop letting the depression lead your decisions.
2007-06-28 12:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by imalilplaygirl_2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your living and loving to me! This is called life, good boy! Well it doesn't always work like the movies, and it can be in the s h i t s. But your out there interacting, and theres other women and relationships to be had! I'm glad you pushed for help and got it. I'm glad you've loved. Your young and thats the resume most have till the right one is blessedly bestowed on you. May take a few. Have to admit some of it was grand--huh?
2007-06-28 12:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and get better medicines.
After three months of any medicines, you should begin to see an improvement. If you don't, see your doctor and discuss how the medicines affect you. Keep a journal.
You sound bi=polar, and there is a bi=polar community on the Internet, all with advice, treatment plans, a newsletter, etc.
You may meet a few new friends, and a wealth of knowledge and understanding.
2007-06-28 12:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really worry about you first, your depression is obviously what helped end the relationship, you don't want to carry that feeling back into the relationship again if she was to come back. My suggestion get help first then if its meant to be work on you and her. Hope this helps!
2007-06-28 12:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by jaime w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im like you. im on the verge of dying everyday. having a nervous breakdown, depression. went to psychiatrists. they cant help. your friends cant help, yahoo answers cant help. if you think you are strong, mind over body. your mond controls everything. you are who you are. you know what you want. you got to stand up for yourself and solve this yourself. asking around is useless. everyone would only ask you to move on and get over it. what's the use? it's all up to you right in the end. you got to give some thought about it. only yourself can help yourself.
2007-06-28 12:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a good doctor and get the help you need, as far as the g/f, move on no need in putting yourself through any more hell than you have to
2007-06-28 12:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋