I didn't even get a whole day off from the job (he gave me 2 half days off). I was only married on Tuesday and today is Thursday and he's sending me out of town because he says they need extra help in Chicago...
I told him I just got married 2 days ago and can't I go next week instead, but he insists that they really need help there. My wife is really upset about it... What is the best way to handle this situation?
2007-06-28 02:19:55 · 20 answers · asked by Jason 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I told him I was getting married a month in advance.
2007-06-28 02:28:47 · update #1
Also it was not spur of the moment. We had a big wedding planned for September, but we ran into financial problems and can't do it, so we had a very small wedding in the park and then went out to dinner with our families. My boss knew about it a month in advance and says it has to be me in Chicago this week, because another guy was there last week, and another fellow refuses to travel...
2007-06-28 02:33:03 · update #2
You would hate to be unemployed and newly married. Especially if you have other financial problems already. See if your wife can go with you but if not you have to do work.
2007-06-28 04:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The same thing happened to me - my husband & I had a very small wedding - I asked for time off in advance, my boss approved it, but then the week before I was to get married told me I had to come in the day after my wedding. I did go to work, but I very quickly put a resume together & found another job. I would like to have quit on the spot, but I needed the money, and I did not want to burn the bridge. My boss got the message though.
2007-06-28 10:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by molly 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
O, I am so sorry. Thats dreadful.
You mention that you have a coworker that "refuses to travel". Why is the boss sending you and this person is let off the hook?
I suggest having a talk with the boss. Explain the situation to him and ask if he could reconsider. If he doesnt listen, I suggest talking to your HR department about these issues.
Also, you said that you told your boss about the wedding one month in advance. Since it sounds like you need more than a day off, it would probably have been best if you could have requested the specific days you needed off more than one month in advance, especially since its summertime and a lot of people are looking for time-off.
2007-06-28 13:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica J 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should have thought of this a few months ago. Most likely, you were planning your wedding a few months in advance. You should have told your boss at least 6 months ago that you were getting married this week. If you did that, he might have let you have your vacation this week.
If this was a last minute, you can't blame your boss. You did not give him enough time to prepare. Also, he might not take your wedding seriously, if you just decided to pick up and elope one day.
A month is not enough time for a full vacation. It's different if you need one day off for a personal reason. Then a month notice is fine. But, a few days, you need more then a month.
2007-06-28 09:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, this is your own fault.
So you ran into financial problems? Big deal! You didn't have to change the DATE, just the setting. A month's notice isn't usually enough for vacation, especially in the middle of summer when everyone and their mother is trying to take time off. Your alone time with your new wife is going to have to wait. Why don't you take a honeymoon on/around the date of when the wedding was originally planned for? I think that would be a nice compromise, even if you only take a long weekend so it's more affordable. I'm sorry, it really stinks, but there isn't much you can do. Just enjoy the time you do have with her!!
2007-06-28 10:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Why can the one guy refuse to travel but you can't? Your boss is an ***, but since you just got married and are having financial problems, you don't have any choice. Have fun in Chicago.
2007-06-28 12:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this isn't your dream job and you can easily get another one, then just quit. Especially if you have other income sources. It depends how much money you make and how much you need it, and how easy the job is to replace, and how fast you can do it.
The boss might want you to quit, bosses do this a lot, they set up employees with impossible choices that are within their rights as employers; hoping the worker will quit. It is an easy way to get rid of someone they don't want, and they don't have to pay unemployment or severance.
There are no employment laws saying that an employer has to respect your right to a honeymoon, or give you time off.
2007-06-28 09:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well, did you take the time off in a proper amount of time before or did you just say hey I got married I want time off (which is how it sounds). If you don't already have honeymoon plans then do what you have to do...take a honeymoon later when you know you have the time off. It sucks but you don't necessarily want to lose a pay check either.
2007-06-28 09:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by T L 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Things happen, especialy at work. I think you have to prioritise what's more important your job or a few missed nights with your new wife (congrats btw). After all you will be spending the rest of your life with her. Can you get by without a job?? Unfortunately you don't have any legal leg to stand on as far as the employer having to give you time off. After you get back from the trip you may want to consider getting sick ;-) for a couple of days. If you know what i mean.
2007-06-28 09:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
so he'd rather make u miss ur honeymoon bc some jerk "refuses" to travel. Let ur boss know that u "refuse" as well. That you had given him ample time to know about the occassion and that you will not change ur plans bc u will be married and divorced in a week! ur wife is not happy and although u love ur job u will not budge. If u do he will think ur a push over and never give in. so stand firm and say no and mean it!
2007-06-28 09:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋