OK there is this guy who i really like and likes me back. We wanted to be friends first and not rush into anything becuase we like each other too much just to be a fling. I really want something lasting even if it is just a friendship or somthing more in the future. The problem is we always end up cuddling and being really close to each other. We started kissing but have tried really hard to stop that. Is this going to ruin our friendship/relationship? We already have agreed not to see anyone else but I am afraid this is moving too fast. Please help!!!!
2007-06-28 02:16:23 · 12 answers · asked by lala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its fine just roll with it
2007-06-28 02:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is this you might not be ready to commit to a relationship at this moment you are holding back because you feel that going to fast will end up ruining what might be a great relationship... The truth is even though you havn't formally committed your relationship by declaring yourself as going out... The truth of the matter is your in a commited relationship you are not seeing other people and obviously know there is a physical attraction... The only thing left is too move forward... There are some risks involved though if you move forward... Either he really wants to be with you or he doesn't... Restraining yourself from jumping in will only ruin the relationship because what you ultimately want is to be with him... Don't resist your first instinct which is to declare him yours holding back is only second guessing yourself... although it is good to be cautious you have already established this guy as a good person... Good luck hope this helps...
-Joseph
2007-06-28 09:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your doing the right thing by taking things slow. It sounds like you both communicate your feelings for the relationship and the desire to be more than friends, but realize how good of friends you both are.
Your relationship seems to have a lot meaning and true feelings for each other.
Relationships based on friendships can be very strong, and if you marry your best friend, you will always have the strongest person right by your side at all times. Only good things can come about from this.
Follow your heart and listen to your head.
2007-06-28 09:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by Just Life, Trying To Live It. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what happened with myself and my now husband. I know him since I was five and we even walked home together from school.
There's a number of things to look at. How would you feel if he had another girlfriend. That was the deciding question for me. I knew I was his special girl but I also relaised that if we stayed friends eventually somebody else would become an even specialler girl than me. And I was not prepared to let that happen.
The thing about if it doesn't work what happens to your friendship afterward, well, as long as neither of you hurt each other you will stay friends. Maybe not straight after a breakup but eventaully. But remember you will only be his 'friend only ' until he gets a new girlfriend. Then you will not be as important anymore.
2007-06-28 09:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by Aine C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, do not just stop wanting to be with someone because you think you are going to ruin it, or its going too fast, or whatever!!! Get out there and love him the way he loves you! The only way you are going to find out if it is going to work or not is if you take the leap and let go of all of this anxiety! Keep cuddling with him and kissing him as much as you want. You can find out that loving him is probably the best thing that you could do. Do not ruin the chance of happiness for yourself, trust me, I already gave that up once just like you are trying to, but it is not too late! Take that leap sweetheart and you will not regret it!
2007-06-28 09:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by Michele R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noway should it ruin your relationship. You are taking it one step at a time. Just remember to take it slow or it could end up hurting your relationship. There is nothing wrong with cuddling and kissing. Kissing is fun and so is cuddling. It just feels so right. Correct. So keep it at a slow pace and your relationship will blossom into something beautiful.
2007-06-28 09:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by maverick29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two are fighting what has already coming naturally. The outcome will depend on how mature you two are. It can indeed ruin you, but not necessarily. Talk with him and tell him how you feel. Make a pact that no matter what, you'll always stay friends.
BTW, I married my best friend. We now have eight kids and its the best thing I ever did in my life.
2007-06-28 09:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's moving too fast. Sounds like you two are completely head over heels for each other. Just let time take its course and I hope you both have a great future together : )
2007-06-28 09:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most successful love affairs usually start off as friendships. There is always a risk involved with love, but that's the nature of the "game" - you could lose, but you could also win, and there is only one way to find out - go for it.
2007-06-28 09:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that happened to me and we just ended up going out cuz it got too hard to explain to friends. my advice to you? date him. it's easier that way cuz then you dont have to feel bad about kissing and stuff.
2007-06-28 09:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by *marisa* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋