I love my little sister dearly (she's 22) But its only a month away from my weding and the bachloette party has not been planned, no one knows whats going on. I havnt even heard any details untill my friend called and asked what was going on. The only thing everyne knows at this point is the date of the party. Thats it! I would be happy just to hang out with the girls at my place, nothing expensive! I don't need to spend money to have a good time. I have expressed time after time that I dont want anything crazy....I I have given her hundreds of ideas, non being expensive.Every month I ask whats going onand there is no set plan. My sister gets frustrated and gets angry at me for asking. I figured this was too stressful for her to handle and maybe to have the help from some of our family but she is too stubborn. She truley belives she does not need help, but does nothing at all. Iam tired of telling her (in a nice way)how much stress this is causing me and everyone. Whats left to do?
2007-06-28 04:52:35 · 16 answers · asked by L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Maybe it's stress and she might be to young to handle that.Ask your mother for some help or one of you other girls.
2007-06-28 04:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relax! I'm sure she's doing just fine. My friend's hen party is this weekend (her wedding is next week) and the MOH *just* sent out official invites yesterday. Maybe she's trying to surprise you. On a side note, a stagette isn't a requirement when you get married - it's something nice that your friends throw for you. They don't *have* to do this. Your other bride's maids can help and if they haven't done anything for it yet, then there's a reason. (Again, it could be a surprise.) Just let it go! There are better things to stress about than this.
2007-06-28 05:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have your other bridesmaids call her and start to arrange things with her. I have a horrible bachelorette party story b/c the sister in law got jealous of the bride and tried to sabotage the bachelorette party the day of. She wouldn't give us the tickets to the show we were going to (they were in her name) she purposely made people late so we couldn't get there in time too. A bunch of people had to cancel because they were only going to be there in the afternoon, and all of the afternoon plans were destroyed. It ended up being 4 of us and we had a great time, but I still felt bad for the bride. So make sure the bridesmaids know what is going on and are part of the plans.
2007-06-28 07:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by JM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's a date set for the party, right? And you've told her that you don't want a anything crazy, that simply hanging out at your house will be fine, right? Actually, what I'd do is get one of my other bridesmaids to call her up, and ask her if she needs any help with it. Have her offer to do specific things "Can I get some food? What about drinks? Paper goods? Etc?" She can do this and make it look like it's coming from her, and not you. Your sister may be tired of YOU asking her, ya know?
2007-06-28 05:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are planning something nice, and its supposed to be a surprise for you. If you don't mind just hanging out, then why are you so worried? Relax. The real important date is the wedding anyway. And even more than that is your marriage as a whole. Everything little thing is gonna be alright.
2007-06-28 05:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my sister's bachlorette was a surprise, she knew the date, but nothing else...
If you think that she's just stressed out, have the rest of the bridal party call her and start "Suggesting" ideas to her...if she is too stubborn to accept help head on, try this more subtle way...
2007-06-28 11:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by xylina_69 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither my fiancé nor I wanted a bachelor/bachelorette party, but we had a nice rehearsal dinner with all of the wedding party. The rehearsal dinner is given by the parents of the groom.
It was very nice, and everyone had a great time.
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2007-06-28 05:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by OhWhatCanIDo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she already made plans and is trying to surprise you and you aren't letting her. Try talking to her in a calm manner or send a friend to help or just have a friend do the planning instead if you are that worried about it.
2007-06-28 05:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by Miya Miya 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is trying to surprise you and she may be getting angry at you because you keep asking and she doesnt want to have to "lie" to you.
Or maybe she doesnt have the funds just yet and is too ashamed to admit it and or doesnt want to upset anyone.
Dont ask her anymore and before you know it you will have probably found out.....
Have fun life is too short be thankful that you have a sister =)
2007-06-28 05:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so pushy!
#1. YOU don't know what is going on, and that is as it should be.
#2. Its a SURPRISE, so you shouldn't know WHAT is going on, only the DATE.
#3. she is getting tired of you pushing her about what is going on!
#4. HOW do you know she is doing "nothing at all"????
Zip it, stop pestering her, and eagerly await the day of the bachelorette party.
2007-06-28 05:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋