What are jehovah's witnesses views on relationships with non believers and sex before marriage??

Question

One of my best mates is wanting to get involved with a girl thats a Jehovah's witness, she told him that she can't have a relationship with someone that a non believer, is this true?? does this mean she just cant marry a non believer? what is there view on sex before marriage? anyone know more about this ?

Its just she said that she couldn't get involved yet she was fine getting off with him, he falls in love after about 2 mins and then me and all my other mates help pick up the pieces, i just thought i'd find out the score and warn him if it wont go anywhere.

Oh no !!! i'm really worried about him now, i can see this will end in tears and we are all gonna go through months him being on the verge of suicide. My friend is one of the nicest guys you could ever meet but he falls in love and gives himself completly after literally one kiss.

This is bad news, the sad thing is he's literally only seen this girl for 15 mins in person and the rest is all texting each other but i can tell he's already at the point where he'd convert and start bothering neighbourhoods.

I dont know what to do now!! i'm gonna have to subtley tell him to run as fast as he can the other way and dont look back.....

Answer 1

While Jehovah's Witnesses believe it violates bible principles for a Witness to marry a non-Witness, there is no real "punishment" for doing so.

This question mentions a person who may or may not be an actual baptized Jehovah's Witness, yet even a person who merely claims to be a Jehovah's Witness would tend to insist on a valid marriage before performing sexual acts with a partner.

(1 Corinthians 7:2-3) Because of prevalence of fornication, let each man have his own wife and each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife her due; but let the wife also do likewise to her husband.


It seems that this so-called "question" uses the expression "she was fine getting off with him" in a NON-SEXUAL manner. Specifically, an unmarried Witness would not engage in vaginal, oral, anal, or "assisted masturbation". Any of these sexual activities outside of marriage would be included in the biblical term "fornication", and willing participation in any of these constitutes relinquishing one's virginity in the Scriptural sense (of course, victims of rape and/or abuse have not relinquished their Scriptural virginity; nor does self-stimulatory masturbation).

(2 Corinthians 12:21) Mourn over many of those who formerly sinned but have not repented over their uncleanness and fornication and loose conduct that they have practiced


Even if an ostensible Christian engages in one of these several aspects of fornication (such as by manipulating a partner's genitals), she does well to discontinue such activity and work with mature Christians to regain a godly view of these activities. An insistence on continuing or escalating sexual practices would hardly demonstrate "repentance" such as would allow forgiveness by God and Christ.

(1 John 3:4,8) Everyone who practices sin is also practicing lawlessness, and so sin is lawlessness. ...He who carries on sin originates with the Devil... For this purpose the Son of God was made manifest, namely, to break up the works of the Devil.


True Christians (such as Jehovah's Witnesses) recognize that other expressions of physical love (besides actual fornication) outside of marriage may still constitute sinful "loose conduct" or "uncleanness", and so they seek counsel and encouragement when they stray into these ungodly acts.

(James 5:14-15) Is there anyone [spiritually] sick among you? Let him call the older men of the congregation to him, and let them pray over him, [metaphorically] greasing him with oil in the name of Jehovah. And the prayer of faith will make the [spiritually] indisposed one well, and Jehovah will raise him up. Also, if he has committed sins, it will be forgiven him.


Still, it would seem that even an ostensibly Christian Witness with an incomplete willingness to obey God and Christ may seek to preserve her biblical virginity, and even a sinful Christian may suddenly recognize that he must change his course and return to Christ.

(Ephesians 5:14) Awake, O sleeper, and arise from the [spiritually] dead, and the Christ will shine upon you.

(1 Corinthians 15:34) Wake up to soberness in a righteous way and do not practice sin

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Answer 2

Despite the fact that alot of the responses you have received are not from Jehovahs Witnesses some are on the right track.
Jehovahs Witnesses adhere solely to the Bible for all their beliefs.Marrying someone who is not a Witness is not acceptable to Jehovah.And fornication is a very serious act of immorality and could result in disfellowshiping.
These two sound as though they are quite young?All the more reason for them to keep things from developing too serious,too soon.
I might just add the fact that you say this girl is one of Jehovahs Witnesses does not automatically make her a saint.She too is imperfect and prone to temptation.She herself may not even be baptised and is called a Witness because her parents are.I am not making excuses for her but these things need to be taken into account as well.
The union of these two would be a big mistake for both of them.

Answer 3

Yes, you have to be a Witness before any involvement and sex before marriage is out of the question. If love is that Strong you have the option to join them and be patient with any relationship, Otherwise-forget it!!

Answer 4

JW do not believe in sex before marriage, masturbation, drinking, celebrating any holidays (anniversaries are an exception). If a JW marries a non-JW they can be disfellowshiped from their "kingdom hall." The other option is for the non-JW to convert. My brother married a JW. He eventually converted and gave up all holidays with his two children from a previous marriage. My sister in law got disfellowshiped and almost disowned by her parents. Eventually they "forgave" her once he converted and they started going out "witnessing." That's when they knock on your door on Saturdays. Sadly, she was so overwhelmed by all that happened to her that she committed suicide last year.

Answer 5

I think they're pretty insular, as far as "fraternising" with outsiders goes, if you see what I mean.

Don't think it'll go anyway to be honest, and he cetainly won't get his jollies with her. They have some very strong beliefs and convictions. Nothing wrong with that, but personally, I like to have a bit of personal freedom.

Answer 6

The best person to give advice is the girl herself, and she has already given it, second opinions are not going to change her personal views.

Answer 7

If sex is all he's looking for ("warn him if it wont go anywhere") then he needs to find someone else or convert to JW and marry her.

Answer 8

No sex before marriage. They excommunicate you for that. Almost 100% sure they don't date outside their religion. No scripture to back it up, but from those I've known, they all thought the idea was ludicrious.

Just so you know, "getting off with him" has a different meaning for us than it seems to for you.

Answer 9

honestly she is not being faithful all the way. If she doesn't want marry him but sleeps with him that is not right. no, they will not marry a non believer. no they do not have premarital sex. no they do not have casual sex. so she is not faithful.

Answer 10

their is one way to tell if it will last.
tell a Jehovah Witness that she got off with your bud.
her family and congregation will put their beliefs to her.
if she stays with the congregation and her belief then the relation ship is over , unless he joins.(that a long process)
but if she leaves her belief for your bud ... relation ship.

but stumbling somebody is one major sin in any Christians eyes.not just JW's

can you tell i been there.

sorry to the JW's if missed a little.