I'm a 20 year old guy , and I live in Holland. I've been so depressed.I used to live on the island of Curacao . I had a "life" there , a car , was going to college. My biggest dream, was to finish my degree in IT , then go to Cuba or Puerto Rico , to study and pursue a carreer in music. Things weren't going so well in college, i lacked motivation so I decided to come here and live on my own , and finish college here in Holland. Been a year now, and I'm so depressed. I got no life here, I never go out, I don't got any friends. I was thinking of going back to my island and get college over with , so I can work on my dream of hopefully become a prof. musician. My dad don't like that idea so much, cuz he sais i'm in Europe now, and I got a once in a lifetime opportunity to explore the world outside Curacao. But the thing is, I don't feel comfortable here in Holland. Of course I wanna explore the world, that's what life's all about.But I'm young right? I don't know what to do, please help.
2007-06-28 04:26:34 · 10 answers · asked by mrmafiosso 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The problem is reality. We all want what feels great at the moment, but what happens as we get older, is we realize that our previous decisions made all the difference. First off, you are never TOO old to listen to your father. There is a reason we are taught to respect our parents. If they have been good parents, then ALWAYS respect them. Listening, is the best form of this. However this doesn't mean you always have to agree as adults. What I think he is REALLY trying to stress to you, is as you get older, you need security in life. You miss your friends and life but have a better chance NOW of securing a (most likely)better education that can ensure that LATER (and not ALOT later as time REALLY flies) you can afford to have fun with your friends and be a musician, etc. You do have the chance of a lifetime. You may never get the chance again. Your friends will always be there, and fun doesn't end just because you are a few years older, trust me...it only gets better when you have some cash of your own to help. Don't add to your depression by trying to not fit in because you don't want to be there. Just TRY for a while longer. Take this time to REALLY study. Graduate. You will make friends eventually. If not so what, later you go back to your old friends, with a degree and prospects in life many of them won't have. Practice your music, no one can take that away. Hope this helps a little. Good luck!
2007-07-05 09:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kitchy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should follow your heart and passion. I also think that you shouldn't be an environment where you're no longer happy. Education can be sought anywhere. Being in Holland is a wonderful opportunity but with education it doesn't have to become a once in a lifetime opportunity. Find your motivation and determination to finish college wherever you decide to go whether it be Holland or the Island of Curacao. Remember the possibilities of a prof. musician lies within you and your efforts only.
2007-06-28 11:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is right.
However, if you are wanting to pursue a career in music, it's a good idea to know another trade in case it doesn't work out. It's extremely difficult to make a living with music alone.
I tried to make it as a musician, then I started having problems with my hands, I got very depressed because I couldn't do the only thing I wanted to do. I finally went back to college and got a degree in an unrelated field, got a "real job", now I own a house, have medical insurance, and I can retire in five or six years. I still play music and make some money here and there, but I don't worry about having to make my living that way.
2007-07-06 00:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by majnun99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Music is a tough business. I wanted to be a musician when i was in high school and that is all i prepared for. I played in a band and when i graduated, i played full time in clubs and enjoyed it very much; however, while i was making killer money and enjoying myself, i wasn't prepared for anything else. Now I'm 55 and have no residual income from music and had to go to work. it has it's ups and downs. I turned down many offers that would have changed my life and i would be wealthy had i chose the right path, but you can't predict the future. I would say if you choose a career in music to also study for an alternate career as a back up.
2007-07-05 21:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by breeze1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is best for you, not your dad. Maybe you should try to join a group at school to meet people and hang out or get a job to meet people if you don't already have one. Once you meet great people maybe living in Holland wont be so bad. Change is hard for people you aren't experiencing anything abnormal. Good luck man.
2007-06-28 11:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get an education anywhere. If you aren't happy where you are, move. If you aren't happy with your life, you have the power to change it. It is your life and although you can take advice from your father, the ultimate decision is yours. If you stay in a situation that is making you miserable, you will not be productive. Good luck!
2007-06-28 11:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Lady G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a piece of paper. On one side write down the positive things about your impending decision. On the other side write down the negative affects of the same decision. Review and hopefully it becomes clearer to you.
2007-07-05 21:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by alioopisme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about applying at some of the universties in the USA?
Student visa?
2007-07-05 15:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by zenithxana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your dreams
2007-07-03 23:21:17 · answer #9 · answered by mother love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at twenty years old you are bit old to be listening to daddy or anyone else for your decisions....time to grow up and take responsibility for your own decisions.
2007-06-28 11:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋