Need help with my 9 year old daughter....?

Question

My daughter will be 10 in October. For the past few months every thing is such a big deal. For example when she can't make her picture she is coloring perfect she ends up sobbing uncontrollably. Or if she can't get something fastened, like her seatbelt, on the first try she freaks out. Her doctor has told me that it is probably hormones. Do kids really have hormone problems at 9? My mom said I didn't start acting like this till I was 13 or 14. I feel bad for her. Anybody else been throught this? Is there anything I can do to help her?

Would I take her to a psychaitrist to get checked for ocd? Does insurance cover that? She is a perfectionist and it worries me.

Answer 1

sweetie, I am going through the same thing
she does not have ocd-so many doctors diagnois children wrong and put them on meds for no reason. Really-you don't want that.

I am at a loss too-maybe talking to a counselor will help her with her emotions and how to deal with them
patience is a must-i know it sucks and it is hard for you.

I recommend American Girl feelings books-they have good ideas on a kid level

Good luck-

Answer 2

I am 34 and I started my period at 9. I am sure it probably is hormones, they don't even know themselves what is going on or why they act that way. And your body actually takes a few years to get to menstruation. Be patient with her and don't over react to her actions, it will only make it worse. Tell her to stop and take a deep breath before she freaks. It sounds to me like she is a bit stressed out. Does she have a lot going on sports etc. Sometimes they just need to slow down and take some of the expectations off of them for a while. There is a good book from the American Girl called "The Care and Keeping of You" its all about your body and the changes etc. it takes a casual approach from a young point of view. They also have good ones on how to deal with friends, boys, sibling etc.
And even if she is OCD, would you medicate her for it, I do not think kids should have medicine if you can help them by changing their environment to help them first.

Answer 3

hah.. what a hand full.. Well, I am 20 and both my mother and my older sister didn't start their hormonal stage until they were about 14, my sister didn;t start getting her period until she was 15. However, I got mine when I was 11, so I definately believe it's her hormones. My mother said I was an emotional basket case for almost a year before I actually started having a period, it might be higher if she is naturally sensitive as well. Either way, I would suggest treating her concerns seriously, do not make fun (or let her siblings or anyone around her) make fun of her if she cries when she is coloring, but try to lighten the general mood. Good luck mom, you have your hands full.

Answer 4

It is very possible it could be her cycle is beggining.

If i 6-9 months she does not get a period.
Take her back to the Doctor.

Most of all if she just found out about, what is going to
happpen to her she may be very up set, a perfectionist or not
bright children are much harder to disicpline.

I our daily routines we have a tendency to say to our children,
hurry up and we need to get moving.

That her frustration maybe becasue we always expect them to keep our pace. Causes a little pressure and then they can be hard on themselves.
Try real hard to talk with her alone. More often.
Best Wishes

Answer 5

My 9 yr old will be 10 in December. She started her period last month. She too is so sensitive.

She will be fine, then she will cry because she has to eat corn. Its hard. I just let her have her fits in her room check on her. Pat her back. reasure things are fine. I explained to her how her body is changing and thats why she's acting like this, but she has to do her best to keep it under control.

She is doing much better, but we still have the outbursts.

My mom says the same about me, I was 13 14 when I acted like that and that is how old I was when I started my period. My mom says its because of all the hormones they put in food nowadays.

Best of luck too you. :)

Answer 6

Yes, kids have hormonal issues that early. Some people think it's because of all the hormone fed to cows which leach into the cow's milk we give to our kids.

What she needs most is coping skills, enough sleep, a VERY healthy diet (watch the sugar, salt and fat), plenty of clean water and some excellent exercise. Coping skills are probably the most important, but don't shirk the rest of it.

Answer 7

I'm the same way! You may want to talk to her about depression. Ask her if she has a hard time sleeping at night or if in the past 2 weeks has she lost interests in things that she used to love doing! I'm sure you know the symptoms. . . . if not you may want to look it up. . . ! You don't necessarily have to have a reason to be depressed. You should look into it because Depression is NOT a good thing. If it let untreated then it well get really bad. . . . Then she become crazy! I hope I helped.

Answer 8

My wife and i have been through this and we both hated her sobbing. We now miss that noise. Still remember the screeh. WHat i am trying to say is that our method permaenantly stopped her from sobbing.

When ever a child crys the child wants attention. If you take away the attention the child will not cry. So when she cried we just looked away... and then she would come to us and say sorry. Now I can't gaurantee that your child will say sorry but she should stop crying.

Tell her happy birthday!! and good luck to you!!!!

Answer 9

Hormones are happening at very young ages for some girls but it may not be hormones. She may be having a very hard time right now, like bullies, lack of confidence, or some girls may be picking on her. You should ask her if theres anything wrong .

Answer 10

This is totally normal my daughter is 10 and is going through this. This is called pre-puberty. Mood swings are common and it is happening earlier than when we were kids because of all the hormones that are in our foods now.