Ladies: If your male fiancé announced he would Never Ever give you jewelry, would you still marry him?

Question

If your answer is no, could you please elaborate?
Thanks.

Answer 1

Sad to say, but that's one of the things that doomed my marriage - I became a "jewelry machine." I have no problem with a gift of jewelry as a symbol of my love. I have a big problem with an expectancy of it (or any material thing) as a question of duty.

I'll leave it to your imagination to guess what other areas of the marriage were like, but I'll tell you this:

The minute anyone begins to establish material benefit as a condition of marriage - move on.

Answer 2

Well I hope that you at least bought her an engagement ring, after why not??? If she wants jewelry she should do like I do, I buy it for myself..If she's working and has a salary why should she wait on you to buy her anything. I've been married for 7 years and when I want something I just go and get it. That's how my husband and I do things. Of course it's nothing way expensive but still. If she doesn't want to marry you because of jewelry then find someone else. Cause it's not a reason not to marry someone.
Good luck

Answer 3

It depends, is your love conditional on jewelry? I wouldn't make a big deal about it unless I've always had my heart set on my husband surprising me with jewelry all the time then I might step back and see if this is really for me.

Chances are he has a reason for saying this that he may not even understand. Maybe he feels like he could never pick out, or maybe even afford jewelry. It doesn't mean that sometime in the future you couldn't find something you like and ask if he likes it then buy it for yourself. I have a friend who doesn't let her husband pick out her jewelry, he gives her a little extra money for something nice and she goes and buys it herself.

You have to decide what your priorities are.

Answer 4

I suppose so, because I personally (and unusally for a female) don't see the hype in jewelry. What's the big deal about a rock? They're so common, every woman has one! But I am a very different person. Most women I think would expect some jewelry every now and then!

Answer 5

Well it depends what you mean by NO jewelry. If that includes engagement/wedding ring well that would upset me quite a bit. As far as other jewelry it would not bother me. I am quite picky about my jewelry and maybe if we went together and picked something out that would be fine OR if I had to buy my own jewelry that is fine too. That is all material. Material possesions come and go. What matters is your relationship not the material things you get out of it.

Answer 6

First of all, why would a guy even say that? Who cares and what does one thing have to do with the other?

It's like telling a guy, "I would never ever buy you a football" and expect him to think about marraige...?

If she told the guy that "if you dont buy me jewelry, then i wont marry you", she has problems.

if the guy said "i would never buy you jewelry, but i want to marry you", he makes no sense

if the guy said "i would never buy you jewelry", when he really would buy an engagement or wedding ring, and the girl assumed she would never get a wedding ring or an engagement ring and said" i would never marry you then", then you BOTH have problems.

but this question is weird.

if I never bought you shoelaces, would you marry me?

Answer 7

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just read "TOP CONTRIBUTOR'S" answer (above) and could NOT STOP LAUGHING!!!!

>> thats like a woman saying "i will never ever give you sex" would you still stay with her?<<

WOW!! A woman who openly ADMITS buying woman jewlery = SEX.

Gee. Isn't that . . . PROSTITUTION???????

One things for sure, a woman like that is worth DUMPING on the spot, because . . . when you PAY A PROSTITUTE, she's never gonna say "no". . . . or suddenly 'get a headache'.

At least a "professional" is gonna give you exactly WHAT you want, WHEN and HOW you want it. Its her JOB to make sure you get the most BANG FOR YOUR BUCK and she's not leaving until you are completely satisfied . . . YOUR WAY.

Does a girlfriend who expects jewlery for her "affection" come with that kind of a guarantee?? If you STILL buy this type of woman 'a spectacular diamond', will she make it her mission to satisfy YOU?? No. I didn't think so.

YOU DONT PAY A WH-RE TO F-CK YOU.
YOU PAY HER LEAVE!

BUT HERE IS A QUESTION FOR YOU -->> If a woman who withholds SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE thinks withholding a man's most basic needs and desire until wedding is supposed to be OK with him . . . UNTIL HE purchases a ring and signs away (promises) half of his life , future and assets . . . . would she still marry the guy if he AGREED to remain fauthful -->> PROVIDING SHE NEVER DENY HIM SEX AFTER THE WEDDING AND THEY PUT THAT IN THE MARRIAGE CONTRACT?

Now THAT'S a question.

LMFAO!!!!!!

:)

Answer 8

I guess it depends on how much you value jewelry. If it's something you really want, I would let him know in hopes that he will try to fulfill your needs/desires.

Perhaps I would try to compromise and suggest only buying jewelry for big occasions (like your 10 year anniversary). If he's still not willing, and this is really important to you, I guess I would reconsider the engagement. Your partner should always try to make you happy.

Answer 9

I would wonder why? Instantly it would be, What did I do? Am I not good enough for a 100 10ct gold(which is the bottom of the line) necklace? Does he not love me like I think he does? After those questions, Yes I would. Love isn't about the gifts I receive at birthdays and Christmas, it is about how we are together. It is about our commitment, our bond, our friendship, our personalities and how we mesh. Why would I be so shallow as to drop him because of that. Then I wasn't the type of person who he really would deserve. I don't need trinkets, I need him.

Answer 10

I don't know. I would wonder why he was so against jewelry. Would you marry a woman that said she would never buy you a power tool and you really like them?
I would probably still marry him and just buy my own jewelry. That is an odd thing to say to your fiancee though..............