I have a question regarding God and Divorce . . .?

Question

I have a friend who is getting divorce, I'm trying to cheer her up (she's much older than me, so no malice her dudes and ladies).

She's very religious. But because she's divorcing, people at her church has shut her off. Now she thinks that God has cursed her because of the divorce. It seems that people who has done more evil things (like steal, lie, murder, people who commit adultery, sodomy . . . etc.) are forgiven easier than people that do divorce.

Now my question is, how bad is it to God that people divorce? And is there hope for forgiveness? Isn't God forgiving?

Answer 1

All sin is serious to God. Not all divorce is sin, however. God does allow for divorce in some cases. The Bible says that God hates divorce--he feels very strongly about it and desires that we stick together. Still he is opposed to all sin and doesn't single out divorce as a extra "bad" sin.

Can God forgive someone who divorces without a Biblical reason? Of course. What about other believers? I don't know why these Christians are cutting her off because of the divorce. Could it have something to do with the circumstances of her divorce? At any rate, she may have to go to a different church and begin a new life with new friends. Some churches are certainly more supportive and helpful to divorced people than others. She will need to find a church that understands and practices GRACE.

Blessings.

Answer 2

Divorce is the time when churches should be providing comfort. Unfortunately, there are many self-righteous churches that smuggly turn away the victims of such events. The Bible provides much information on this, and I must say, I am appalled at how misapplied many of them are in churches today. Your friend needs to find a church that teaches the Word and does not spend its time condemning the wounded.

The reason why God hates divorce is because it breaks the type or model that marriage represents--that is, the relationship between God and Israel, and Jesus and the Church. It is like saying that God will divorce us if we do not meet expectations or another honey comes along. No, quite the opposite. God says "I will NEVER leave you, nor forsake you." It is because of hardness of heart that God even provided a writ of divorce. It was never meant to be, and it breaks God's heart as it breaks the hearts of those involved.

Answer 3

Well to my knowledge God does hate a divorcing, but if a mates commits fornication against the other mate a divorcing can take place and the mate that was fornicated on can freely remarry and have God approval. Share Matthew 19:9 with her. And if fornication was the cause of this divorcing she probably feels to embarrassed and ashamed to share with her congregation. But let her know that as long as she followed scriptural counsel to help her marriageand her life, let her know she is still in Gods pleasing eye. Her congregation is full of imperfect people who are waiting to shun someone. Tell her to keep her head held high, if it is her desire to keep her business between her and God then she should do so.

Other scriptures regarding divorce.
De 24:1
Isa 50:1
Jer 3:8
Mt 1:19, 5:31, 19:9
Mr 10:11
Lu 16:18
Le 21:7, 22:13
Nu 30:9
Mal 2:16
Mt 19:7

Tell your friend to read the bible, and stay in consent prayer.

This is a very difficult time in her life, please encourage her for me and let her know that its God favor she wants to be in not the congregation.

Remind her of the scripture in Rev 12:12 that Satan the Devil is here on earth and he knows that he has a short time here. Satan the Devil is roaring about like a roaring lion seeking to devour someone. (sorry I coundn't find this one)

Please don't let yourself get caught up in these worldly desires because according to 1John 2:17 this world is passing away along with its desires.

Tell her to stick close to those with scriptual truths.


Repentence is the key to forgivness

Answer 4

The Bible comes directly out and says "I hate divorce."
Forgiveness? Yes. Absolutely.
What was the cause of it?
I know people that were shunned also, and it wasn't their choice or fault to become divorced!
People are the problem here. If they wish to be forgiven, then they better forgive also. See the end of the Lord's prayer, and verses following.
Divorce is NOT the unpardonable sin.
God forgives the repentant person. How sad people are so quick to forget they too stand in need of forgiveness.

Answer 5

Hello there,
I have some important information and I hope you will pass it
along to your friend.
First of all, Divorce is NOT a sin; Adultery would be the sin, if it applies here, but not divorce. If you read the book of Hosea, you will see that God divorced Israel because of idolatry.
Your friend needs to understand that any individual or Church system that puts you in bondage (in this case the bondage of guilt, etc) is certainly not of God. She is FREE IN CHRIST.

Her marriage, for whatever reason, was not able to be saved, and that of course is a shame. However, God does not expect a person to live in a marriage where she would be
unhappy. All she needs to do is to repent to God for whatever part she may have had in the marriage failing. We want to blame it all on the other person, but the truth is that both parties have played a part in the problem. Tell her to repent of her part in it, and ask God for his forgiveness and a fresh start. This will do two things: First, she will be washed clean of all sin, and second, she is free to go about her life and EVEN REMARRY IF SHE CHOOSES TO DO SO.
Do not allow any church or person to use the traditions of man and their misunderstanding of Scripture to keep you locked into a miserable existance.

Quite frankly, thats a church that I would not shadow the door of for the rest of my life, if it were me. Tell her she is NOT being cursed of God, and if anything, God is showing her the true colors of the Church system she is so involved with.
God calls this type of Church a "Beth Ayin", which means
"House of Nothing". A Church like that does not have Christ present in it, nor does Christ bless a person for supporting such a Church. They are a Church that worships their own
traditions and beliefs, certainly not Gods Word.
I am a teacher of the original writings of Scripture, and I hear this sort of thing all the time. In fact, there is a woman near us who a few years ago, they found out her husband and the father of her four children, had been raping the three little girls from the age of THREE. They were penetrated at the ages
of four and five. This is their natural father, not a step dad.
Anyway, he was sentenced to only THREE YEARS IN PRISON, AND he got out of jail for good behavior in only
10 months! When the man was getting out, the woman went to her Catholic Priest and asked him to help her and pray for her. Instead, the Priest told her that she was a very, very bad woman and a very bad Catholic. He told her that she has an
obligation to God and to her family to welcome the husband back with open arms, into the home. Because the little girls were raped by him, the law would not allow him to be in the home if the girls were there, SO THE WOMAN WAS TOLD BY THE PRIEST TO GIVE THEM UP AS WARDS OF THE STATE. They live in a residential care center run by the State to this very day. Raped, and then given away by their mother, can you imagine that?
My point is that some of these churches are so far from the teachings of God that its pathetic.

Yes, God forgives her upon repentance, as I've stated, and you tell that nice lady to go about her life, happy and free in her love of God. She will be so blessed that it will absolutely
astound her. That Church is the problem, NOT HER DIVORCE. You tell her that I'm fluent in all three Biblical languages and can guarantee her that she is not being cursed by God by any stretch of the imagination, and certainly not in any of Gods Writings. Thats a guarantee.
God needs her to free herself of all these Church rules and traditions and then he can use her wonderfully in a world that really needs a nice person like her - and, the richest most
wonderful blessings of God the Father and of Jesus Christ await her. You tell her that, okay?

Answer 6

Yes God is forgiving. And to divorce isn't a sin to God. Things happen people change etc... It is frowned upon but allowed. Funny if god can allow it when no other agreement can be reached, then why is it that people of various religions can't. They make you feel like you need thier forgiveness instead of Gods.

Answer 7

Divorce in Gods eyes
Matthew 5:31-33

Divorce
31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.' 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

1 Corinthians 7:10-16

10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?


Forgiveness
1 John 1:8-10 (keep in mind this scripture is written to Christians)

8If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. 9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 10If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives.

Answer 8

God knows her heart and what she is going through...I also had to get a Divorce...I know God Understood, because he gave me the strength to get through it...this lady knows she is the only one who knows what is going on here, and the people at her Church should be there for her and support her...she needs them, she dos not need to be shut off...Its not her fault...NO God does not curse people...God is forgiving and DOES understand...Divorce is NOT a sin...
As I said before, God knows her heart and that is all that counts here...
I will pray for her, and I send her my strength...because she needs it...she needs to ask God for his strength and it will be given...God Bless you for caring so much.

Answer 9

I've seen people ostracized because of this. My statement to them....don't go there and don't give them any more of your money. This person was donating more $2000 per month!

I think for the way things are today, God understands. IMHO she is already forgiven. Look at her persecution!

Answer 10

A Catholic priest said it is ok to divorce if there was something lacking durring the Sacrament of Marriage. True love? maybe he wasn't truthful to his vows? And it seemed like he didn't think it was a sin to divorce if there was something lacking when they were married.

Edit: I forgot to add that the priest said, that because something was lackign durring the Sacrament of Marriage, it wasn't really a marriage, and that is why it was ok to "divorce."