When do you normally start planning a bridal shower? Or how fast can I plan one?

Question

Yes, it's for the crazy friends for those on yahoo who know me all too well.

She is having the second wedding in Jan- nothing is booked yet. And the guest list is not done yet.
I talked to her sister and due to the fact that her sister is pregnant we want to have the shower in October so she can be there.
Granted the bride actually books something- when is the latest we should send out the invitations?
We don’t know how many people yet because the bride is talking 80 and the bridesmaids are planning to state that is ridicule and she needs to scale it down to close family and friends- more like 20-30.
So to make a long story short- there is a ton of drama going on and I was seriously getting the feeling that this is going to come down to the last min. No one wants to start planning until she actually books something- and to tell you the truth- I am right there with them on that. So when is the absolutely latest date you can start doing this stuff and not have it be horrible lo

Answer 1

FIRST, CAL DOWN. It's okay! The idea is to ave fun, beyond all else.

Next, go to the website listed below. It will walk you through, step by step.

As to WHEN to do all this, be prepared, but wiat til all the specifics have been worked out. You don't need a lot of time to throw together basically a party. You can do it in a week, as long as you have a way to get the friends together that quickly. The biggest thing is just getting the guests there. The rest is simple. Call your guests, if needed. Go to Dollar Tree or party supply store, get your theme, and then figure out what you want to do during hte party. Not difficult, because you can plan all that from the website now.

Answer 2

I had a pretty big shower, around 50 ladies there, and it was planned in a month...they sent the invites out 3 weeks ahead (most people were local and got it the next day) and the women who were throwing it called each other and divied up what needed to be done, one lady took cake and punch, another all the other finger foods, another the invites, etc...so it wasn't so much on one person and it got done faster.

80 people seems a big HUGE, I mean she'll be opening gifts for hours! Maybe compromise and give her 40, tell her she can invite 50 to make her happy but you know some folks won't show. (and how can she bank on 80 if she doesn't even know how many are really gonna come to the wedding?!) I would get moving in maybe the beginning of August so you have a little more time (especially with your wedding being so close) Tell her if she wants you guys to throw her a shower she has to be considerate of your lives outside her wedding and she has to have a place booked by August 1 so you can start with it. Otherwise, she can't expect a cinderella shower on any later notice than that!

oh, and P.S.---is she throwing you a shower? I mean I really hope shes at least helping with something considering all your having to put into hers!

Answer 3

Bubbles, most bridal showers I've been to have been in someones living room. You don't have to have a location for that, and it's ridiculous to try. What I would do if I were you, is give psycho a limit--because after all, YOU plan the shower, and she's the guest of honor. 20-30 guests is a fantastic number to work with, and one I would stick with as well. Simply give her the date and time and where to be, and tell her that you will handle the rest of the details. Tell her the limit on guests, that you just can't have that 80 people at a bridal shower. Then stick to your guns on it--if she asks, tell her you've got it under control, it's going to be great, and she's not to worry about it. If she's psychotic enough to criticize you AT the shower, she will be the one looking bad, not you.

And I would send out the invites 2 weeks in advance.

Answer 4

It doesn't take much time to plan a shower for 30 guests. It's usually held at a home, family members help out with getting the food together - and because it's people from the area, you can call to invite them, so two weeks' notice is enough for a shower.

Answer 5

You can plan a wedding in under 3 months, but I would try to get together with the bride and ask her what her plans are, and if there's anything you can do to help...maybe go with her to view some sites, etc. As far as the shower goes...since the brides sister is pregnant and would like to have the shower in Oct. why don't you throw a combo "engagement/bridal shower party" I would imagine that a party would give her the incentive to start making some final plans. good luck!

Answer 6

I would say by august start booking things and that way if something comes up you still have time to cancel . I wish you luck some brides can be difficult and snappy . No reason to loose your cool though and calm down all will be fine . good luck and congrats on the wedding .

Answer 7

don't plan anything until the wedding date is set.
you would normally have the shower anytime in the three months before the wedding...so you've got some time.
you also have the option of hosting at someone's house...thus keeping the shower guest list small. goodluck!

Answer 8

yes i know the feeling..
about 1 mouth befor you plain the show date,
that way people know about it and not to far that they will forget it .
also yes close family and friends(girls)...b/c the more people the more u have to have food/ and thank yous and all that fun stuff..u can also think of no kids ? but somtimes it's nice to have a few so they can help with the giving of the game prizes.. ;)

Good luck..

Answer 9

Why don't you plan it now--this will be easy, esp if its a home shower...then you can just throw it all together at the last second...realistically, you could run out and get the stuff in 1 weekend, address them all realy quick and throw them in teh mail...you should send a month in advance, I think.

Answer 10

your bridal guide will have to realize that it's particularly cheesy to host or plan your possess bridal bathe. it is like announcing, "howdy, deliver me items." anyone else plans and hosts it for you (now not YOUR mother, despite the fact that-his mother, your sister, his sister, your bridesmaids, cousins, women at paintings or church, and many others.). do not fear, it will get performed, all you need to do is exhibit up (and write thank-you notes later...) Congratulations!