We saw each other for about a year. We still love each other a lot but he has a 6yr old and i told him to go home for his son, since his wife woould not allow him to see him. We have remained friends. I only call at work, never his house because i know it must ve hard for his wife. I don't understand why she took him back after he confessed to multiple affairs. Anyway i left a voicemail at his job because i needed some advice from him. I trust him and have gone to hin for advice many times. We havebn't seen each other in more than a year. She went through his work voicemail and found my message. Last night she called and shrieked like a banshee. I stayed calm and didn't call her any names like she was calling me because i can understand how she feels. My question, if she is calling my house do i have to be nice to her. She chose to take her husband back knowing full well that he still loves me. We haven't seen each other in over a year. Do i have to keep being nice?
2007-06-28 04:32:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, before you calll me a homewrecker you should know he cheated on her in the double digits. When we split we split as friends. He asks me how to deal with certain things and vice versa. He didn't go back because of her it was because of his son. We were more than lovers we were great friends. I don't just call him for advice, we both call each other the way friends do. We speak at work so as not to cause his wife to be upset over a completely innocent relationship. My view is she will never trust him again...with good reason, so why be with someone you can not trust. Because we were each others first there will always be that caring for each other. I am with someone else and he knows everything. You can all think i am a whore all you want but i am not. I have been with 3 men in my life. Him, my ex-husband, and my present boyfriend. We are friends and friends only. I don't want to lose a great friendship because his wife can;t trust him. I am not the only one to blame.
2007-06-28 06:34:32 · update #1
It takes 2 to tango and there were obviously problems in the marriage to begin with. It is easier for her to blame me than it is to blame her husband. The only reason he confessed to his numerous affairs after she found out about us was because he thought there was no way she would take him back after hearing that. He is gutless when it comes to confrontation and would rather she kick him out for good than be the one to leave. The trust is so little he is not allowed to leave the house unless she or the kids are with him.
I know that morally it was wrong to see a married man, but i never stopped loving him nor he me. Cercumstances were such that he was raised if you got someone pregnant you married them. Our families moved 100 miles apart which is why we stopped seeing each other all those years ago. You can't always help who you fall in love with. We both believe we will end up together at some point, but for now we are friends. I have been nice to her because i do feel 4her
2007-06-28 06:44:06 · update #2
Like you said, she has a reason to be p issed off, so take the hint girl! LEAVE HIM ALONE... he's her husband, not yours. Call your single friends for advice in the future and if his wife calls you again, just apologize for your stupidity and tell her it won't happen again.
2007-06-28 04:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you keep being nice? Being nice? I'm sorry if you are slow or mentally-challenged. You should be ashamed at your actions and be glad his wife doesnt come and find you. Asking for advice? You are a homewrecker and shouldnt call him period. My Mom had an affair on my Dad and thats the reason i'm 35 and not married. It isnt the way I look or my brand new house. Its because of girls like you that are out there...
2007-06-28 04:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by csiders30 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are there no other friends you could ask for advice? You sent him back to his wife, but keep interloping on the healing process their marriage is undergoing. As you have not mentioned sharing a child with this man, there really is no reason for you to stay connected. All you are doing is adding fuel to the situation, and I think you know that. And if he still loved you he would never have went back to his wife or had multiple affairs.
2007-06-28 04:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Instantkarma♥♫ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to grow the hell up and move on from this guy. He clearly decided he wants to be with her and make things right. He confessed...hello! Whether he loves you or not is irrelevant. He went back to his wife. Case closed, end of discussion. No being nice, no phone calls, no voicemails, no advice, NOTHING!
Find a man of your own. One who is not married or has a girlfriend. Women like you disgust me.
2007-06-28 04:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she steps over the line then I would say you should stop being nice and just let her know how you feel. Yeah she's hurting but that doesn't give her the right to talk to you in any way that she wouldn't want you to talk to her if the shoe was on the other foot
2007-06-28 04:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by In love with life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had an affair with her husband, now you call him secretly at work and you wonder if you should be nice when she calls. Some people would say you werent very nice when you were having the affair so why start now
2007-06-28 04:36:38 · answer #6 · answered by dave n 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good God, you stupid whore! Leave him alone!!!! Your first incorrect statement in your post is "we still love each other a lot".....wanna make a bet?
2007-06-28 04:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋